Honeymoon registry - yes or no?

I'm trying to get a sense on how people would respond to this. So far, a couple of friends I've talked with think it's a great idea, but my parents thought it sounded tacky. This would be in addition to a regular registry, so people would have plenty of options.

Personally, I think it makes a lot of sense, especially if you don't need a lot of household items. But maybe it seems weird because it's not too common yet?

Has anyone done a honeymoon registry and gotten feedback from guests?

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I think it is a great idea...my FH is kind of on the fence about it. So we chose not to do it because both sets of parents thought it was a bit obnoxious. But then again, if you look at it from the point of view you mentioned, "it isn't common yet, " then it is a good idea. I'm sure that at first, people thought the idea of registering at any store for gifts was tacky...now look how common it is!

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i personally love this idea, and want to register for all kinds of fun honeymoon activities. UNFORTUNATELY, i have been made to feel like this is a horrible idea by just about everyone else - my family, fh, etc...i guess they all think it's tacky and cheap, etc...but seriously what's the difference betweeen that and asking for a blender?? I'd prefer a horseback ride or dinner on the beach in Aruba!! oh well...

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I did it, and have received $150 towards it already!

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Posted by Backinneyork

I did it, and have received $150 towards it already!

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I think it would be a good idea. How do you get a HM registry though????

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hi,

I would say it depends on the type of people you are inviting...my friend did this and she hardly got any $$ towards it. everyone was complaining to parents...BUT these were the middle-aged older crowd...the younger people were the ones who contributed.

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i brought it up to my parents who thought it was a terrible/awful idea, even some friends said, if you cant afford the vacation Dont go...
but if you have open minded people , probably the younger generation it would be a good idea!

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Yes, we are doing one along w/ a few traditional registries so the guests have the option of the type of gift they want to give us.

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I'm one of those dissenting opinions

While I can understand the practicality of a honeymoon registry, I still think it's a little tacky. I don't know exactly what about turns me off, but it does. Sorry, JMHO.

If people want to give you money (as an engagement, shower, or wedding gift) than they will. You could always register some place where they give you back cash when you return things (bed, bath and beyond).

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I think registries like honeymoon and now I heard of a mortgage registry will eventually catch on but right now I hear a lot of negative thoughts on them, but when regular gift registries were started people frowned on them as well.

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I think it will become more commonplace. More and more couples are living together before they get married and have the things they need for the house already.

I am not doing it though, I still have a lot I need. Also, how fun is a shower with no actual gifts to open?

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I think this is a great idea.
Me and FH have been living together for 4 years already and really dont need many house hoold items other then fine china and maybe new linens.

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We were going to do this, but decided against it for a couple of reasons... We checked into Big Day.com. We live together and have for a few years now...before that we were both on our own...so we have plenty of "stuff". We liked the idea of the honeymoon registry because we're paying for everything 100% and could not afford a honeymoon. Then time passed. When I seriously started to look into it I was a little disappointed. First...there is a lot of work involved. You have to create another website, add pics, estimated costs...this was just something we don't have time for anymore...especially being we didn't know the area 100%. Then as you start reading more about it...you do not get the full amount. This just doesn't come for free ya know... Money gets sent to Big Day and they take their percentage out of it. I believe it's 10%. There were other drawbacks, but I cannot think of them all right now. We ended up registering at the normal BB&B & Fortunoff...we ended up finding we actually needed some more house "things" and wanted to either upgrade what we had or get things we would never buy for ourselves.

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My cousin did this recently and at first i was like 'hmmm' but it actually worked out really well. they kinda lived together before so they had a lot already and she got a lot of gift certificates @ her shower for the honeymoon. And as bridesmaids (there were 9 of us) we all pitched it in got her a nice chunk of change towards it as well!

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We had a wedding shower recently where the only thing the bride registered for was for the Honeymoon.
It was truly done in the tackiest way!
The shower was a "Spain Shower" since the bride wanted to go to Spain, and they actually sent out money donation envelopes with the shower invites!! You were required to write a check to the travel agent.
THEN her obnoxious mom opened all the envelopes and saw how much everyone donated to the HM-- and commented on how much everyone was giving.
I was very uncomfortable with this. It was like a telethon!

ETA- OK I should say that if it is done tastefully... then it is OK but this girl was ridiculous.

Message edited 8/4/2005 10:02:10 AM.

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Posted by megandj

I think it would be a good idea. How do you get a HM registry though????

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I am not a fan. I think the idea of a bridal shower and a registry traditionally was to give the couple things to set up a home. Personally, if the couple didn't have a registry and didn't need much, I would rather give them a check and then they can spend it however they want. If they want to put it towards a honeymoon, great. I just feel like I am giving them a wedding gift, not paying for the HM. JMO.

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I think it's a great idea especially for those couples that already live together and therefore don't need so many household items.

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I did the HM registry through my travel agent, and registered for gifts - that way no one felt pressured to donate to my honeymoon. I guess my family is more practical b/c everyone really seems to like the idea that they can give us a round of golf or massages during our honeymoon. It really makes them feel like they are contributing to improving our honeymoon. I don't really see the controversy, I know, as a gift-giver, I'd feel great about contributing to a honeymoon, but not so great about handing a woman mixing bowls or something no so exciting.

By coordinating it through my travel agent, we avoiding paying fees that other HM registries charge.

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we didnt do this, but I think its a good idea especially if you dont want a ton of household items at your shower either.

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Thanks for all the input. It's funny - I thought it was a pretty good idea but when my parents in the midwest thought it sounded tacky... I really started to rethink it, considering that people around here are probably 10 times more, um, "opinionated."

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if you look at my profile pic you'll see my FH - when he saw mine he wanted me to put him up too