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I believe the wedding has been called off :(

amy&anthony Posted: Feb 10, 2005 07:35 AM+

amy&anthony MEMBER SINCE: 1/05 TOTAL POSTS : 1093 WEDDING DATE: Jul 10, 2005

Posted: Feb 10, 2005 07:35 AM

I believe the wedding has been called off :(

Well, my FH came in last night, I didnt even get a kiss and he laid down in bed next to me to go to sleep.... I asked him what was wrong as he spilled his guts... He said that I told you I wanted to move in together first... I didnt want to spend so much on a wedding etc!!

Ummm hello... where was I when he was telling me these things.. I think he was thinking them but never told me.. I thought we decided to live with our parents to have a nice wedding and then move out. His exact words were I want what you want, I want you to be happy.. I know you want a big wedding of your dreams.. bla bla bla...

So anyway... After a long discussion.. I may be giving up my deposit at the JT

and we will move in together 3/1 and end up having a smaller wedding somewhere upstate by my lake house :(

I am totally sad.. but I kind of agree about the $$, Im embarrassed b/c the WHOLE world knows the date and the place already.... I just bought a WHOLE BUNCH of save the dates YESTERDAY!! :( SO sad :(

Crismicka Posted: Feb 10, 2005 07:36 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 07:36 AM

Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(

I am so sorry! Maybe you guys can still work things out!

ShelliNMando Posted: Feb 10, 2005 07:42 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 07:42 AM

Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(

Sorry, this must be a really hard time for you. In reality though, I think it will be good for you to live together first. Plus, a wedding near a lake-house sounds very beautiful and intimate - maybe you can even have an outdoor wedding near the lake.

Hope things work out in a way that make you both happy.

CJStein Posted: Feb 10, 2005 07:51 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 07:51 AM

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I'm so sorry. Things will work out for the best you you.

Mishu Posted: Feb 10, 2005 07:53 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 07:53 AM

Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(

is there anyway to compromise ....talk to JT

ask if they will drop your min or something to that effect

newnybride2be Posted: Feb 10, 2005 08:13 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 08:13 AM

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awww I am sorry to hear that it was called off. I am sure things will work out perfectly in the end:)

Mrs_B Posted: Feb 10, 2005 08:16 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 08:16 AM

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soo sorry to hear that. but think about it this way, you arent breaking up, you will still have a wedding, even if it isnt a huge production. you arent losing your FH. i know its easier said than done, but just know we are ALL here for you!!

KimberlyBride Posted: Feb 10, 2005 08:20 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 08:20 AM

Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(

So sorry.

Goldi1021 Posted: Feb 10, 2005 08:20 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 08:20 AM

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HUGS TO YOU!

jpavig Posted: Feb 10, 2005 08:22 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 08:22 AM

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I'm so sorry, but maybe it's for the best. With all the pressure he's been under it may be easier all around. Stay strong.

jantany26 Posted: Feb 10, 2005 08:23 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 08:23 AM

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I'm sorry to hear that but things in the end will work out. Good luck.

Laura1976 Posted: Feb 10, 2005 09:51 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 09:51 AM

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I'm so sorry , I hope everything works out for you

leighdvm Posted: Feb 10, 2005 09:52 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 09:52 AM

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I am so, so sorry to hear that.

Donna&Joe708 Posted: Feb 10, 2005 09:56 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 09:56 AM

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I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope everything works out for the both of you.

bluesashbride Posted: Feb 10, 2005 09:57 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 09:57 AM

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a lot of pressure with the money and wedding planning. at least you guys are talking about the issues and thats whats its all about. i think a nice wedding at a lake sounds wonderful, and the fact he wants to be with you speaks volumes. maybe the new wedding plan will incorporate a little of what you both want, and in the end you'll both feel really good about the decision. i wish the best for you!!!

salsbride06 Posted: Feb 10, 2005 09:59 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 09:59 AM

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i am so sorry to hear that....i hope things work out for you. try to talk things out with fh. maybe you can talk to jericho terrace. maybe they can lower the minimun required or a smaller payment plan.

FrescaBride Posted: Feb 10, 2005 09:59 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 09:59 AM

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Sooo sorry to hear that. I hope that everything works out the best way for both of you.

shamrock12472 Posted: Feb 10, 2005 10:00 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 10:00 AM

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I have a question, if he knows that a big wedding is important to you, why is he trying to get you not to go through with it? Why is living together first so important and a reason to postpone the wedding? I didn't live with my Dh before we got married and I would not have unless there was a MAJOR financial reason to. I don't know why living together would prevent you from having a wedding that you want. Why can't you have both?

littlebookworm4 Posted: Feb 10, 2005 10:03 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 10:03 AM

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I'm so sorry Amy!

Hopefully things can be worked out.

jimmysgrl Posted: Feb 10, 2005 10:05 AM+

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Posted: Feb 10, 2005 10:05 AM

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I'm so sorry that things have changed for your wedding. And try not to feel embarressed about anything, honestly, there are so many amazing, unique things that you can do at a lakeside wedding that makes it completely personal and amazing. Just look at all the martha stewart weddings, she loves that look. All I can give you is a

and hope that it still turns into the wedding of your dreams!