Did anyone lose friends after their wedding?

I have to say that there are a few friendships that will be ending once this wedding is over with. I won't let them know that it is in so many words, but I will no longer go all out for certain individuals. It's amazing how at a time that is supposed to be the happiest in your life, you see who are/aren't your real friends. I sure have alot of acquaintances..but very few 'friends'. I have had very few real friends help me with this wedding and others who just laid back and did nothing but complain the ENTIRE time...including a member of the bridal party. Even at my shower..this girl came empty handed...no card or anything (along with a few others)..and even went so far as to criticize that I am having a big wedding, how they felt it was a waste of money. (Mind you the person who said this was married before and had a BIG wedding). A member of my bridal party criticized the fact that the girls (bridal party) took me on a cruise for my bachelorette party and how they went all out for me and how they couldn't afford that. Ok ..so you couldn't afford it..do you hear me criticizing them? NO! Then this same person complained about how expensive the dresses were. I mean honestly..it was HER choice to be in a wedding..I didn't FORCE it..so why complain now..that we are 4 weeks away? Mind you I gave her and anyone else the option to not be in it..if it was too pricey for them. It amazes me how rude and insensitive people can be. Discussing things like this at a shower.....unreal. I can ONLY imagine what will be said at the wedding.

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Planning this wedding has really put things into perspective for me. Life is too short to waste your time worrying about people who are selfish. I now know who I can depend on and who I can't. Sometimes it's timing, sometimes its jelousy and sometimes it's just who they are. Fortunately it's there loss. I can't wait to enjoy my wedding with those who truly love me and the others - well they are lucky to be along for the ride!

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I agree-there are a few people who show the true sides of themselves when something like this is going on. I won't ever say anthing but I will know not to go all out on them.

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my mom says people show their true colors at funerals and weddings...its so true

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my mom says people show their true colors at funerals and weddings...its so true That is so true my mom says the same thing!

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Posted by maria5-6-05

Planning this wedding has really put things into perspective for me. Life is too short to waste your time worrying about people who are selfish. I now know who I can depend on and who I can't. Sometimes it's timing, sometimes its jelousy and sometimes it's just who they are. Fortunately it's there loss. I can't wait to enjoy my wedding with those who truly love me and the others - well they are lucky to be along for the ride!

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totally agree with this whole statment. I lost one of my bms a few months after my wedding and a few months before her own. I dont know exactly what her problem was. but it was her decison to break off our friendship the way she did. If that is what she wanted so be it.

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I lost some before the wedding. You really learn who your friends are. 2 of my BM dropped out in the weeks leading up to the wedding. And 1 even wanted me to send her dress back to the manufacturer for a refund. Suuuure. Buh-bye.

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My sister in law showed her true colors during the planning and the day of. She didn't come to my shower, my bachelorette party, nor contribute to either. Keep in mind, she is married to a very famous plastic surgeon. So money is not an issue. She didn't want to spend time with me the morning of getting ready, so she opted to show up at 3, dressed for pictures. She drank herself silly before the ceremony, then left after salad was served at the reception.

This is family!!! So yes, I see where you are coming from. One of my bm's has not seen me since the wedding! So, unfortunately it is true when they say true colors do come out....so sad...

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Of my friends - no. Of DH's friend- I think he might have lost the BM. The guy, who he has been friends with since they were little kids, and then were roomates for 4 years until we got married. Then the wedding comes, and poof, they never talk to each other again. Whats up with that?

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you definitely realize who your real friends are when you are planning a wedding! i kicked out a BM because she was always negative and NEVER returned my calls! she was just jealous that i was getting married before her, but REAL friends are supposed to be happy for you! she emailed me a few weeks before my wedding to say hi but i never emailed her back. i dont need negative people in my life! she took another one of our 'friends' with her but i say good riddance!

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Posted by alnem

you definitely realize who your real friends are when you are planning a wedding! i kicked out a BM because she was always negative and NEVER returned my calls! she was just jealous that i was getting married before her, but REAL friends are supposed to be happy for you! she emailed me a few weeks before my wedding to say hi but i never emailed her back. i dont need negative people in my life! she took another one of our 'friends' with her but i say good riddance!

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exactly...
you DO realize who your REAL friends are.
I definitely have!!

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WOW!!! That is exactly how I have been feeling execpt I got this from almost every girl in my bp. I htink there is some level of jelously that goes on when someone gets married...that has been my only explanation as to why my so called friends behave the way they do.

I'm sorry you are having to go through with this but like you said at least you got to find out who your REAL friends are.

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You will find our who your true friends are....

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Not yet but I did drop a close friend after HER wedding. Too much drama. I had enough of it.