Serious advice needed re: bridal party

if a bride's BM was constantly talking about her to the other bms and trying to make her look bad (jealous) would you all eventually tell the bride or stay out of it?

I'm a bm (in addition to a bride in my own wedding) and I can't take this one girl who's constantly berating my friend, the bride... but I don't wanna stress her out.

It's been like a year of this already. what do you think?

THANKS!

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OH, AND PS: I've already tried telling the girl to leave us out of it . . .and I've tried telling her to talk to ht ebride herself about the issues... nothing I say works ...

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If I were you I would keep my mouth shut, my big mouth always gets me in trouble!

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you're probably right . . . but it's just so aggravating everyday. . .. and these two are COUSINS!!!!!!

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I wouldn't say anything either. At least wait til after the wedding. The bride has enough stress I'm sure, as we all know.

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I would say it is best not to say anything to the bride. It can only make her day worse and especially if this BM already has been active in the wedding getting dress, etc. Hopefully the BM will wake up one day and realize that she is behaving badly but until then...good luck!

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Do NOT say anything to the bride. -It will just hurt the bride -and there's no need to hurt her feelings if it can be avoided. I had a 'friend' who did the same thing. She was a BM for my friend's wedding and all she did was Constatnly bash the bride and made fun of the wedding. All it did was make the BM look bad. People who talk bad about other people are just miserable with their own lives. Don't tell the bride though. It will just hurt her.

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I want to avoid those situations as much as possible.

I was thinking about asking my cousin to be one of my bridesmaids. But I'm not sure if I should because she's spoiled. She's very disagreeable and loves to talk about people behind their backs.

I would suggest if you're in the middle of this, to just stay out of it; you don't want to cause any additional misunderstandings...

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I wouldn't say anything.

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Posted by danielleb

Do NOT say anything to the bride. -It will just hurt the bride -and there's no need to hurt her feelings if it can be avoided. . . . People who talk bad about other people are just miserable with their own lives. Don't tell the bride though. It will just hurt her.

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I totally agree. If you're looking for a way to shut this girl up, I sometimes find total, complete silence in response to her remark, along with a blank stare, might help. Usually, I want to respond back, and if I were you, I would be, defending my friend. But, I've found that if people don't get anything from you, they usually shut up. She's just looking for a reaction - don't give one and maybe she'll get the hint.

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I would probably not say anything. It's even worse when it's your own family! Nice person she is!