Have your friends changed....

...since you've been married? Particularly, the single ones? Everyone was really weird with me at first. Although everyone has calmed down and returned to normal, there is 1 that is constantly throwing it in my face. We both hit 30 this year - I hit in July, she is next month. 'At least you snuck it in under the wire'...'At least you got married before 30'.

Sigh...as if that was my motivation!

good book

Wow - can you email me w/the author? I'd like to get it for my sister as a shower gift. Thanks! :o)

thanks again

Have your friends changed....

I'm glad to see that someone else has this problem. For those of you who read Bridget Jones' Diary, my friend likes to refer to me as one of the 'Smug Marrieds.' You guessed it, she's single. I really resent it, since I go out of my way not to talk about my husband or married life in front of her, which is ridiculous because that's part of my life. Whenever I complain about anything, her response is always, 'You have no right to complain. You're married! What else do you need?' I try to tell her that there is a lot more to life than being married, and you shouldn't expect all your problems to go away when you gain a husband. In fact, more problems begin. But she doesn't see things this way. It's very draining, and frankly I'm getting fed up with her attitude. I go out of my way to be sympathetic and encouraging, but all I get in response is, 'You don't understand. You're married.' Getting tired of this broken record...

I don't mind Brides-to-Be post questions here as long as they identify themselves as Brides-to-Be...just like the considerate vendors do when posting on the other chat board.

the book

Is titles'what no one tells the bride' and it is by marg Stark.
Very good reading- and some laughs too

I guess it's completely natural that we all have some post wedding blues, considering all the thought and detail that went into our wedding planning decisions. I know I was not alone in the quest to have the 'perfect' day. It's a big letdown when the moment is over, especially one that's soo filled with happiness and joy. You want it to last forever. Don't feel that you're alone with your feelings, just enjoy/cherish those moments and relive them in your heart/head whenever possible.

good book

to read ...is 'what they dont tell the bride'. I dont have it with me today.Bought it on Amazon.com.
Great book- addresses the name change issue, dealing with inlaws, and generally..the ADJUSTMENT that NATURALLY occurs when you get married.

has helped me quite a bit..thought I'd pass it along.

Have your friends changed....

LOL - I totally love that book! :o)

I'm glad to know I'm not the only one. And you're right, there are more problems when you're married. More family politics, more obligations..... every major and sometime minor decision is not only yours to make anymore. From finanical investments to where to store the tupperware! (funny but true!!!!)

friends

your freinds response just shows how immature she is...like being married is a magic pill and all your worried go away? PUL-EEZE. Next time she tells you you dont understsand cuz your married- tell her to grow up cuz her remarks are hurting your friendship...!!! Maybe that will wake her up!

Heather, it was very sweet of you to respond. Thank you for your support and kind words.

:o)