Question on wedding thank you's

My husband and I are in the process of completing our thank you notes, and I have been doing all the work! I ordered the love stamps and return address labels, I am writing all messages, etc. I want to know from other brides if your husbands have helped with writing thank-you's. Mine is planning to just neatly sign his name next to mine...is this what everyone else has done? Should I ask him to write some of the messages? Also, how personal did all of you get with the thank you message? I feel like I'm starting to sound insincere. Finally, how soon did you send them out after the wedding? We are aiming to have them done by the 3 month mark. My cousin didn't send hers until over 5 months after wedding day...just looking for opinions.

Question on wedding thank you`s

I even wrote the thank you''s to his family and I had only met them a couple of times (his family is from Buffalo). I even signed his name! I tried to personalize all the thank you''s, but after a while they all sounded the same. Basically, I wrote something like "thank you for your generous gift...we truly appreciate you sharing our special day with us...", then I would try to add a personal line. It does get very monotonous. I think I had them out by 3 months at the latest, but that was b/c my mom made me feel guilty. One of her friend''s daughters had gotten married a week before me and did her thank you''s on her honeymoon (??!!!), so she recieved hers by the time I had gotten back from mine! Nothing like a little guilt to get a fire under your butt...LOL.

Question on wedding thank you`s

I put myself on a force march and tried to do 10 per night after I got back from my honeymoon, so I had them out about 30 - 45 days after. I did them all - I knew he wasn`t going to help from the beginning. I tried to personalize them by commenting specifically on the gift where possible, or in the case of cash/checks I mentioned how I might use it, like adding it to our house fund, completing my china set, or using it for furnishing the new home we hope to have soon.

Question on wedding thank you`s

Patrick has promised to write out the thank you's for the guys in our bridal party, and his immediate family. We don't have our cards from the photographer, so we haven't gotten started yet.

Question on wedding thank you`s

I got mine out by the 2 month mark. I say "I" because I did absolutely everything including signing his name!!I also tried to personalize each note a bit, but after a while it does get hard. What a relief when that is done!!

Question on wedding thank you`s

We had them done about 2-3 weeks after the honeymoon. ( we were away for 3 weeks). I tried to have him write the ones to his family, especially the older members since he grew up knowing them...but in the end I did most of them. I tried to personalize many of them, thanking them for traveling so far to share our special day, or thanking them for the gift that will help us in our new home, etc. Def have him write the ones to the guys in the bridal party, his dad, and have HIM sign his name. Maybe he can pitch in and also address them and put the stamps on. It is a drag if you try to get it done very quickly. so try to time it in batches. One thing I wanted to make sure was that I mailed them ALL THE SAME DAY. I witnessed a family squabble when I was a kid over who received the note first!

Question on wedding thank you`s

I sent my out around the 3 month mark too. I did them all myself, in his defense, he did offer to help but I didn`t mind doing them at all. Some of them were more personal than others. They are probably sounding insincere to you because it`s repetitive, you are writing so many. Don`t forget, each person is only going to see their own so it`s not repetitive to them. Try to add personal notes whenever possible. I added comments where appropriate about people coming so far or maybe a moment we shared at the reception or their support beforehand (I wrote my SIL a book on that one) or even that we were adding the money in our "home fund which we hope to put to good use very soon". Don`t worry though, no one is expecting a great literary work :o)

I haven't picked them up yet but this is my ...

plan - I am writing my side and he is going to write his side - this is only fair - It is starting to bother me that I haven't started them yet - I can't believe all the people who got them done in 2 - 3 weeks (I wish that was me) I will be shooting for 3 months - now that I'm reading this I am going to pick up our picture tonight. I feel guilty....

It took me forever

I feel a little lazy compared to all of you. We got them out after six months. I made all the thank you's on my computer, using a color picture of us at the wedding, so the card can be framed, if people want a picture. I printed all the cards out & did the envelopes. We ended up writing all of them together. We came up with four or so thank you wordings. Some were goofier, for our goofier guests, and others were a little more formal. My husband ended up getting the postage, and sending them off. The actual writing was a team effort, alhtough I did have moments of feeling bitter when I was making the cards and he was watching tv. He must have senced my mood, cause he did offer to help out. :-]

Question on wedding thank you`s

I wrote out the Thank You's for my guests, and he wrote them out for his guests. For the ones that I wrote, I signed his name, and vice versa. I also got them all out by three months. I think that shows that you made the effort to thank people, as they made the effort to come and give gifts. Don't worry about the "insincerity" of the message - it has to become monotonous after a while, and that's expected. Although with the REALLY important people, I took the time to get very personal and heartfelt, so they would know I really cared about them. Good luck.