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AllJoy
Married 1 year-~
Member since 6/06 5857 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/2/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Long Island
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E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
Yesterday we had our E party. We had to keep the guest list small, cause our friends hosted at their house and the yard is small and if it rained, space is limited inside. Ok, I have a 1st cousin, that I rarely see (just on holidays and sometimes I get invited to his kid's parties). I didn't invite this cousin, cause he's a rude person, makes racial comments, makes comments about people being overweight to their face, etc. Meanwhile, everyone says, he's just joking. However, my brother lives around the block from him and is at his house almost everyday. So yesterday, my brother brings a gift from this cousin to our e-party. It was something from our registry. It was obviously all the wife's doing, cause he's a man and wouldn't think of all that. I feel terrible now. Do you think I should call the wife and tell her that we had to keep it small? Or should I just send a thank you card and leave it at that.
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Posted 9/10/06 8:58 AM 
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mrsh2b
Getting closer!
Member since 1/06 1550 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/10/2007 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
booked
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
Just send a thank you. I wouldn't worry about it.
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Posted 9/10/06 9:05 AM
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DC2
Board Enthusiast
Member since 8/05 246 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/21/2006 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
The Estate at East Wind
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
Just send a thank you card.
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Posted 9/10/06 9:09 AM
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AllJoy
Married 1 year-~
Member since 6/06 5857 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/2/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Long Island
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
Thanks Ladies!!!
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Posted 9/10/06 9:11 AM
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beaviss80
knOw yOur RoLe !
Member since 11/05 1584 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/1/2006 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Bridgeview Yacht Club
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
Posted by DC2
Just send a thank you card.
yup!
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Posted 9/10/06 10:13 AM
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JIFFY
DO I AMUSE YOU?
Member since 5/06 6040 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/14/2007 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Bridgeview Yacht Club
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
I'm so glad you had a good time Joyce! Don't sweat it babe! Send a thank you note.
This is where me and the world clash. I don't get offended or hurt by these things. I'm not invited so i'm not invited. Big deal. I sent a gift, hope the person has a good time, and that's that. I know people stew over this stuff. Life's too short to care about things like that!
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Posted 9/10/06 10:33 AM
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LandsEnd06
One year down!
Member since 7/06 1996 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/21/2006 11:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Lands End
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
Don't worry about not inviting the person! Just send a thank you for the gift. No biggie.
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Posted 9/10/06 11:22 AM
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ellebelle1
Board Fanatic
Member since 12/05 907 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/13/2006 12:00 AM
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
A lot of people send engagement gifts, regardless of whether there is a party.
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Posted 9/10/06 11:33 AM
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tricia3381
i love being a Mrs.!!!
Member since 7/06 5404 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/19/2007 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Woodbury Country Club- excellent!!
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
i had that happen to me. the gift came from someone who we barely knew, but saw at family functions since this person is the sister in law of one of fh's aunt's. we didnt' even think to invite her. i just sent her a nice thank you card. oh wait i think i forget to send her one???? let me go do that now. thanks for the reminder.
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Posted 9/10/06 11:39 AM
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Keywi231
Lovin the married life!!
Member since 1/06 1726 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/14/2006 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Brentwood Country Club
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
Just send a Thank you
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Posted 9/10/06 11:41 AM
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betani
i'm married!!
Member since 8/06 1667 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/5/2008 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
the irish coffee pub
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
send a thank you. if he asks, then explain about keeping the guest list small and it was nothing personal. don't sweat it though.
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Posted 9/10/06 3:05 PM
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NY031978
And my other Love of my Life!!
Member since 12/05 5439 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/5/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Watermill
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
id just sent the card.....if you see them soon and it gets brought up you can explain at that time!
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Posted 9/10/06 3:51 PM
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Tiggeruth
Happy :-)
Member since 12/05 2578 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/6/2007 3:00 PM
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Crest Hollow :)
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
just send a thank you card and leave it at that
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Posted 9/10/06 4:30 PM
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SoonToBeMrs.L
Board Fanatic
Member since 12/05 829 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/15/2007 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Booked!
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
Just send them a thank you card. Don't feel bad about not inviting them either.
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Posted 9/10/06 4:46 PM
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luvabul
In Love With . . .
Member since 7/06 6166 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/4/2007 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Leonard's of Great Neck
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
send a thank u card , and thats it!
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Posted 9/10/06 5:45 PM
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Tracyann1976
Baby on the way...
Member since 5/06 1254 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/14/2006 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Booked
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
I had a similar situation from my bridal shower... I just sent a nice thank you note.
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Posted 9/10/06 6:12 PM
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nycgirl79
One year already!!?!
Member since 6/06 4560 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/10/2007 7:30 PM
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Woodbury Country Club - A+++
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
A thank you card is fine!
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Posted 9/10/06 7:13 PM
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snydl40
Joey'sbridetobe
Member since 3/06 9196 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/7/2007 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Old field Club
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
We had a few people who sent presents that weren't invited-we tried to keep it small with 75 people-we just sent thank yous.
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Posted 9/11/06 12:52 AM
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iffy
Board Fanatic
Member since 3/06 677 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/24/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Milleridge Cottage
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
Posted by LandsEnd06
Don't worry about not inviting the person! Just send a thank you for the gift. No biggie.
yup - what she said!
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Posted 9/11/06 1:17 AM
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AllJoy
Married 1 year-~
Member since 6/06 5857 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/2/2007 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Long Island
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
thanks everyone for the replies. now I feel better.
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Posted 9/12/06 3:41 PM
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MalteseMommy
I am FINALLY Mrs. N!!!
Member since 1/06 2505 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/7/2007 7:00 PM
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
I would just send the thank you card.
Message edited 9/12/2006 3:44:01 PM.
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Posted 9/12/06 3:43 PM
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reenielady
Happiness is Bliss
Member since 12/05 1117 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/28/2006 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Woodbury Country Club
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
I would call and say thank you in addition to mailing the thank you note.
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Posted 9/12/06 4:16 PM
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waterspout4
I gave birth to a todddler
Member since 9/04 4781 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/1/2006 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Mediterranean Manor A++++++++++
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Re: E-party gift from univited guest. I feel terrible.
We got gifts from those not invited. We thanked them with a card.
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Posted 9/12/06 4:18 PM
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