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Posted by Goldi1021

Im trying to understand why people WANT to bring young children. I guess I will never get it. Yes, family is important, but when things run late at night and since weddings are mature in nature it doesnt always seem like an appropraite place for litttle kids. Most people know that weddings are expensive to put in place. For a family (or couple) to go to the expense of having a child as a guest, a child who is too young to understand or appreciate what a wedding is, it can be a lot to ask of someone. JMO.

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Well said...couldn;t agree more!

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I dont want any and he only ones who will be there are FH nephews, cause mommy/daddy wont leave them w/anyone!! They are 2 1/2 and 6 months. So I will have a stroller there....great!

I believe they shouldnt be there and why would someone want to bring their kids is weird!!!

I hope I dont have to worry about any others and not happy about even them being there.

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I'm one of the oldest cousins on both sides of my family (I'm 24) so I have alot of younger cousins, as does FH - so we are inviting all of our cousins independent of age (I can't imagine my reception w/o them there!)

Cousins children are not invited - unless they are OOTers (which about 1/2 are) - and no other children are invited.

Hopefully it all works out and no one is pissy that their kids aren't invited

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You have to wonder about people who wont leave their kids with anyone. Do they not go out at night once they have kids? Do they bar themselves inside until the kids are old enough to drive? Or is it that (and this is my theory on this) they have this need to dress their kids up and showcase them so people can fawn all over them. Any thoughts?

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Posted by Goldi1021

You have to wonder about people who wont leave their kids with anyone. Do they not go out at night once they have kids? Do they bar themselves inside until the kids are old enough to drive? Or is it that (and this is my theory on this) they have this need to dress their kids up and showcase them so people can fawn all over them. Any thoughts?

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I think that there are people who like to show off their kids especially at large family functions where some family may have never seen their kids before...I believe this is what my cousin did at my E-Party

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We are having our wedding early so that the kids would be awake and happy at the wedding - we are having a few - we like the idea of kids running around and adding lightness to the occasion!

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Posted by Goldi1021

You have to wonder about people who wont leave their kids with anyone. Do they not go out at night once they have kids? Do they bar themselves inside until the kids are old enough to drive? Or is it that (and this is my theory on this) they have this need to dress their kids up and showcase them so people can fawn all over them. Any thoughts?

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I'm actually 100% with you on the idea of kids at the wedding in general My two very young nephews won't be at our reception by their parents choice. our wedding is at night and my sis and bil would not enjoy themselves if they had to watch my nephews. ANd frankly, i don't think the formal nature of our wedding would be a blast for the kiddies either. THey're just too young to get it and I almost feel it would be mean to them to expect them to behave during the ceremony and then a formal 5 hr affair. HOWEVER, my sister generally only lives her kids with family, so she is making special arrangements for our day. Just a thought that that may be the reason they have no one to leave them with..(long winded way of saying that maybe all the people that usually sit for them will be at the event).

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In my opinion, young children don't belong at weddings; I'm not even having a flower girl or ring bearer to ensure that NO children will be there.

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Posted by beautyq115

We are NOT having kids there...I am afraid that my stupid cousin is going to assume that her bratty kids are invited as she did with my e-party

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I did have a couple of kids show up at my eparty that weren't invited and that bugged me. It was in a small restaurant and the kids were miserable.

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My sister doesn't leave her kids with anyone but family. It has nothing to do with showing off the kids, its just that you can't trust alot of people out there. I think you start to feel different once you have your own. My sister kids will be at the wedding. I could care less, I feel worse for my sister who has to take care of them. I was thinking of getting a baby sitter for the Bridal suite, so the kids could go in there and hang out.
To many kids is hard, but just a few is not a big deal.

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I have a one year old and 2 step-sons 2 be. I have to invite children

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we are only having our jrbm, fg, and rb who are 8, 5, and 6. i want them there bc i am close to them and i couldnt see not having them there. we also have a jrgm who is 13. however, we aren't inviting any other kids, but all other kids are part of my fi family, so i am hoping they aren't offended when they see kids from my family there (even if they are in the bp). if they get mad, we'll deal, bc they have a lot of little ones on their side and we only get a third off for kids. otherwise, if $ wasn't an issue, we would invite them. i don't mind kids at weddings. ~lacey

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Fh and i have a one year old daughter and I have 2 stepsons 2 be. We have kids of our own. We have to invite kids. But understand this if I didn't have kids I wouldn't invite kids. My FH nieces and nephews are BRATS!

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no kids, only members of the bp, and there are 3 of them. oldest is 7, youngest will be 5. i don't forsee a problem with them. on one under 18, no exceptions. i already had this discussion w/fmil. she was kind of put-off, and said 'oh, i hope it doesn't start a problem.' when i asked 'why' she said b/c when her bil got married, they didn't invite their nephews, not my fmil's kids, my ffil's other brother and they got all pissy about it. i said no kids, and they are way under 18, so its very easy to say no kids.

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The only child under the age of 10 that will be present is my FG. FH just had a conversation with his sister about his sister's granddaughter. She (his sister) for some reason thought the 2 year old was invited to the wedding. Ummm, hello, reception is from 8-midnight. But for the fact that FH is very very close with his nephews we would have an 18 and over policy. Instead, we have his nephews (13 & 15), my cousin's daughter (11), (my cousin won't come without her daughter, and since I haven't seen her in a few years I'm sort of making an exception, and I figure I know who isn't coming so I won't have to worry about people getting angry over this exception), my flower girl (8), maybe a second flower girl (16 months) - who if present will only be there for the ceremony.

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i love kids i think its important to have kids at big events like weddings and stuff. but thats just my opinion. everyone should do what they like

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I'm having kids. We are inviting all of my neices and nephews and my FIs 1st cousins (All of my 1st cousins are older). I can understand why people wouldn't want children, but I am close with my neices and nephews and they are in our bridal party.

My cousin's FI is inviting kids to the wedding, but then having them eat in a different room.

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I dont want children at my wedding, I personally don't find the need to them to be there. It's an adult function and parents should know that it's not a place for children! I know FH's aunt is going to have a VERY big problem w/ her two daughters (10 & 8) not being invited b/c it's his first cousins, but they aren't getting an invite. Hopefully she doesnt show up w/ them...i would not put it past her What would I do then???

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We're allowing children, but for a few reasons

1. FH didn't want to deny people the right to bring their kids if they couldn't find a sitter.

2. When we looked at our guest list, there's only a few kids on it, including the kids who are in the BP. Maybe about 8 kids total.

3. Most of the people who have kids are not bringing them anyway, because 90% of them have kids that are either old enough to handle themselves or too young to bring with them.

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We are only having first cousins (3 children) at our wedding. At first, this was an issue for my FH;s father. Now, he understands (we think) our rationale. We don't want our wedding to be a circus, as it is a formal affair and if you invite one, you have to invite them all.