Advice Needed for Shower Guest list...

Okay, so I am preparing the shower guest list for my MOHs. I had taken off the OOT friends/family who attended my Shower in Dec (at my mom's in Illinois), now I have locals on the list. My question is, so I keep on the girlfriends/wives of my FH's friends, who I have met 1 or 2 times?

The tough part is there are a few of them that are in the same circle of friends and will know if 1 was invited to the shower and the other wasn't.

At the same time, I don't want them to get the invite and say 'Who the F is this?'

I had thought of having FH be in contact w/ MOHs regarding the shower, so he can give the guys a heads up for their wives/girlfriends. Is that cheesy?

TIA!!

-Jill

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yes, i think you need to invite those girls out of courtesey...especially if their men are in your bridal party.

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yes they should be invited. I had it happen the other way around here. My FH was in 3 weddings in one year and we had been together 2 years or so. Well I wasn't invited to their showers and I was not happy about it. Needless to say their wedding day gifts were up to me and I gave them the same treatement. No big gifts were given' - so treat those ladies the way you would like to be treated.

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Sorry, I disagree. I don't think you need to invite them, especially since you barely know them. Showers are for close family and friends, I would not invite someone I only met once or twice, but that's just my opinion.

How close are these friends to your FH? Have you spoken to him about it? If you had room to spare and it's not an extra burden or breaking the budget for those throwing the shower, then it would be a nice gesture to invite them, but I don't think you need to invite them as you are not close. Again, just IMO.

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Half of FH's BP is from OOT, but I plan on including the wives of the two guys that are in NY on my shower invite list. (and one of those women I'm not really crazy about)

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I did not include the wives/gf's of FH's friends on my shower list. While I have met them a few times over the years and I like them, I did not feel it was necessary to invite them. I don't follow the whole 'if she's invited to the wedding, she should be invited to the shower' rule.

Besides, my shower guest list was already pretty high with my family, FH's family, my friends, and our Mom's friends.

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Thanks for all your input. Inviting them does not cause overkill on the guest list. As it stands, the list is at76, of which 12 are questionable. I will be talking with FH for his take on it, and leave it up the him and the hostesses of the shower.

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i'm going to say 'no.' for my shower, the wifes/gf's of my fh's friends are not going to be invited. a - b/c i never really met them and b - they most likely would not come and they would not be offended if they are not invited.