Paying for Hair/Makeup Question

So I just completed all my hair and makeup trails and it turns out they are more money then I budgeted for. I was originally going to pay for my BP but I can't afford to pay for all of them.

What did/are you doing?

1. Paying for BM's hair and/or makeup?

2. Telling them they have to get their hair and makeup done and its this price ($170 in my case)?

3. Giving them the option of getting hair and/or makeup done but if they do they have to pay for it?

As a side note all but one BM are from OOT and all recent college grads. I have already gotten them about $70 in gifts each.

Any advice would be appeciated. I really am stumpted on what to do!!!

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#3 Say you have arranged for someone at x price so they should let you know if they want in.

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my bm and I already talked and I let them decide if they want to get their hair and makeup down professionally. Since they are all oot, i figure they are already spending a ton for the dress, travel, and hotel.

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There is no way I can afford to pay for their hair and/or makeup. I told them they don't have to get them done if they don't want too but if they do, they will have to pay!

I had to pay for it when I was a bridesmaid.

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I can't afford to pay for them. So, I told them they are free to do their own makeup or use who I hired at their own expense, although I am paying for the maid of honor as an extra gift. I told the girls I would really like them to get their hair done and the person I hired costs $X, but they can use whoever they want.

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this can become a sticky situation. some BM's might just say "I don't want to pay that much, i'll handle my own hair & MU" cause asking them to spend for both things can be quite costly, especially if most of them are from OOT. yes i realize that as BM's they should know all the costs associated with being in a BP...but getting hair & MU done is one of those things that ppl can do optionally, or choose their own.

that being said, i would let them know NOW that you will be asking them to pay that amount of money for the services, and see what they say. for my girls, i decided to pay for their MU but they handle their hair, that way the cost isn't as much. i don't know if this is an option for you, but it's an idea!

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I ended up subsidizing just a portion of the cost for them. I gave them the option for hair and make-up. I told them to pay me a certain amount plus tip and then I paid the stylist. They don't know I subsidized the cost. I didn't want to stress them out about cost.

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I also could not afford to pay for their hair and makeup. So I provided the BMs with the costs and told them they could use them or not. All but one BM got their hair and makeup done. I did pay for the tips though.

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Yeah Im stuck in this situation too. One of my BM has never worn a dress, done her makeup or hair! The only reason I might opt to get the ALL done is so that I can indirectly, yet directly make hers be done! How to afford it all I have no idea, I think I might split the costs?

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I purchased all the girls BM dresses for them and also little side surprise goodies, so there is no way I could afford to pick up the tab for their hair and makeup too. I told them all who I selected along w/the prices and told them to let me know if they were interested.....luckily for me all my girls want their hair and makeup done and are paying for it themselves. Since I'm already paying for their dresses I guess they couldn't complain that much.

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I told them all up front that I didn't have the $$$ to be able to pay for it all, but could pay for part of it. When the day of got here I actually did have the $$$ so I paid as a surprise for all of them.

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I personally cannot afford to pay for everyones hair and makeup to be done. I just told them to go wherever they want for their hair and makeup. I am not going to demand them to use anyone specific. It is their money and I know that being in a wedding party can get pretty pricey. Basically, they are on their own and I trust all of them with their own judgment on who they decide to use.

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NOT SURE ABOUT WHAT I AM DOING? MAYBE GIVE THEM THE OPTION IF THEY WANT TO HAVE BOT HAIR AND MAKEUP

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Though I havent done my trials this is what I did. B/c I intend on spending a good chunk of change on gifts for them I decided I would give them the option. If they wanted to have it done or not and told them how much it would cost. And will let them decide. If they do decide to get it done, I will pay for it the day of but I am not telling them I will pay for it just in case I just dont have the money. So needless, to say they have the option to do it themselves or pay for it, but may not HAVE to pay for it in the end.

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It's times like this that I'm happy I'm going with four jr bridesmaids! I don't want them wearing any makeup other than a touch of lipstick anyway. And maybe I'll arrange to have their hair done, but it' still not quite the same thing, as I don't want them having big done up "hairstyles," I want them to look like themselves. My oldest girl had pink hair recently, although she had to have it changed back to her natural pale blond for her Christmas concerts(she sings in the school choir). My sister, the adult MoH, can afford her own hair and makeup better than I can!

Being a bridesmaid can be quite a hardship for some women. There's the dress, travel, wedding and shower gifts, the bachelorette party, and then hair and makeup too? Unless you know your bridesmaids have plenty of disposable income, paying for their hair and makeup, even if it means skipping something else or scrimping on something else, is a very kind gesture. Why not cut back on the expensive favors? Unless they're chocolates, half the people leave them behind anyway, and if they are chocolates, who needs the extra calories anyway after the reception dinner?

Message edited 12/9/2006 7:40:31 AM.

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In the past when it came to weddings that I was in, the bride gave us the option. She arranged hair and makeup professionally and let us decide whether we wanted to use her people or not. The bridesmaid paid for her own services...it comes with the territory. No bride should have to pay for all of that!!

Message edited 12/9/2006 8:42:43 AM.

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you arent responsible to pay for their hair or makeup. and they arent responsible for getting either done. its expensive! none of my girls got their makeup done and they all looked beautiful. they all did get there hair done, moh and jr bm and fg by my stylist and the rest at the lemon tree. i just let my girls know i want their hair all up and that was my only requirement. they all looked great.

i would let your girls know that the option to use your people is there and let them kow the price, but i wouldnt make them feel pressured to do anything they arent comfortable with or cant afford. if you can and want to pay for just their hair, i think that makes for a great gift! or even half their hair if they want to use your stylist is better than nothing. i just don't think its necessary for bm's to have their makeup done. good luck!