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aliwnec10 Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:15 AM+
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should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?

Okay ladies... i have another question for you all.

If you cannot attend a wedding shower, should you still send a gift?

I always have, but a few of my friends from college weren't aware of this 'rule.' They thought you only had to get a gift if you were going. Is this true?
werock0709 Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:18 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?

I always send or drop off a gift. Just my style.
dianadrw Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:20 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?


Posted by werock0709

I always send or drop off a gift. Just my style.



Ditto for me.
SPITSBRIDE Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:21 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?

Yes, definitely.
pupidda122505 Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:22 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?


Posted by dianadrw


Posted by werock0709

I always send or drop off a gift. Just my style.



Ditto for me.



I agree. It's the same thing as sending a gift even if u can't make the wedding. It might be a smaller gift since you're not going but it's still appropriate to send something.
Mrs. Powell Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:23 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?

Definitely yes.
Katie&Chris2006 Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:23 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?

i always do. i think it's just a nice gesture and a way for the person to know that you really wish you could have been there.
soon2bmrsdunn Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:26 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?


Posted by dianadrw


Posted by werock0709

I always send or drop off a gift. Just my style.



Ditto for me.

Me too!
KimberlyBride Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:27 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?

Yes definitely!
SuzBride Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:28 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?

I dont think you HAVE to give a gift if you aren't attending, I always do though. Just because I can't make the shower, I still want the new couple to have something from me for their new home/life together!
aliwnec10 Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:28 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?

well someone put NO... so i'm curious to anyone's opinion who doesn't think it's necessary.

I mean quite a few of my friends (from Ma & Vt) didn't think it was necessary and it didn't even occur to them... so there must be quite a few people who don't send gifts.
Thumballina Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:30 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?

I always send something if I can't attend...I would feel rude if I didn't...but thats just me
Mayflower Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:33 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?


Posted by Katie&Chris2006

i always do. i think it's just a nice gesture and a way for the person to know that you really wish you could have been there.



exactly.
MissingTheBGene Posted: Jan 19, 2006 09:34 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?

It depends on who the person is. Recently, I was invited to a shower that I didn't even know the bride. I was asked at another function, did not receive an actual invite and they didn't even have my name, I was 'FI's fiance'. I wasn't able to attend, and I did not send a gift.

If it's someone I know, then yes, I would send a gift.

hocus Posted: Jan 19, 2006 10:09 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?

You don't have to. I think it if you are close to someone it is a nice gesture, but not required.
Fairytale Posted: Jan 19, 2006 10:12 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?

I always do also.
nygirl77 Posted: Jan 19, 2006 10:14 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?


Posted by hocus

You don't have to. I think it if you are close to someone it is a nice gesture, but not required.



I feel this way too. However, I do usually send a gift if I can't attend.
smara Posted: Jan 19, 2006 10:16 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?

You aren't required, but it is nice to send something..
thumper9878 Posted: Jan 19, 2006 10:17 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?

I always do if I can't attend. My style too. I guess because they invited me, I thought it would still be nice to send something.
PrincessRose Posted: Jan 19, 2006 10:18 AM+
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Re: should you send a gift if you can't attend shower?

I'm torn on this. I always do send a gift if I can't make the shower. However, I had a friend not come to my shower because she couldn't afford the train ticket and a gift. A week later, her gift arrives - it's something very useful, but I know that the cost of buying and shipping it was equal to the cost of the train ticket she couldn't have afforded. If it had been up to me, I would've told her to forego the gift and buy the train ticket instead. Her being at my shower would've meant more to me.
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