Any suggestions on how to honor a deceased parent on the wedding day??

Hi everyone,

Unforunately, my future father in law passed away suddenly last week. Our wedding is in July. My fiance & I would so appreciate any suggestions/ideas as to how we can honor his dad at the ceremony & reception. We are all still in shock from it.

Thanks to you all!!

-NMP

Re: Any suggestions on how to honor a deceased parent on the wedding day??

Sorry about your loss...
You can put something about him in the programs...have or write a special prayer.....dedicate a song for him at the wedding...put pictures of him and the family....
Sending you

Re: Any suggestions on how to honor a deceased parent on the wedding day??

I would do something in the programs for him... maybe have a rose placed on a reserved seat during the ceremony in his rememberance.
Also I would do some pics of him during the reception.
A good friend of mine her father had passed away about a year before her wedding. She had her favorite picture of the 2 of them blown up HUGE and placed next to the sweatheart table so it was like her dad was with her at the wedding. Soooo sad but very touching

Message edited 11/17/2004 11:37:21 PM.

Re: Any suggestions on how to honor a deceased parent on the wedding day??

I am so sorry for your loss. We are going to have 5 pillar candles set up on a small table with scattered flowers petals and during the ceremony, as a remembrance, the minister is going to name those in our family who have passed away as he lights each pillar.

On Oprahs wedding show they rang a bell. hope this helps

Re: Any suggestions on how to honor a deceased parent on the wedding day??

I like the picture frame idea and i always think its nice to light a candle for that person :)

Re: Any suggestions on how to honor a deceased parent on the wedding day??

we are going to have our officant mention somthing to the fact of people that are not alive as a group with a quick moment of slience, just to honor the ones that past on... i would ask your officant

Re: Any suggestions on how to honor a deceased parent on the wedding day??

I'm sorry. My mom died when I was 8 so this is what I'm doing...

I am leaving her chair empty with a small vase on it. As I walk up the aisle I will take a "breakaway" flower from my bouquet, pause in front of her seat and place it in the vase. Then I will join FH under the canopy to be married.

I will also do something in the program... not sure yet. The overwhelming majority of people at my wedding never knew my mother... except for aunts. uncles and cousins.

My FH is also going to go to the grave a few days before and place flowers. Either a copy of my bouquet or heather as she was from Scotland.

I just saw on Oprah that a couple said a few workd about the person during the ceremony and then rang a bell... nice touch.

You could incorporate one of his favorite songs into the day.

Hope this helps.

Re: Any suggestions on how to honor a deceased parent on the wedding day??

I'm sorry for your loss.

We had our officiant mention my deceased Father in Law and we had a moment of silence to pray for him during our ceremony.

Also, on the back of our programs, we wrote that it was dedicated to him and put a brief, but nice message.

Re: Any suggestions on how to honor a deceased parent on the wedding day??

Im sooo sorry. My dad passed away 4 years ago. I wasn't sure what to do so that he was still apart of my wedding(he never got to meet FH)until I saw Oprah the other day. She through a wedding for a couple and as one of the other brides posted they rang a bell for each deceased loved one. I also like the other ideas posted like leaving an empty seat with a flower on it and his picture. Good Luck and again Im so sorry.

Re: Any suggestions on how to honor a deceased parent on the wedding day??

i wrote a letter to my dad on the back of the programs. i also did a slideshow tribute to him at the reception. i needed to have him there and everyone was coming up to me saying how wonderful the tribute was. i also went to the cemetary the day before my wedding and placed my dads bouteneire there. im so sorry for your loss it is great you want to remember your loved one that wont be there.

Re: Any suggestions on how to honor a deceased parent on the wedding day??

my fh's father passed away 5 years ago this dec. one day before xmas eve. it was a very hard time for them. i never got to meet my ffil. we are thinking of dedicating the ceromoney to hime and maybe doing something else. all these ideas helped me in some decisions i had to make.

Re: Any suggestions on how to honor a deceased parent on the wedding day??

Hi! My FIL passes away right before the wedding so I framed a poem and had it set up w/ the place cards and roses at the reception hall. After the place cards were picked up, they moved the roses and poem to our table inside the reception. FM me for the poem. Heres a pic....

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