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LIWeddings Archive Posted: Sep 07, 2000 12:00 AM+
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Children - is anyone feeling the pressure

Our parents are so ready for us to have children, and I was wondering if anyone here was experiencing the same thing and how are you dealing with it. We are just not ready yet!

this happened to us as well from some people at work... my boss included! but then a couple of weeks after the wedding, these people went up to kevin and asked him if there was something we didn't get that we wanted. i found that question strange (and he basically said that we were totally spoiled.. feeling weird saying 'actually, yes, we'd like blah blah blah!'). my boss ended up sending our gift last week.. 2 tickets to the opera....3rd row center! so maybe the people you didn't get anything from will get you something later. don't feel about bad about talking about it though...its just your feelings! -leighann

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LIWeddings Archive Posted: Sep 07, 2000 12:00 AM+
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Children - is anyone feeling the pressure

Right after the wedding, it seemed like that was the only question, until I came back witht he almighty answer of;' Well if I have to work I need to be tenured in a school district first, and since I will be done wit my masters in a year and tenure takes three, it looks like they will be oon their way in four!' That usually shuts them up! :)
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LIWeddings Archive Posted: Sep 07, 2000 12:00 AM+
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Children - is anyone feeling the pressure

We got married less than 2 months ago and already I am getting asked the question. How annoying!!
It is as bad as when everyone asked when we were getting married.

Have a Wonderful and Healthy Holiday!!!

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LIWeddings Archive Posted: Sep 08, 2000 12:00 AM+
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Children - is anyone feeling the pressure

Absolutely! Especially since my cousin who got married five weeks before I did and my maid of honor who got married five weeks after I did have both announced that they are pregnant. Every time my mom or MIL asks me how I'm feeling I know exactly what they're really asking -- are you pregnant yet?!!!

Even though your company may be doing well, they may be taking a more conservative approach because of the downturn. A cautious tightening of the corporate belt....

It may not have to do with your performance. Good to talk it out with your manager though. Let us know how you make out! Good luck!

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LIWeddings Archive Posted: Sep 11, 2000 12:00 AM+
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When we got engaged...

yep- since the day Rob proposed his mom and one sister hinted.
But when we told them IN DUE TIME- and in our time not yours...they have smiled and backed off.
Of course we want children..but I think we need time as Mr and Mrs b4 we are Mom and Dad.

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LIWeddings Archive Posted: Sep 11, 2000 12:00 AM+
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When we got engaged...

...my MIL announced that she wanted to see a grandchild before she died. Nice, right?

Paul took the lead and told everyone to 'back off'...Amazing isn't it? Not only is the question rude, but its insensitive for those who may be fertitily 'challenged'. I may not be able to have kids....so asking only makes it worse. I felt horrible for a long time.

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LIWeddings Archive Posted: Sep 11, 2000 12:00 AM+
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dangerous years

Yeah, I've heard that too. Geez, I'm only 30! My cousin just had her 2nd son at 42!

Just like you're not supposed to get married before you're ready, you shouldn't have babies before you're ready (if you can help it...excluding little surprises :o)

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LIWeddings Archive Posted: Sep 12, 2000 12:00 AM+
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righto!

This weekend my 4 year old nephew said 'when are you going to have a baby' I said 'why would you ask that' and he said 'your married and married people have babies' I wonder where he got that from??? My brother and sister in law had kids at 21!!!!!
I did not receive cards or gifts from my boss from my husbands boss and 2 friends. I have heard that they have 1 year to give a gift. A card would have been nice!!

I know they can't put everything in, but I would have liked to see people arriving at the reception hall. I would have liked more of the cocktail hour. They included people's speeches to us (when they go around to all the tables), but they cut out my closest cousin's speech, as well as one of my bridesmaids. So, that was disappointing. Also, there was just one camera, so during the ceremony it was just on us. I would have liked a shot of my parents and the bridal party up there with us.

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LIWeddings Archive Posted: Sep 12, 2000 12:00 AM+
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righto!

no need to rush into this. PArents forget that when you come from the hospital...there aren't any instructions attached to the baby!!! and no matter what they offer...to help,etc..at some point the 2 of you will be alone with thekiddo- so you have to make sure that YOU TWO are ready. (HAHA)
Night of .....
Naughty Night...

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LIWeddings Archive Posted: Sep 12, 2000 12:00 AM+
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Out of the mouths of babes!

Paul's cousin got married real quick b/c his girlfriend was pregnant with twins! So Paul's nephew was convinced that people got married because they were having a baby!

He kept patting my tummy asking when the baby was due...and the fact that I had been carrying a few extra pounds didn't help! It took him a while to understand that you didn't have to be expecting to get married.

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LIWeddings Archive Posted: Sep 14, 2000 12:00 AM+
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Children - is anyone feeling the pressure

I am glad to hear that we are not alone!! My Mom really throws the pressure on!! If I felt like we could afford it now I would, but that is what I guess makes it so difficult. I want children as much as they want me to have them, My hubby is ready too!! But I want to be able to stay home the first year, and unfortunately one income is not going to pay the mortgage and all the other bill. So until I come up with a plan we are just practicing!!

I'm glad everything worked out. I'm also very glad there is a difference between proofs and the album. I'm actuallt picking up the Thank You cards w/ pictures Saturday!!! I can't wait to get started. It's taking us a long time to pick out our album!! I know it takes them 8 months to make too!!

Is there really a big difference between the quality of the proofs and the end result album photos????

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LIWeddings Archive Posted: Sep 14, 2000 12:00 AM+
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Children - is anyone feeling the pressure

I so hate this topic!LOL Everytime we go to a family event it's always 'so when are you guys having little ones of your own?.' Why can't we enjoy married life for awhile, travel around & spend money on ourselves?? Oy vey next person to ask us is getting a slap hehe :)

:o)

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