Stiffers

If someone (a coworker) came to your wedding and gave you NOTHING..not even a card, and she's getting married next yr, if she invites you, would you give her a card with $

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I would give you a card with money in it. Not alot but something. Just to show this person that you are better than them and you are not like them. Don't stoop down to their level.

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I would give her a card with a nice note. If she didnt think it appropriate to give me a gift, i think its perfectly fine if you dont give her one.

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Actually- if invited to her wedding, I wouldn't go. Why go if you're not really a friend of hers and wouldn't want to be there?
IF I went- I'd give a card and no gift.

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I wouldn't go either....

Message edited 11/12/2003 4:23:58 PM.

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i don't think i would go either

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Depends on how much I like the person - If I went to the wedding I would bring a card and send something off her registry.

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I probably wouldn't even go at all..........

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Wouldn't go!

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Well I still want to go..Just to see..LOL

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Wanna really have some fun with it? Give her a completely blank card. I mean buy one of those cards with no writing in them and don't write anything in it. Just sign your name.

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I'd go and give her just a card. Since she didn't even give you a card, just the card is showing you are a better person then her. Like Stef said add a little note in it.

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I would go, give a nice card and that's it.....
I certainly wouldn't waste any of my money just to prove a point. Not that it's not a nice gesture, but like someone else said above, if they didn't think enough to give a gift to you....
Then it is perfectly acceptable to "return the sentiment"

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A very, nice card with some wonderful words would be fine if you ask me.

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Misty you are wrong in so many ways

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Thats really tough because we all know we should be giving gifts if we're going to show up (heck, lots of us even give gifts when we dont go)....
I probably wouldnt go so I could feel justified in not giving anything back.

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We were in a similar situation. We went to the wedding, gave a card and $$. We had to go for other reasons, but if we weren't forced than I probably wouldn't go.

A friend of mine is getting married who rsvp'd yes to both my wedding and engagement party and didn't show. I want to do the same soooo bad! But I probably will just say no to both.

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Posted by cooky11111

I'd go and give her just a card. Since she didn't even give you a card, just the card is showing you are a better person then her. Like Stef said add a little note in it.

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There is a girl that told me she wasnt coming to my halloween party at the last minute b/c she couldnt find a costume. In light of the fact that you can buy a costume at Duane Reades, Im thinking of telling her i cant come to her wedding b/c I cant find pantyhose. Is that too evil? hahahhhaha

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That is EVIL!!!! stef..LOL

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You're right Shamma, but a couple of stiffers really p'd me off and I'd love to be able to get back at them. I'm living vicariously.

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Stiff the Stiffers !!!!!

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I would go and give a gift. I truly believe that you shouldn't ever compromise yourself- and I'm one of those people that wants to do the right thing. I don't do things for people because they are going to do for me.. I do them out of the goodness of my heart.

i'm not one of those "eye for an eye" people

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I am going to be in a similar situation. One of my friends gave me $13 toasting flutes as my wedding gift- and she came with a guest. When her wedding comes around I am going to be just as generous

I say give a nice card and nothing else. Unless between now and the wedding a gift miraculously appears at your house, then maybe I would consider giving something.

Message edited 11/12/2003 5:37:05 PM.

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Stiffers are so RUDE. How can you live in NY and expect to NOT give a gift if you attend someone's wedding?!

I would opt NOT to attend any events for them. They don't deserve our friendship OR our well wishes.

Message edited 11/12/2003 5:38:39 PM.