Thank-You Card Hell

Can you guys help me? I need some typical thank-you card phrases... I LOATHE small talk and have no idea what to write without sounding trite and phoney. i don't want to write "thanks so much for the generous gift, mr. X and I are putting it away for a house" I think that is too personal. Any ideas? So far I have gotten "thank you for your generous gift. We hope you had as good of a time as we did at the wedding! So glad you were able to share in our "big day"".

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Try this, you can maybe use bits and piecesVerse it

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Have not started these yet but here is my plan:

a)For people whom Im close with and really participated at the wedding, I will write a thank you card mostly thanking them for their presence and then mention a specific thing that happened that day involving them that I remember along with the standard thanks for the gift thing.

b) For people who just sat around, there really isnt much I can say except to thank them for the gift and wish that they had a good time.

c) For people who were rude or in some way did something I think was inappropriate (these people are few in number thankfully), Im giving the cards for DH to write because I cant be overly nice to them and not mean it.

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That's a good idea stef.

I have 2 people who did not give gifts. One claims they did and was lost (cash no less) the other just said he couldn't afford it.

I have no idea what kind of thank you card I will write for those. I feel like writing none at all...but being rude isn't my nature.

For the others, if they helped in any way...I will make sure I add that in there. Everyone else I will just do a basic, "Thank you for your generous gift and for sharing in our special day. We hope you had a great time".

Or something along those lines!

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Thanks guys!
We had 2 no gifters too, giving them to the hubby to do (his guests anyway). Plus one bounced check! Not sure what do do about that one. Cannot believe the gall of some people.

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Bounced check!!?? Well, they were notified that their check bounced before you - so that's a tough one!

Do you attempt to resumbit it?

It's embarassing to have to call and ask.

I would be mortified if I went to a wedding and didn't give a gift...or a bounced check! But, to each his own....

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no we didn't resubmit it. actually the person that did it is notorious for doing such things... he spends more then he has... and bouced one for another friend's wedding. I am letting the Hubbie deal with this but he said he might tell him if he talks to him (he's not going to go out of his way to call him) "Hey I just wanted to let you know that your check bounced, in case you didn't know already" because the guy is sooo bad with finances and all it could be plausable that he doesn't know (I doubt, the DH opinion).

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We had two non gift givers too. I find it so hard to send a thank you card. One of them even said she was waiting until after the honeymoon to send one, well, we have been home from honeymoon for two months now. My DH is so hurt. How could you thank someone for sitting and having a 200 dollar dinner and they cant even at least buy you a hallmark card for a dollar??? I dont get it!

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We had one check bouncer and one cheapo FIL who barely congratulated us, and didn't even spend a lousy $1 on a card, never mind giving us a gift

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We had 4 no-gifters (one couple and two singles) and I was very hurt. One said he forgot the gift - yeh right (DH family member who lives in GA!), the others say that because of financial reasons they couldnt give but it is coming....well, its been almost 2 mos and technically you have a year to give a gift to newlyweds....but I'm not holding my breath. As for thankyou cards I will send them to these people but they are not on my priority list of ones to write out early and I will not write anything super personal.

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Verdila, I hear you, believe me! I really dont want to send thank yous to the two that didnt give even a card. It was four people total. Are they going to say I was rude not to send a thank you? Well, what do you call them? Cheap and rude!!!

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We got one card with a torn peice of paper with "check voucher" written on it! Someone hubby has known for years & we all know never has money! 4 months & nothing yet!
We have 1 single friend & an older couple (family friends) who were no shows....The single friend finally apologized for skipping out a whole month later & said "Oh I have a card with a check at home, I 'll change the date & get it to you soon."...... nothing from either yet!

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I have a question for all of you guys who are sending thank you cards to the non-gifters: WHAT ARE YOU WRITING?

Our thank you cards are already mailed out, but I never wrote ones to those people who didn't send gifts. Was that wrong? I always thought thank you cards were for thanking people for gifts they gave you. If they didn't give a gift, why should I write a card?

We also had one check-bouncer. I am not sending the thank you until we get the new check from them, which we were told was coming soon. We'll see.......

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my husband is taking care of the non-gifters thank-you notes (which probably means they won't get done) because all the non-gifters were his guests... but said he was planning on writing "thank you for helping us share our wonderful day".

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A thank you card is normally for a "gift" but at a wedding a thank you card is to thank someone for sharing your day with you.
I had a few non-gifters and a few no-shows too. Scott will be writing his family/friend TY cards, I will do mine. We will sign each others when they are completed.
For those who didn't give us a gift I will just write "Thank you for sharing our special day with us" and that is that.

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We had some people come and not even give us a card. We had people say they were coming and not show up.

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It will be a cold day in Hell before I send someone who didn't show up even a Christmas card. That also happened to us. We overpaid by 6 people. My cousin came without his wife, even though, they RSVPd that they were both attending. His thank you card will be addressed to ONLY him. She is a bi__ and always has been. I am totally POd about that.

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I feel so strange sending a Thank You card to someone who came to the reception and didn't even give us a card. Or what about the people who said they would be there and never showed up?

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I felt a little strange too I didn't want it to look like I was looking for a gift. BUT I was genuinely happy about everyone that showed up!

The no-shows without a great excuse/reason - I wouldn't speak to them again. I think that is the height of being disrepectful and rude!