Re: Guest may bring a two-month old!!!!!!!

My FSIL just had a baby (my nephew!!!) and she will be bringing him to the wedding and reception becasue he is breast feeding. I don't have a problem with it because I want her there. Honestly I would rather have a 4 month old than a 9 year old running around...

If you want to see this family member I think you should allow the kid. It's a lot to ask to have them drive whatever distance and have one stay @ the hotel with the child...

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I think a 2 month old is fine. really a 2 month old is much less trouble than a 2 Year old!
And they are defitenly too small to leave for a long trip, but the parents shouldn't be punished for having a baby close to yor wedding.

I would hope they wouldn't change the baby at the table,so don't worry about it being stinky.

You can either let them use the bridal suite or the bathrom. I don't see a problem with changing a baby in a rest room. Like the book says, everybody poops. People won't be offended, you see it all the time.

Just the diaper is smelly when it is being removed, but then babies smell all pretty after the baby wipes & baby powder. And not all diapers are poop.

As for breast feeding, ask her if is she going to breast feed & how she would handle this at the wedding. Maybe she didn't think it through. I think letting her use the bridal suite is a good idea though.

My main concern is that it would be too loud for a 2 month old.

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Chances are if the baby is only 2 months old, it will be sleeping or eating most of the night. They are usually pretty quiet.

If the baby cries during the ceremony I would hope she would have enough tact to walk out.

I'd rather have a 2 month old at my wedding then a 2 year old.

You should be happy that she's even willing to make an 8 hour trip with a baby for you!

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Can you find a babysitter near your house that she could leave the baby with for the ceremony and reception?

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OMG! We are having this same argument today on my website. LOL!

Getting back to the couple, if you have ever had a 2 month old, you wouldknow that you would not want to leave him or her for an extended period of time. So my guess is they either bring the kid or they don't go. If you would really like them their, give a pass on the kid. At two months they spend most of their time sleeping and eating anyway. If you don't care if they show up or not, tell them they cannot bring the baby. This will most likely gaurantee them not attending.

On the breastfeeding thing, all I have t say is get over it. It's a boob. There is nothing dirty or nasty or shameful about it. And for those who say breastfeed in the bathroom, why don't you take your dinner into a public bathroom and see how it makes you feel.

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My feeling on the subject (and this is my own personal viewpoint :) is that...like others have said..the two month old will hardly be noticeable. From experience and being at weddings where we always have the kids invited, I can say that the baby will prob sleep the entire time and if by any chance it cried during the ceremony, the parent would walk out with it...or its as easy as popping a bottle it the babies mouth. I have found that its adults that cause the most disturbance...i was at a wedding this past weekend where cell phones went off. I couldnt believe it!

Relax and enjoy your day...believe me when i say you won't even remember a baby being there when all is said and done!

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Girlfriend..this is the post I have been trying to write. I just got invited to a shotgun wedding for one of my BM's.
Well, first words out of mouth, instead of conrgrats were "don't think that the baby is invited to my wedding." I promptly hung up the phone and that was it. I did not invite kids to my wedding because I don't want them there. I don't want someones cute baby sharing in MY day and MY & FH's day ONLY.
You are the bride and you deserve the spotlight..not some 2 month old baby.

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I think that if they wanted to bring the baby they should have asked you first!!!! Not all of a sudden change their mind and just decide to come and bring the baby and tell you about it through your FH after they have made their decision.

Some weddings are very formal events, and if children, including babies, are not invited then people should not assume that they can just bring them. Bottom line is its your party and your decision, whichever it is, should be respected.

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simply put, a reception with loud music is no place for a baby which requires sleep, thats why you are limiting babies and todlers from the wedding

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Posted by MrsKinMay05

Girlfriend..this is the post I have been trying to write. I just got invited to a shotgun wedding for one of my BM's.
Well, first words out of mouth, instead of conrgrats were "don't think that the baby is invited to my wedding." I promptly hung up the phone and that was it.

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Posted by Rainmama

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Posted by MrsKinMay05

Girlfriend..this is the post I have been trying to write. I just got invited to a shotgun wedding for one of my BM's.
Well, first words out of mouth, instead of conrgrats were "don't think that the baby is invited to my wedding." I promptly hung up the phone and that was it.

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I understand you not wanting children at your wedding, but it doesn't sound like you're being a very supportive friend.

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Posted by MrsKinMay05

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Posted by Rainmama

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Posted by MrsKinMay05

Girlfriend..this is the post I have been trying to write. I just got invited to a shotgun wedding for one of my BM's.
Well, first words out of mouth, instead of conrgrats were "don't think that the baby is invited to my wedding." I promptly hung up the phone and that was it.

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I understand you not wanting children at your wedding, but it doesn't sound like you're being a very supportive friend.

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Thank you I needed that. I am being such a baby myself over this. I have the free miles to go but I just don't want to.

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I am in the same boat,,,,,,,,with my FH sister. She has a 3 month old, we aren't having kids at the wedding. She said she has to breast feed every half hour so she cannot come without him. So she's not coming. Not to mention the fact that my wedding will be the first time that FH entire family sees the new baby because they are not on Long Island. I offered my apartment which is in the same town as the reception hall for the baby to stay with a sitter that FH mom was going to provide. She won't budge. I didn't want to start anything with other family members that couldn't bring their kids. We are also having a band there that is loud, I don't think it's any place for a young baby. It's your day...................people need to not give you a hard time about any of your decisions.

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Posted by debbiedee77

I am in the same boat,,,,,,,,with my FH sister. She has a 3 month old, we aren't having kids at the wedding. She said she has to breast feed every half hour so she cannot come without him. So she's not coming. Not to mention the fact that my wedding will be the first time that FH entire family sees the new baby because they are not on Long Island. I offered my apartment which is in the same town as the reception hall for the baby to stay with a sitter that FH mom was going to provide. She won't budge. I didn't want to start anything with other family members that couldn't bring their kids. We are also having a band there that is loud, I don't think it's any place for a young baby. It's your day...................people need to not give you a hard time about any of your decisions.

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My FH told her about us not having kids at the wedding. She kept saying about how her situation is a "special situation". I wouldn't think that a reception from 8-12am with a 8 piece band is good for a 2 month old's ears.

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Posted by debbiedee77

My FH told her about us not having kids at the wedding. She kept saying about how her situation is a "special situation". I wouldn't think that a reception from 8-12am with a 8 piece band is good for a 2 month old's ears.

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Posted by nov04LIbride

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Posted by debbiedee77

My FH told her about us not having kids at the wedding. She kept saying about how her situation is a "special situation". I wouldn't think that a reception from 8-12am with a 8 piece band is good for a 2 month old's ears.

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I hope FH or FMIL will approach her about it. I really don't want to be the one, but at this point if it comes to it I won't feel that guilty about it. I feel like I have been pretty accepting of everything so far, but this has been the one issue I really felt strongly about, and do not want to compromise on.

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Message edited 8/13/2004 7:33:25 AM.

Re: Guest may bring a two-month old!!!!!!!

I have been thinking about this situation again. I am very anti-adults only receptions because I feel weddings are family occassion and children are part of a family.

That being said, while I do not think the aby would be a problem (hoenstly, you'dnever notice him or her), I did realize that the music at receptions are extremely loud and that volume is definitely no good for a child that young. Topped with the fact that you really don't want the kid there, I think it would be best that the couple stay home with their child.

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Posted by debbiedee77

I am in the same boat,,,,,,,,with my FH sister. She has a 3 month old, we aren't having kids at the wedding. She said she has to breast feed every half hour so she cannot come without him. So she's not coming. Not to mention the fact that my wedding will be the first time that FH entire family sees the new baby because they are not on Long Island. I offered my apartment which is in the same town as the reception hall for the baby to stay with a sitter that FH mom was going to provide. She won't budge. I didn't want to start anything with other family members that couldn't bring their kids. We are also having a band there that is loud, I don't think it's any place for a young baby. It's your day.......... people need to not give you a hard time about any of your decisions.

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Re: Guest may bring a two-month old!!!!!!!

I was rececently at a wedding where there were no kids except for one baby (a little over 2 months old) they (mom and baby) sat at my table and she breastfed the baby right there at the table. Now the table was in the corner in the back of the room and not that I was looking but I did glance over a few times (couldn't help) and saw nothing revealing. The mom was so natural and very comfortable about it that I was comfortable about it as well as my FH. At first he was a little freaked but he quickly got over it after seeing the ease in which she breastfed. It did not bother me, my FH, and any other person at the table and she was someone none of us knew before that night. So I think people should give moms credit, they know what they are doing they are not goign to whip it out in the middle of the dance floor with the spotlight on them and show everyone. They will find a descreet place to breastfeed, this just happened to be at the table. She obviously felt us all out beforehand and was able to see that none of us would have had a hard time wiht it. Anyway, just my thought on this.