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I can empathize! Its sucks to have an in-law that is so miserable. They should see it as they are gaining a child(without ever spending the money) and a helping hand when the time requires.

I have FIL issue with FH's dad. His son is the single golden egg and apparently I was never bright enough, pretty enough, or "proper" enough for their child and family.

He would never talk to me. The first time he met me, he asked me 3 questions. I felt like I had failed a job interview it was so awkward.

His mom is a saint though.

Now we get complains (from my family and his family) about the date of the ceremony.Why aren't you getting married earlier? Why do you like this place? Why isn't it closer? You know we have to drive now? Why do you want this dress? You'll look ugly in it. Why are you choosing this color scheme. Are you including a multilingual MC? You know you have to make your invites multilingual too. And your website.

OMG. YOU PEOPLE. STOP B*tching or start contributing money!

OMG. I can't believed I just ranted. Sorry. Didn't mean to make that all about my story. :(

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I feel the same way!! everyone wants us to get married like RIGHT now but no one understands it takes money.

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My FMIL actually asked me when FH and I got engaged why we didnt just have the wedding at the Knights of Columbus like his sister did. I looked at her like she was a crazy person. Thats not what FH and I want thats why we wont have it there lady!! Like really?!?!?!? Its not like shes even contributing!!! Keep your mouth shut if your not gonna break out the checkbook. Every time we talk about anything wedding its "jenny did this.. jenny did that.." I DONT CARE ABOUT WHAT JENNY DID!!!!! And to think that we dont even have a definate date yet and this is what I'm going through I cant even imagine what you ladies are going through!!!

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My FMIL actually asked me when FH and I got engaged why we didnt just have the wedding at the Knights of Columbus like his sister did. I looked at her like she was a crazy person. Thats not what FH and I want thats why we wont have it there lady!! Like really?!?!?!? Its not like shes even contributing!!! Keep your mouth shut if your not gonna break out the checkbook. Every time we talk about anything wedding its "jenny did this.. jenny did that.." I DONT CARE ABOUT WHAT JENNY DID!!!!! And to think that we dont even have a definate date yet and this is what I'm going through I cant even imagine what you ladies are going through!!!

THIS IS ALL I HEAR!!! Kat did this, and Kat did that. Well Kat got married in Pittsburgh where not only is it ridiculously cheap to get married but she got a "student discount" off of her hall and her church. I am not a student and nor do we live in Pittsburgh. We live in a place where it cost an arm and a leg to get married and we are gonna pay it!!! So shut your pie-hole!!!!

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I have had a rocky relationship with my FMIL. We've had our share of words and she has said some terrible things about me that FH has told me but I ignored, although of course, did not forget.

Since we made up and FH proposed to me, FMIL has been happy but I have a huge problem. She wants to run the show!! Every idea I have she wants to revise, she tells me the DJ I have to pick, the decorations I should have, the centerpieces...I AM LOSING MY MIND! I have gone dress shopping with my mother twice and now I'll be going with my mom and FMIL this Thursday. I'm very worried! She's going to want to push a dress on me that I will most probably dislike. Her tastes are very different from mine.

Not only that, the one time she met my MOH, she was so rude and stand-offish that I had to apologize to my poor MOH.

I do not know what her deal is but I want to shout at her, "YOU'VE HAD YOUR DAY, LET ME HAVE MINE!!!!!!"

Going crazy. UGH.

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Posted by Helematu7

I have had a rocky relationship with my FMIL. We've had our share of words and she has said some terrible things about me that FH has told me but I ignored, although of course, did not forget.

Since we made up and FH proposed to me, FMIL has been happy but I have a huge problem. She wants to run the show!! Every idea I have she wants to revise, she tells me the DJ I have to pick, the decorations I should have, the centerpieces...I AM LOSING MY MIND! I have gone dress shopping with my mother twice and now I'll be going with my mom and FMIL this Thursday. I'm very worried! She's going to want to push a dress on me that I will most probably dislike. Her tastes are very different from mine.

Not only that, the one time she met my MOH, she was so rude and stand-offish that I had to apologize to my poor MOH.

I do not know what her deal is but I want to shout at her, "YOU'VE HAD YOUR DAY, LET ME HAVE MINE!!!!!!"

Going crazy. UGH.

Why are you going dress shopping with her?!??!?!?! I would not ask mine to come! She is crazy as it is, the dress part is about me and my mom. Def not FMIL!!

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Posted by Soon2BMrsB2013

Posted by Helematu7

I have had a rocky relationship with my FMIL. We've had our share of words and she has said some terrible things about me that FH has told me but I ignored, although of course, did not forget.

Since we made up and FH proposed to me, FMIL has been happy but I have a huge problem. She wants to run the show!! Every idea I have she wants to revise, she tells me the DJ I have to pick, the decorations I should have, the centerpieces...I AM LOSING MY MIND! I have gone dress shopping with my mother twice and now I'll be going with my mom and FMIL this Thursday. I'm very worried! She's going to want to push a dress on me that I will most probably dislike. Her tastes are very different from mine.

Not only that, the one time she met my MOH, she was so rude and stand-offish that I had to apologize to my poor MOH.

I do not know what her deal is but I want to shout at her, "YOU'VE HAD YOUR DAY, LET ME HAVE MINE!!!!!!"

Going crazy. UGH.

Why are you going dress shopping with her?!??!?!?! I would not ask mine to come! She is crazy as it is, the dress part is about me and my mom. Def not FMIL!!

Believe me, if I thought I could keep the peace and not invite her...I WOULD! Unfortunately though, she wants to come and I know if I don't bring her along she'll ***** about it FOREVER. I'm just going to breath and tell her no when she picks dresses I dislike. I already told my mother to back me up--and she definitely will!

In fact, I am hoping she won't be able to get out of work for the trying on of dresses tomorrow. I'd MUCH rather go with just my mom. Stress-free is the way to be!

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Posted by Soon2BMrsB2013

Posted by Helematu7

I have had a rocky relationship with my FMIL. We've had our share of words and she has said some terrible things about me that FH has told me but I ignored, although of course, did not forget.

Since we made up and FH proposed to me, FMIL has been happy but I have a huge problem. She wants to run the show!! Every idea I have she wants to revise, she tells me the DJ I have to pick, the decorations I should have, the centerpieces...I AM LOSING MY MIND! I have gone dress shopping with my mother twice and now I'll be going with my mom and FMIL this Thursday. I'm very worried! She's going to want to push a dress on me that I will most probably dislike. Her tastes are very different from mine.

Not only that, the one time she met my MOH, she was so rude and stand-offish that I had to apologize to my poor MOH.

I do not know what her deal is but I want to shout at her, "YOU'VE HAD YOUR DAY, LET ME HAVE MINE!!!!!!"

Going crazy. UGH.

Why are you going dress shopping with her?!??!?!?! I would not ask mine to come! She is crazy as it is, the dress part is about me and my mom. Def not FMIL!!

Believe me, if I thought I could keep the peace and not invite her...I WOULD! Unfortunately though, she wants to come and I know if I don't bring her along she'll ***** about it FOREVER. I'm just going to breath and tell her no when she picks dresses I dislike. I already told my mother to back me up--and she definitely will!

In fact, I am hoping she won't be able to get out of work for the trying on of dresses tomorrow. I'd MUCH rather go with just my mom. Stress-free is the way to be!

Hope she gets stuck at work for your sake!

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Posted by Helematu7

Posted by Soon2BMrsB2013

Posted by Helematu7

I have had a rocky relationship with my FMIL. We've had our share of words and she has said some terrible things about me that FH has told me but I ignored, although of course, did not forget.

Since we made up and FH proposed to me, FMIL has been happy but I have a huge problem. She wants to run the show!! Every idea I have she wants to revise, she tells me the DJ I have to pick, the decorations I should have, the centerpieces...I AM LOSING MY MIND! I have gone dress shopping with my mother twice and now I'll be going with my mom and FMIL this Thursday. I'm very worried! She's going to want to push a dress on me that I will most probably dislike. Her tastes are very different from mine.

Not only that, the one time she met my MOH, she was so rude and stand-offish that I had to apologize to my poor MOH.

I do not know what her deal is but I want to shout at her, "YOU'VE HAD YOUR DAY, LET ME HAVE MINE!!!!!!"

Going crazy. UGH.

Why are you going dress shopping with her?!??!?!?! I would not ask mine to come! She is crazy as it is, the dress part is about me and my mom. Def not FMIL!!

Believe me, if I thought I could keep the peace and not invite her...I WOULD! Unfortunately though, she wants to come and I know if I don't bring her along she'll ***** about it FOREVER. I'm just going to breath and tell her no when she picks dresses I dislike. I already told my mother to back me up--and she definitely will!

In fact, I am hoping she won't be able to get out of work for the trying on of dresses tomorrow. I'd MUCH rather go with just my mom. Stress-free is the way to be!

Hope she gets stuck at work for your sake!

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I get peoples unwanted suggestions and opinions all the time and it is getting old very fast. In the beginning it was like oh well how about a VFW? And I said no I think I want to try halls were not in a big rush. It was also suggested to me that I have my wedding in my mom's backyard and a few other things that I was just like, are you really saying this to me right now??? Everyone is so concerned about what I can afford. Unless I start asking you for money don't worry about what I can afford. Every time I do something or book something one of my FSIL's asks oh did you get help? Did someone give you money? Is is me or is that rude? That's not her business and the answer is no!

Now I mentioned in front of a family member that I want a photo booth and she's like "well can you really afford that? You don't need that, its not a sweet sixteen anyway."


feels good to get that anger out! haha

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Oh and I forgot about those that aren't concerned about what I'm spending and they are bitching that I have a Sunday wedding (before a monday holiday), asking me Why couldn't you do a Saturday? WHO gets married on a Sunday? ...I freaked out hearing that and couldn't hold my tongue. I said, Oh so were you going to pay the $30 pp difference for us? Because I will call the hall and tell them to move the wedding up a day, I don't mind if that is more convenient for you.

That takes nerve to complain to someone about the day they picked for their wedding. Its almost 2 years away that is plenty of time for you to figure something out.

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I would've flipped as well. But since this happens so often I don't feel like initiating high blood pressure at my age so I try to talk back to them by getting them to observe themselves.

I recently had to tell someone this for the same situation:

" Well, it will be great if you can attend, but obviously I understand people have to consider other things in their life as a priority. Since all the people I invited are people I believe are really considerate and dear to me, I'm sure they all would understand the financial implications of a Sunday wedding versus a Saturday. I can only hope i will be as considerate for someone's big day as they will be for mine. Again, I understand if you can't make it. If you can't, your absence will be felt"

Hopefully the person isn't dense enough to not understand that I just told them: it's my wedding, not yours, other people have to be considered as well and the financial burden is on us so take your sob story somewhere else princess- you're not raining on my parade.

P.S. - whether or not my feelings on their absence will be happy or sad, well we would see come the wedding and how they respond. Lol

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My FMIL didn't come with me today (thank God)! And it was so enjoyable. I have found my dress!

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Hallelujah! Fate/lady luck was on your side!

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My FMIL actually asked me when FH and I got engaged why we didnt just have the wedding at the Knights of Columbus like his sister did. I looked at her like she was a crazy person. Thats not what FH and I want thats why we wont have it there lady!! Like really?!?!?!? Its not like shes even contributing!!! Keep your mouth shut if your not gonna break out the checkbook. Every time we talk about anything wedding its "jenny did this.. jenny did that.." I DONT CARE ABOUT WHAT JENNY DID!!!!! And to think that we dont even have a definate date yet and this is what I'm going through I cant even imagine what you ladies are going through!!!

THIS IS ALL I HEAR!!! Kat did this, and Kat did that. Well Kat got married in Pittsburgh where not only is it ridiculously cheap to get married but she got a "student discount" off of her hall and her church. I am not a student and nor do we live in Pittsburgh. We live in a place where it cost an arm and a leg to get married and we are gonna pay it!!! So shut your pie-hole!!!!

Seriously every time she brings this stuff up I wanna scream! Plus his sister got married in 2001. On what planet does she think that even if we did do a hall like that, that it would even be close to the same money that she paid??? It was 11 years ago!!! UGGHHHHH she drives me NUTS

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Posted by Soon2BMrsB2013

Posted by angelicd77

My FMIL actually asked me when FH and I got engaged why we didnt just have the wedding at the Knights of Columbus like his sister did. I looked at her like she was a crazy person. Thats not what FH and I want thats why we wont have it there lady!! Like really?!?!?!? Its not like shes even contributing!!! Keep your mouth shut if your not gonna break out the checkbook. Every time we talk about anything wedding its "jenny did this.. jenny did that.." I DONT CARE ABOUT WHAT JENNY DID!!!!! And to think that we dont even have a definate date yet and this is what I'm going through I cant even imagine what you ladies are going through!!!

THIS IS ALL I HEAR!!! Kat did this, and Kat did that. Well Kat got married in Pittsburgh where not only is it ridiculously cheap to get married but she got a "student discount" off of her hall and her church. I am not a student and nor do we live in Pittsburgh. We live in a place where it cost an arm and a leg to get married and we are gonna pay it!!! So shut your pie-hole!!!!

Seriously every time she brings this stuff up I wanna scream! Plus his sister got married in 2001. On what planet does she think that even if we did do a hall like that, that it would even be close to the same money that she paid??? It was 11 years ago!!! UGGHHHHH she drives me NUTS

LOL I have this same issue!!! FMIL wanted to invite an extra 10 people because she thought we were paying to just rent the place.. Nope lady.. we are not getting married at VFM and your 10 people will cost us close to $1,000.. are they worth it to you? If they are.. pay up!!! Same issue with BIL.. wants to bring shawtttty of the week.. I told him if you're not willing to spend $100 on her.. what makes you think we will? NO GUEST FOR YOU!

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Posted by Soon2BMrsB2013

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My FMIL actually asked me when FH and I got engaged why we didnt just have the wedding at the Knights of Columbus like his sister did. I looked at her like she was a crazy person. Thats not what FH and I want thats why we wont have it there lady!! Like really?!?!?!? Its not like shes even contributing!!! Keep your mouth shut if your not gonna break out the checkbook. Every time we talk about anything wedding its "jenny did this.. jenny did that.." I DONT CARE ABOUT WHAT JENNY DID!!!!! And to think that we dont even have a definate date yet and this is what I'm going through I cant even imagine what you ladies are going through!!!

THIS IS ALL I HEAR!!! Kat did this, and Kat did that. Well Kat got married in Pittsburgh where not only is it ridiculously cheap to get married but she got a "student discount" off of her hall and her church. I am not a student and nor do we live in Pittsburgh. We live in a place where it cost an arm and a leg to get married and we are gonna pay it!!! So shut your pie-hole!!!!

Seriously every time she brings this stuff up I wanna scream! Plus his sister got married in 2001. On what planet does she think that even if we did do a hall like that, that it would even be close to the same money that she paid??? It was 11 years ago!!! UGGHHHHH she drives me NUTS

LOL I have this same issue!!! FMIL wanted to invite an extra 10 people because she thought we were paying to just rent the place.. Nope lady.. we are not getting married at VFM and your 10 people will cost us close to $1,000.. are they worth it to you? If they are.. pay up!!! Same issue with BIL.. wants to bring shawtttty of the week.. I told him if you're not willing to spend $100 on her.. what makes you think we will? NO GUEST FOR YOU!

FH brother is the same way. Hes with this girl whos like 10+ years younger then him and expects her to come to our wedding when it does happen. I told him there is not a snowballs chance in H3LL that she would be invited. Theres a LONG story behind it but all this girl has done is lie and disrespect our ENTIRE family and he thinks that I would want her at our WEDDING?!?!? Sorry pal not happening. Even if he/she offered to pay for her I still wouldnt want her there. Shes a real Cee You Next Tuesday!!! Why cant we all just do what WE want and not what everone else wants us to do?!?!? Its our weddings goddamnit!!!!

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I read your post. I'm so sorry about your parents. I'm not Greek but I have family members that are married/in relationships with Greeks and I know how that plays out when you're of a different religion/culture. To me, its all the same. Your parents should be happy that you found someone that loves you and treats you well. A man with money can buy you a nice house, furs, and luxury cars but that doesn't make you feel safe, smart, pretty, etc. as much as a man that shows you and makes you feel love. Try to keep in mind that your parents are coming from a place of love and try not to absorb the negativity you get from anyone. I'm getting married at Westbury. I found it to be a romantic location. My advice to you is to do what feels right.

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Thank you :) I have 5 months left. I'm dreading the upcoming bridal shower because of my FH's mom; she'll be sure to make up some story about feeling "left out." It's always a "look at me" moment with them. I'm taking things one day at a time.

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LMAO...I can relate to that though! My FMIL thinks I bully my FH to do things because I tell him when I'm not happy about something. Before we lived together, I got really sick from all the dust in his room and then got bronchitis from his sleeping with the open window. I called him and told him I'd be going home and he just so happened to be with his mom. He was upset and from that, she gathered that I bully her baby. To top it off, my future SILs claim that I keep them from their brother >__<

One of them even went as far as to tell me that I need to be more "repsectful" and what she actually meant was that I should kiss her a$$.

I calmly explained I wasn't marrying her or their family. I was marrying the brother and not shedding my own clan. I also told her we'd start our own family; those who wanted IN on the fun would act accordingly.

She had no comment.

They can't accept people being happier than they are.
Ridiculous.

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My FMIL actually asked me when FH and I got engaged why we didnt just have the wedding at the Knights of Columbus like his sister did. I looked at her like she was a crazy person. Thats not what FH and I want thats why we wont have it there lady!! Like really?!?!?!? Its not like shes even contributing!!! Keep your mouth shut if your not gonna break out the checkbook. Every time we talk about anything wedding its "jenny did this.. jenny did that.." I DONT CARE ABOUT WHAT JENNY DID!!!!! And to think that we dont even have a definate date yet and this is what I'm going through I cant even imagine what you ladies are going through!!!

THIS IS ALL I HEAR!!! Kat did this, and Kat did that. Well Kat got married in Pittsburgh where not only is it ridiculously cheap to get married but she got a "student discount" off of her hall and her church. I am not a student and nor do we live in Pittsburgh. We live in a place where it cost an arm and a leg to get married and we are gonna pay it!!! So shut your pie-hole!!!!

Seriously every time she brings this stuff up I wanna scream! Plus his sister got married in 2001. On what planet does she think that even if we did do a hall like that, that it would even be close to the same money that she paid??? It was 11 years ago!!! UGGHHHHH she drives me NUTS

LOL I have this same issue!!! FMIL wanted to invite an extra 10 people because she thought we were paying to just rent the place.. Nope lady.. we are not getting married at VFM and your 10 people will cost us close to $1,000.. are they worth it to you? If they are.. pay up!!! Same issue with BIL.. wants to bring shawtttty of the week.. I told him if you're not willing to spend $100 on her.. what makes you think we will? NO GUEST FOR YOU!

FH brother is the same way. Hes with this girl whos like 10+ years younger then him and expects her to come to our wedding when it does happen. I told him there is not a snowballs chance in H3LL that she would be invited. Theres a LONG story behind it but all this girl has done is lie and disrespect our ENTIRE family and he thinks that I would want her at our WEDDING?!?!? Sorry pal not happening. Even if he/she offered to pay for her I still wouldnt want her there. Shes a real Cee You Next Tuesday!!! Why cant we all just do what WE want and not what everone else wants us to do?!?!? Its our weddings goddamnit!!!!

OMG the kicker is that he doesn't even have a girlfriend! He LITERALLLY wants to bring whoever he is banging that week!