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JTsGal829
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Member since 6/06 6358 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/7/2008 3:00 PM
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
I'm so sorry you're dealing with this! I would def say something to them... it's really uncool that you helped plan theirs and now that it's your time they aren't putting in the effort. You shouldn't accept an offer to be in a bridal party if you don't plan on doing the work!! i hope it all works out.. go out with your friend from work and have a ball and make sure they know it!!!! Hugs for u! 
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Posted 4/4/08 1:11 PM 
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carolinebr
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6/2/2007 12:00 PM
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
I didn't get a bachelorette party either. All my BMs are married and have kids & live far away, etc... I went to all of their shower, bachelorette parties, RDs, weddings, was a BM, went to their baby's showers, etc... and when it was FINALLY my turn ... NOTHING!
I was so disappointed and heartbroken. I completely understand how you feel.
Message edited 4/4/2008 3:35:51 PM.
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Posted 4/4/08 3:34 PM
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DD628
DD is now DB
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Wedding Date:
6/28/2008 12:00 AM
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Leonard's
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
i think they are going to surprise you.
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Posted 4/4/08 3:34 PM
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kabo0831
Almost paid off!!!!
Member since 5/07 8036 total posts
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5/24/2009 3:00 PM
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
maybe they are suprising you with something
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Posted 4/4/08 3:35 PM
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NapaValleyGirl
We're married now!
Member since 5/07 4308 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/20/2008 3:00 PM
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
yeah, i have a similar situation! Let's all meet out and have our own bparty!
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Posted 4/4/08 3:41 PM
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boky17
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Wedding Date:
4/26/2008 12:00 AM
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Stewart Manor Country Club
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
awwww im sorry.
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Posted 4/4/08 3:45 PM
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zoe282
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 8/07 2572 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/14/2008 3:00 PM
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Hotel Bethlehem Pennsylvania
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
I just don't think you should let them get away with that. I think feeling sad in silence isn't going to help at all. If you don't tell them how you feel then how will they truly know that what they are doing is hurting you? It's such a girl thing to do this (i do it al the time to FH) to sulk and hope they figure it out. But maybe they aren't going to so you should tell them. if anything make them feel bad about themselves..lol....or on the other hand if they have something awsome planned then at least you will know
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Posted 4/4/08 3:46 PM
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jessnstu08
Loving my DH more each day
Member since 1/08 2381 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/13/2008 7:30 PM
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
How quickly people forget when it is not their turn for something that they had themselves .
I would def say something to them about being disappointed because it really is not fair !
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Posted 4/4/08 3:49 PM
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colleen1117
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Wedding Date:
10/17/2008 5:00 PM
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
Posted by shoegal68
i highly doubt it. basically 2 more weekends left until my wedding. i haven't picked up any hints at all.. all i get is "there isn't enough time in the day" or "wait until you have kids"
thanks anyway...
I'm sorry you are so bummed - but i agree - they have to be planning a surprise. honestly, with it being this close i would just call up your MOH and ask the question.
just say - I don't want to spoil anything you may have planned, but we're 3 weeks away and I'm just wondering if you were planning any sort of Bachelorette thing?' just tell her you want to be sure you have a clear vision of your schedule leading up to it so you wanted to double check.
and if there ISNT a bachelorette - i say we have it LIWeddings style!!!! we'll all take you out. Actually - thats not a bad idea- we should have an '08er bachelorette night!
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Posted 4/4/08 3:55 PM
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Bride908
FINALLY A MRS. !!!
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9/6/2008 1:00 PM
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
awww...you are not being selfish at all. If your girls really are doing a bachlorette party that is selfish on the their part. Maybe its a suprise?? What about your MOH....maybe she is planning something??
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Posted 4/4/08 4:03 PM
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irishgrl1017
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7/11/2008 3:00 PM
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Swan Club
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
I am thinking its a surprise...and if not, like you said it will be an eye openeer!
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Posted 4/4/08 4:11 PM
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MN06
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
Say something ! sometimes its better to be upfront about this stuff ? some people are just clueless and selfish so you have to make it clear for them that you want a b-party
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Posted 4/4/08 4:18 PM
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Fall Bride 2008
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10/19/2008 2:00 PM
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
you still have some time left i hope they come through for ya
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Posted 4/4/08 4:22 PM
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SparkyandAng
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Wedding Date:
10/24/2008 5:30 PM
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Swan Club-Camelot room A+++++++++
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
I hope they are planning something and just haven't told you yet. I do know how you feel though.
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Posted 4/4/08 4:42 PM
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SoonToBeMrsScott
I Had The Time Of My Life
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Wedding Date:
7/2/2008 5:00 PM
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Westbury Manor
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
maybe its a surprise
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Posted 4/4/08 4:45 PM
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pameladhd
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
Posted by kristin597
Posted by shoegal68
i highly doubt it. basically 2 more weekends left until my wedding. i haven't picked up any hints at all.. all i get is "there isn't enough time in the day" or "wait until you have kids"
thanks anyway...
Im sorry but thats not an acceptable excuse. They could take you out to dinner or even lunch when their kids are in school. Hire a babysitter or get the fathers to watch the kids, but to do nothing is really not right. I say go out with the friend from work and have a great time!
I agree. I have a child. All my girlfriends have children. We still manage to go out and do things. I hate when people use their kids as an excuse. Your child is not standing there with a little clipboard making your schedule, lol. You are the adult. You dictate what goes on and what is scheduled. Get a babysitter, geez. It is not that hard. I feel like some people are just lazy.
I would call whomever you are closest to out of your group and confide in them. Tell that that you are sad that it is FH's bachelor party weekend and you feel like no one is planning anything for you. See what they say.
I hope they are planning something for you as a suprise since it seems like you were very thoughtful about theirs! Good luck!
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Posted 4/4/08 4:51 PM
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BunnyBears
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Member since 1/07 1051 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/8/2008 5:30 PM
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
i am not gettign one either :o/
my moh cant even make my shower
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Posted 4/4/08 5:42 PM
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kBr
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2/23/2008 3:00 PM
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
i feel your pain.. nobody planned anything for me either. but hey, theres still time for you, maybe theyre surprising you. i really hope so, cuz i know how much it hurts.
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Posted 4/4/08 6:06 PM
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Kerin2804
Married !!
Member since 12/07 2749 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/27/2008 6:15 PM
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
I am sorry. Perhaps there is something in the works. Have you ever mentioned wanting a bp to any of your girlfriends ?
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Posted 4/4/08 6:31 PM
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chrispar
Loving married life!
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8/1/2008 6:30 PM
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
AWWWW I am so sorry. I am sure you are so upset. I really hope they do something for you
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Posted 4/4/08 6:40 PM
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FutureMrsCarrieri
Mrs. Carrieri here :)
Member since 7/07 2404 total posts
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9/27/2008 11:30 AM
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
there's still time
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Posted 4/4/08 6:45 PM
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shoegal68
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
thanks for all your advice & kind words. i am not going to lie i am bummed. we'll see... i really doubt its a surprise. i will say something to them after the wedding. right now i have too much on my plate. do you believe with one of the girls i was the only BM that showed up for her bachelorette party the rest of the BP bailed  thats what kind of got up me all worked up today.
i will get over it & refuse to sulk. I plan on going out with my friends from work & having a great time 
My MOH is a joke (long story). i am off the week before & she already has my week planned. like cleaning my mother's home, picking up & entertaining out of town guests etc. um excuse me.. can she pitch a little Besides the shower she has done ZIPPO with helping me plan my wedding...my friends know the situation with my MOH. i feel they could have taken the initiative & planned something small.
thanks again girls.. you are the best 
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Posted 4/4/08 6:57 PM
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Soon-to-be-Moore
Let It Go
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
I'm going to be the same way --- I'm the oldest of all of my friends and the last to get married... MOH is having her first in aug and two other BMs are trying to get pregnant as we speak... I always feel silly because i somewhat resent that they had everyone's attention and effort during their planning and sometimes i feel like my wedding is a nuisance to their busy already married lives
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Posted 4/4/08 7:40 PM
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roan126
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5/4/2008 12:00 PM
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
Posted by pameladhd
Posted by kristin597
Posted by shoegal68
i highly doubt it. basically 2 more weekends left until my wedding. i haven't picked up any hints at all.. all i get is "there isn't enough time in the day" or "wait until you have kids"
thanks anyway...
Im sorry but thats not an acceptable excuse. They could take you out to dinner or even lunch when their kids are in school. Hire a babysitter or get the fathers to watch the kids, but to do nothing is really not right. I say go out with the friend from work and have a great time!
I agree. I have a child. All my girlfriends have children. We still manage to go out and do things. I hate when people use their kids as an excuse. Your child is not standing there with a little clipboard making your schedule, lol. You are the adult. You dictate what goes on and what is scheduled. Get a babysitter, geez. It is not that hard. I feel like some people are just lazy.
I would call whomever you are closest to out of your group and confide in them. Tell that that you are sad that it is FH's bachelor party weekend and you feel like no one is planning anything for you. See what they say.
I hope they are planning something for you as a suprise since it seems like you were very
thoughtful about theirs! Good luck!
I totally agree with this. I really think its a question of priorities. My sister has 4 kids and always seems to be able to make time for things she feels are important. A friend of mine had 2 sick kids that she had to take the to the doctor on Sunday morning, plus a whole bunch of other things go wrong, and she still found time to make it to my shower.
Im sorry- I responded to your post earlier, but I was thinking about it on the way home from work and was getting so angry for you.....
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Posted 4/4/08 8:53 PM
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kats143u
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9/6/2008 4:00 PM
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Re: i guess no bachelorette party for me
Awww honey I am so sorry, thats so upsetting to go out of your way becuase you truly care and then its totally not considered or remembered  LLets have a LIW get to gether and celebrate, we can throw a hell of a happy hour 
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Posted 4/4/08 8:56 PM
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