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WHEW!!!!! just finished the last of them last night! YAY!!

How many of you had guests that attended but did not give you a gift? Not including the people who may have travelled pretty far...

a couple came and gave us an empty card- friends of Rob. How can 2 adults do that? I just dont get it- I was raised to consider the demands of the host(ess). Hmm...wondering if I am alone in this?

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No empty envelopes but my 2 bosses didn't give me an envelope or a gift. I sent them both thank you cards anyway - thanking them for spending the day with us. They really are great guys - gift or no gift - I was glad to have them there.

They recently said something to me re: it and said they were still planning on giving us a gift. Something about ettiquette says then have until our first anniversary. I told them it wasn't necessary but they said they were....that was 2 months ago and my wedding was in March.

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Hi Phyllis: I didn't receive any empty envelopes, but I did not receive a card from any of my 5 SIL's nor a gift. I've said before, the gift doesn't matter, it was the card for their brother that bothered me tremendously

They recently said something to me re: it and said they were still planning on giving us a gift. Something about ettiquette says then have until our first anniversary. I told them it wasn't necessary but they said they were....that was 2 months ago and my wedding was in March.

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what has been your experience? any empty envelopes?
Things do slow down and I don't think that can really be avoided.. But personally I would much rather this than be in the wedding planning process.
Also maybe you can plan your weekends in advance and think of good ideas and talking to him about it.

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yes, we recieved a few of those $50 envelopes too...but it was Rob's oldest relatives ...so we completely understand that they can only afford this or think that since that is the rate in rochester,ny...it is ok everywhere.

The empty envelopes did BOTHER Rob per se...but I just thought it was WEIRD. And yes, I agree, we have a record of everthing and will know what to give others when we are in that position.

He kept patting my tummy asking when the baby was due...and the fact that I had been carrying a few extra pounds didn't help! It took him a while to understand that you didn't have to be expecting to get married.

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I know that when my cousin got married she was shocked!!! She said that the people with the most money gave the smallest gifts and the people that really can't afford to give a lot gave much more. She felt like crying when she opened some of the cards with large sums of $$$ from people she knew couldn't afford to do it.

The empty envelopes did BOTHER Rob per se...but I just thought it was WEIRD. And yes, I agree, we have a record of everthing and will know what to give others when we are in that position.

He kept patting my tummy asking when the baby was due...and the fact that I had been carrying a few extra pounds didn't help! It took him a while to understand that you didn't have to be expecting to get married.

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Kate--You should of seen our church. 5 people on his side, packed on mine. Things like that hurt more than any gift or lack there of. I totally agree with you.

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I totally agree Gina

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I did not receive cards or gifts from my boss from my husbands boss and 2 friends. I have heard that they have 1 year to give a gift. A card would have been nice!!

I know they can't put everything in, but I would have liked to see people arriving at the reception hall. I would have liked more of the cocktail hour. They included people's speeches to us (when they go around to all the tables), but they cut out my closest cousin's speech, as well as one of my bridesmaids. So, that was disappointing. Also, there was just one camera, so during the ceremony it was just on us. I would have liked a shot of my parents and the bridal party up there with us.

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i had a very good friend of mine get married 6 months before me. so i gave her 400. when i got married she gave me 200. i thought that was a little weird. i usually try to match someone or give at least 250 to cover the plates. i thought 200 from her was a little cheap (she has the money)

The empty envelopes did BOTHER Rob per se...but I just thought it was WEIRD. And yes, I agree, we have a record of everthing and will know what to give others when we are in that position.

He kept patting my tummy asking when the baby was due...and the fact that I had been carrying a few extra pounds didn't help! It took him a while to understand that you didn't have to be expecting to get married.

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Worse than empty, $50 for a couple! I think that is worse than nothing, at least you could chalk up empty to, I guess they forgot to put the money in. PS- it was on Jeff's side! And his friednd just bought a brand new saab convertible and went on and on about it!I don't know but where we come from it is minimum of $200 a couple! I still sent a thank you, but now we know how much to give when his time comes!

He kept patting my tummy asking when the baby was due...and the fact that I had been carrying a few extra pounds didn't help! It took him a while to understand that you didn't have to be expecting to get married.

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We also spent what we could afford without expecting to make anything, but it is embarrasing for a couple to give $50 and another couple actually gave a $100 bond. His side of the family.

Kate--You should of seen our church. 5 people on his side, packed on mine. Things like that hurt more than any gift or lack there of. I totally agree with you.

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We actually got an IOU from one of my hubby's groomsmen and his date. Last I talked to her they just bought another car. Go figure?? I also received $75 from a couple--but some people have no idea that you spent over $100pp so I wasn't insulted. Where some people were cheap, others made up for it. :)

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Same here. The ones that can't afford it give and the ones who can, don't. We only had 113 people and we received gifts over 17K which really surprised me. My husband was shocked. The attorneys who came gave nothing. It's sad, but I wasn't mad. I kept telling myself that 'I'm not having this wedding to make money'. I spent what I could and whatever we received, we did. My upset was that some people didn't even give us a card wishing us well...his family. Everyone on my side did. It's wierd isn't it?

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