| Posted By |
Message |
| Pages: [1] 2 |
RachelisEngaged
Board Fanatic
Member since 4/05 319 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/10/2006 8:00 PM
Wed. Location:
NYC
|
I hate my FH today!
My FH usually uses the bathroom with his laptop. (Sorry to be gross). He loves doing research, and reading online football stuff. Anyways, I go into the bathroom (he leaves the door open) and I see that he is looking at porn!!!!! I freaked out, and made him sleep on the couch. While I know looking at porn is normal for guys, it just made me so angry!!!! I feel like he's cheating (I know it's dramatic) It just concerns me that maybe he finds those women more desirable, or that maybe I'm not enough for him and he will start looking outside our relationship for sex. I'm freaking out! and I cant stand him today!
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:08 PM 
|
| |
|
SIBride06
Member since 4/05 7318 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/26/2006 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
Ouch!! 
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:09 PM
|
| |
|
Mrs. Powell
DH Sure Knows How to spoil Me
Member since 10/05 3105 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/4/2005 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
Hey honey, it's a guy thing they can't help themselves. I would not worry over it I would only become worried if there is an addiction. Some men can become addicted to porn and that can be a super huge problem. As long as he is not addicted then do not worry about it.
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:11 PM
|
| |
|
mark'smama
Board Fanatic
Member since 12/04 890 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/27/2007 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
DONE
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:11 PM
|
| |
|
beatle06
I love my husband!!
Member since 2/05 1305 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/28/2006 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
I understand where you are coming from and think you have every right to be angry. WIsh there was something more I could say.. 
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:12 PM
|
| |
|
Mystere
I'm married!!!
Member since 3/05 1917 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/11/2006 10:30 AM
Wed. Location:
The Sand Castle
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
I wish i could say something to make it all better - but I would feel the same way if I were you. I know it shouldnt be a concern and that its "normal" but it would hurt me too. I'm sorry!!
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:17 PM
|
| |
|
EmberLynn
Keeping it real!
Member since 11/03 3597 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/6/2006 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
Okay let me tell you about my FH and I. My FH has porn on his phone. Which I don't mind, I actaully enjoy a dirty movie or pic myself every now and then. Well he gets mad every time I take his phone and check out his porn. I do it because it ruffals his feathers a bit. Well I confronted him, with why the big secret with the porn? I know its there, I can get to it easly even with his password block. And he told me, its more fun when you have to hide it. It had nothing to do with how I looked or am in bed, its just part of the excitment of hiding it and looking at as a rebel. He had to hide it from his parents, when he lived at home and he likes to hide it from me. LOL So its some game apparently a lot of guys like to play. I say let them.
My FH goes to strip clubs and has his porn, big deal. Hes comming to me in our bed and thats what matters.
I don't think your FH feels that your poor in bed, or would take those girls over you. He just likes to get the thrill out of doing something a little naughty. Heck isn't that why we all like porn, or lace panties, or lingera? Its naughty, its private and its often a secret. Heck this is the first time I've seen this topic on here.
Really don't worry about it. Your fine, hes marrying you! He bought you a big expensive ring, he is living with you, he is ready to totally commit his life to you! Unless he is sendy some naked chick on the internet roses and diamonds, I would say you have NOTHING to worry about. Try to relax, your beautiful, happy, smart and a good person. Most of those girls online aren't even real. He knows this, and that is why he is with you. Your the real thing, his real love. Please make up. I hate to see couples breaking splitting over such things.
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:19 PM
|
| |
|
roxyspark
Good times!!
Member since 8/05 1334 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/17/2006 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Milleridge Cottage
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
Maybe the reason he hides it from you is because he knows you will react this way.
Men are stimulated visually, and a lot of men look at porn in different ways (websites, magazines, strip clubs). It is a billion dollar industry.
For some men, love and sex don't mix. For them, love is reserved for 'good' women, and sex is reserved for 'bad' women. These girls that they look at are the "bad" women.
You can either ignore it and let him do it in private away from you or talk to him about it.
Good luck.
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:19 PM
|
| |
|
Deedlebug126
I love my little girl
Member since 4/05 1264 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/29/2006 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Larkfield Manor A++++++++
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
FH and I have had so many fights over the years, about porn. I get so angry, even though I know its normal, I feel rejected.
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:21 PM
|
| |
|
SIBride06
Member since 4/05 7318 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/26/2006 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
Posted by EmberLynn
Okay let me tell you about my FH and I. My FH has porn on his phone. Which I don't mind, I actaully enjoy a dirty movie or pic myself every now and then. Well he gets mad every time I take his phone and check out his porn. I do it because it ruffals his feathers a bit. Well I confronted him, with why the big secret with the porn? I know its there, I can get to it easly even with his password block. And he told me, its more fun when you have to hide it. It had nothing to do with how I looked or am in bed, its just part of the excitment of hiding it and looking at as a rebel. He had to hide it from his parents, when he lived at home and he likes to hide it from me. LOL So its some game apparently a lot of guys like to play. I say let them.
My FH goes to strip clubs and has his porn, big deal. Hes comming to me in our bed and thats what matters.
I don't think your FH feels that your poor in bed, or would take those girls over you. He just likes to get the thrill out of doing something a little naughty. Heck isn't that why we all like porn, or lace panties, or lingera? Its naughty, its private and its often a secret. Heck this is the first time I've seen this topic on here.
Really don't worry about it. Your fine, hes marrying you! He bought you a big expensive ring, he is living with you, he is ready to totally commit his life to you! Unless he is sendy some naked chick on the internet roses and diamonds, I would say you have NOTHING to worry about. Try to relax, your beautiful, happy, smart and a good person. Most of those girls online aren't even real. He knows this, and that is why he is with you. Your the real thing, his real love. Please make up. I hate to see couples breaking splitting over such things.
Bonnie.. Im quite impressed!!!!
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:21 PM
|
| |
|
JanuaryBride06
Board Princess
Member since 4/05 13019 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/1/1995 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
I'm going to be graphic and honest:
I don't think that you have cause for concern. Married guys watch porn and they masturbate - it's just fact. And I'm sure that married women do it, too. FH watching porn doesn't mean that he finds those women more desirable by any stretch of the imagination. And it's not indicative of him wanting sex outside of a relationship. Really.
I'm sure if you talk to him about your feelings, he'll reassure you that he only wants to be with you - he was probably really embarrassed that you caught him with it!
Message edited 12/9/2005 12:26:52 PM.
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:22 PM
|
| |
|
RachelisEngaged
Board Fanatic
Member since 4/05 319 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/10/2006 8:00 PM
Wed. Location:
NYC
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
Thank you all! I feel a litle better. I guess my freaking out is based on my own insecuruties and I need to get a grip. You all have great advise to share and I appreciate it!!!!
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:24 PM
|
| |
|
Mrs. Powell
DH Sure Knows How to spoil Me
Member since 10/05 3105 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/4/2005 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
Posted by RachelisEngaged
Thank you all! I feel a litle better. I guess my freaking out is based on my own insecuruties and I need to get a grip. You all have great advise to share and I appreciate it!!!!
Don't worry about it. Men are just plain visual in that sense.
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:25 PM
|
| |
|
conigs25
We're going to Paris!!!
Member since 4/05 4852 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/14/2006 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Milleridge Cottage
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
Dont be upset. Men LOVE porn- its in their DNA. I laugh whenever i know FI watches it bc i get a kick out of how horny guys really are. He gets WELL taken care of  and they just need more. They are little piggies
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:27 PM
|
| |
|
Mrs. Powell
DH Sure Knows How to spoil Me
Member since 10/05 3105 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/4/2005 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
Actually watch it sometimes with DH.
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:28 PM
|
| |
|
JanuaryBride06
Board Princess
Member since 4/05 13019 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/1/1995 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
Posted by Mrs. Powell
Actually watch it sometimes with DH.
when I found it, I waited for FH to get home and then played it really, really loudly for FH as he walked in. He's still embarrassed about it.
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:30 PM
|
| |
|
EmberLynn
Keeping it real!
Member since 11/03 3597 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/6/2006 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
Hey me too! You know what, I'm an adult and I like it! I say what is the point of being a grown up if you can't have grown up fun!
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:33 PM
|
| |
|
LuvMyFH
Board Fanatic
Member since 6/05 595 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/5/2006 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Booked
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
Sorry you feel this way.
I went thru a similar situation with a friend.
She hates her man looking at porn and found a magazine not even that bad like maxim magazine.
She totally frocked on the phone with me and thought of it as cheating.
On the other hand I don't and would never care if FH looks at porn. It's no big deal to me and I don't think it's cheating.
It is all a matter of opinion and how you feel. honestly my friend knows she is insecure and I think that's why she gets upset she finds herself thinking why am I not good enough to look at, he is not happy with me, he's cheating on me, etc.
I don't feel that way Men are Men and they like to look.
It really is all about how you feel if you think it's cheating it's cheating. Some girls really get upset about this and others like me don't mind.
If it bothers you, you need to let him know how you feel. You should say something like I know you thinks it's ridiculous but this is how I feel and I can't help the way I feel about it.
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:35 PM
|
| |
|
tracy2246
Invites out
Member since 3/05 1598 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/3/2006 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
It is in everyone's nature to be turned on and excited over the opposite sex-looking and thinking are very different from acting out-
Porn is great-where else can you see such fine cinematic talent.
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:38 PM
|
| |
|
conigs25
We're going to Paris!!!
Member since 4/05 4852 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/14/2006 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Milleridge Cottage
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
Posted by Mrs. Powell
Actually watch it sometimes with DH.
Youre not alone there
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:39 PM
|
| |
|
smurray
My Twin....Half of My Life....
Member since 8/05 2577 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/31/2007 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Nassau County Museum of Art
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
Posted by Mrs. Powell
Hey honey, it's a guy thing they can't help themselves. I would not worry over it I would only become worried if there is an addiction. Some men can become addicted to porn and that can be a super huge problem. As long as he is not addicted then do not worry about it.
I agree. If they're interested they're going to do it anyway. It's something that i'm not going to say all guys do but something that most guys indulge in. Almost like strippers. Try to calm down, and think of it as you and some friends out to see some strippers. At the time they look fine, and all but at the end of the day you know who you love, and who you go home to. It's a hard situation on both sides though that needs a conversation from both parties
Good Luck
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:56 PM
|
| |
|
smurray
My Twin....Half of My Life....
Member since 8/05 2577 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/31/2007 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Nassau County Museum of Art
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
Posted by conigs25
Posted by Mrs. Powell
Actually watch it sometimes with DH.
Youre not alone there
and neither are you
We go to the adult stores and shop together sometimes. While some may disagree, it's that kind of excitement that keeps BF's, FH, and DH's from straying. They stay right where they are"WITH YOU!"
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 12:59 PM
|
| |
|
Blu-ize
My House
Member since 8/04 8305 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/28/1998 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
East Meadow Jewish Center
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
While I agree with most of what is said here..the whole laptop in the bathroom thing would piss me off more...think of the germs he is spreading from that laptop!
Who cares about the porn!
Wipe and type?
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 1:00 PM
|
| |
|
EmberLynn
Keeping it real!
Member since 11/03 3597 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/6/2006 2:00 PM
Wed. Location:
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
Posted by Blu-ize
While I agree with most of what is said here..the whole laptop in the bathroom thing would piss me off more...think of the germs he is spreading from that laptop!
Who cares about the porn!
Wipe and type?
good point. Get him those cleaning wipes for the keyboard. Guys are funny like that. Again mine has his on his cell phone. I have to see if he take it into the bathroom with him too!
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 1:02 PM
|
| |
|
Blu-ize
My House
Member since 8/04 8305 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/28/1998 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
East Meadow Jewish Center
|
Re: I hate my FH today!
Posted by EmberLynn
Posted by Blu-ize
While I agree with most of what is said here..the whole laptop in the bathroom thing would piss me off more...think of the germs he is spreading from that laptop!
Who cares about the porn!
Wipe and type?
good point. Get him those cleaning wipes for the keyboard. Guys are funny like that. Again mine has his on his cell phone. I have to see if he take it into the bathroom with him too!
Exactly-eeeeeewwwwww! Lysol wipes to the rescue..should be his Christmas gift. Get them with porn printed on them
Message edited 12/9/2005 1:06:06 PM.
|
|
Posted 12/9/05 1:05 PM
|
| |
|
| Pages: [1] 2 |
