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lanikai
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Member since 3/04 966 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/9/2005 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Verdi's of Westbury
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
Amy I know everything will work out and thre is nothing to be ashamed of. The most important thing is that you will be spending your life with the person who makes you the happiest regardless of where you get married.
Sending lots of hugs your way!
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Posted 2/10/05 6:03 PM 
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gNi1125
Caught my lobster!
Member since 1/05 6243 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/4/2006 1:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Russo's on The Bay
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
Amy, first there is absolutely nothing to be embarassed about. Second I think you and FH really need to get everything out in the open. Obviously, your FH has different dreams than you and I am sure you can both find some middle ground. It sounds like he had this bottled up for a while. Like some of the other girls have said...The wedding is one day. You have found a great guy who loves you and your son and that bond between the both of you should be a priority. I'd also like to say I love the idea of a lakeside wedding. I'm sure everything will work out wishing you all the best and a lot of
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Posted 2/10/05 6:05 PM
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JimmysBride
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Member since 7/03 10135 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/9/2004 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
SandCastle
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
Posted by neesiepie
I agree with what Katrina said, but I also see shamrock's point.
I think you both should discuss this further. You moving in with him THEN having a wedding may be his way of postponing your wedding without actually coming out and saying so. Just make sure you don't move in and then the wedding plans cease all together.....and you become a comon law wife...I have seen this happen before.
Not trying to scare you, just trying to cover all the bases here. I think you need to find out the true REASON behind all this. It's one thing to say he doesn't want a large wedding and wants you to move in first, but you need to know why the sudden change.....especially after booking the hall and ordering the STD'S
Keep us posted on how it goes....
First, I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this. I completely agree with neesiepie. Why is he so insistent on moving in together first? Why is this just coming up now?? Is he possibly getting a little freaked out by the fact that the wedding plans are taking on a life of their own?
It doesn't sound to me like money and an expensive wedding are the only issues at play here. I sense doubt and hesitation in his actions, particularly the wanting to move in together first, after you both had already agreed to live with your respective parents. It's almost like he wants a "trial-run" first. Not that all people who LTBM are up to this, but in this case, it seems to be a potential hidden issue.
I think you guys SHOULD postpone the wedding *planning* for now. That is to say -- don't book anything else, don't plan anything else until you both TALK TALK TALK and communicate what is really going on here. But I wouldn't take your deposit back from JT just yet... but don't send them anymore money either. It appears that there other things affecting his decisions under the surface. It may be some simple insecurities or marriage fears. Whatever the case... I think more communication is needed here before you move in together or change your wedding plans.
Good luck and I wish you the best!
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Posted 2/10/05 6:08 PM
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marc_rai
It's almost JULY!!!! ACK!
Member since 9/04 2368 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/3/2005 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Crest Hollow
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
Posted by JimmysBride
Posted by neesiepie
I agree with what Katrina said, but I also see shamrock's point.
I think you both should discuss this further. You moving in with him THEN having a wedding may be his way of postponing your wedding without actually coming out and saying so. Just make sure you don't move in and then the wedding plans cease all together.....and you become a comon law wife...I have seen this happen before.
Not trying to scare you, just trying to cover all the bases here. I think you need to find out the true REASON behind all this. It's one thing to say he doesn't want a large wedding and wants you to move in first, but you need to know why the sudden change.....especially after booking the hall and ordering the STD'S
Keep us posted on how it goes....
First, I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this. I completely agree with neesiepie. Why is he so insistent on moving in together first? Why is this just coming up now?? Is he possibly getting a little freaked out by the fact that the wedding plans are taking on a life of their own?
It doesn't sound to me like money and an expensive wedding are the only issues at play here. I sense doubt and hesitation in his actions, particularly the wanting to move in together first, after you both had already agreed to live with your respective parents. It's almost like he wants a "trial-run" first. Not that all people who LTBM are up to this, but in this case, it seems to be a potential hidden issue.
I think you guys SHOULD postpone the wedding *planning* for now. That is to say -- don't book anything else, don't plan anything else until you both TALK TALK TALK and communicate what is really going on here. But I wouldn't take your deposit back from JT just yet... but don't send them anymore money either. It appears that there other things affecting his decisions under the surface. It may be some simple insecurities or marriage fears. Whatever the case... I think more communication is needed here before you move in together or change your wedding plans.
Good luck and I wish you the best!
I agree Amy. My first thought was why does he HAVE to live with you right now. I mean I live with my FH, so I don't think there is anything wrong with it, but I'm concerned because you two have agreed to live together (or so you thought). How do you feel about moving in with him? Is this something that you can handle right now with everything else that is going on? Moving in with someone is a big step, not only do you see the person all the time, but you have to get used to each others habits. FH and I have been living together for 2 years and we still are figuring out how to co-exist in our apartment together.
If you still wanted to have the wedding at JT maybe you can cut back on other things. There's always a way to find less expensive vendors. Please think about this all the way through and talk to hime before finalizing your plans.
Rai
PS: There is no reason to be embarrassed. You know how many people wished they could get married lakeside? You wedding will still be a big celebration of love with your family and friends.
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Posted 2/10/05 6:37 PM
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jsb1ot
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Member since 7/04 1387 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/16/2005 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Woodbury Country Club
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Posted 2/10/05 8:19 PM
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chachou22
I am in wedding bliss!!!!!
Member since 10/04 1864 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/31/2005 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Huntington townhouse
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
I am so sorry
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Posted 2/10/05 8:42 PM
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sgusti
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Member since 12/04 384 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/6/2005 1:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Riviera
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
I am so sorry to read about the change in plans. Remember the most important is that two of you are married and you are planning to start a life together. The location is not important it's the people.
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Posted 2/10/05 10:15 PM
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chris605
HOMEOWNER and Loving it.....
Member since 6/03 2235 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/2/2004 3:30 PM
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
I just wanted yo say I was really sorry...
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Posted 2/10/05 10:56 PM
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maybride03
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Member since 11/04 710 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/28/2005 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Raphael Winery
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
I'm really sorry, and I hope the two of you work things out...
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Posted 2/10/05 11:27 PM
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traceyd
2 yrs!!!!!!!!
Member since 11/04 2180 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/4/2005 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Estate at East Wind
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
Amy-I'm so sorry that you are upset but I'm sure that things will work out for the best-the most important thing is you and your love for Anthony-everything else is just details it doesn't matter where you marry the man of your dreams just as long you marry him. Best of luck
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Posted 2/10/05 11:35 PM
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GroomsMom
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Member since 6/03 169 total posts
Wedding Date:
Oct 10 2004
Wed. Location:
NORTH RITZ CLUB
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
What if you changed the day to an afternoon, lowered your minimum, did less expensive extras?
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Posted 2/11/05 5:25 AM
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betty2005
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Member since 2/05 150 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/12/2005 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Swan Club
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
I'm sorry. But, I have to agree with many of the posts--its probably all for the best and a wedding by the lake will be fabulous--Great pictures!!!
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Posted 2/11/05 8:47 AM
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amy&anthony
Gabes 1st modeling job! :)
Member since 1/05 1093 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/10/2005 11:30 PM
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who knows theyre all nice!
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
The Jericho Terrace is already a Sunday Afternoon. Im only paying $60/head but its a 175 mionimum. May family is SO big and SO close and all live in Nassau County, which means EVERYONE will show up ( I know my family) We have a list over 200.
He called me up last night and said he wants me to have our wedding at the JT, but now I dont know what to do...What does he REALLY want?
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Posted 2/11/05 9:05 AM
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GroomsMom
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Member since 6/03 169 total posts
Wedding Date:
Oct 10 2004
Wed. Location:
NORTH RITZ CLUB
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
He might just be getting a little nervous. It is a bit overwelming. Remind him of all the gifts (money) that you would be getting from the wedding. That makes a big difference. I bet he didn't think of it that way. (I know I'm terrible)
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Posted 2/11/05 1:11 PM
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jpavig
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Member since 8/04 749 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/24/2005 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
Posted by amy&anthony
The Jericho Terrace is already a Sunday Afternoon. Im only paying $60/head but its a 175 mionimum. May family is SO big and SO close and all live in Nassau County, which means EVERYONE will show up ( I know my family) We have a list over 200.
He called me up last night and said he wants me to have our wedding at the JT, but now I dont know what to do...What does he REALLY want?
That's something you two need to discuss. He is upset that he hurt your feelings now. Sit him down and flat out ask him what he wants. Then you two can come up with a comprimise.
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Posted 2/11/05 1:30 PM
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Borricuamorena0905
" THE AUDITOR"
Member since 8/04 2304 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/24/2011 7:00 PM
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
Have your wedding, and really try to keep it at 175 or 200 the most.. He wants you to be happy because he said , have it at JT, so I think in turn , u make him happy by limiting the people, so u guys don't spend so much..
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