But I don't even want a shower anymore.

All I did tonight was sob to my FH. This is the worst time of my life! My Shower is more stressful to me then my wedding and Im not planning my shower. Its suppose to be a surprise!

It all started about a month ago. When my FSIL (matron of honor) came to me and tells me that My best friend (MOH) hasnt booked a place for my shower. Why are u telling me this? Then later that day I heard her telling an aunt what day it was. Now nothing was booked so it could be a different day but I doubt it.

The next day I tell my cousin this (not the part about me thinking I know when the date is but about not having a place) and she gets so mad that this has come back to me.

Yesterday I ask my MOH what if my fsil is giving her a hard time about inviting the aunts that they don't get along with. She says no but she told me not to invite the kids. (the kids who by the way are 16-18) I threw a fit in the Gap. Tomorrow she is mailing invites to them. Even though it will look tacky that they get invites a couple of days after their mothers. Who is she to take people off my guest list cause she doesnt like them?

Today I get a call from my Best friend (moh) telling me that she is really upset because my mom called her and said my cousin (who is 9 months preggo and due any day) was upset when she got the invite in the mail for the shower and wasn't included in the plaining. She is a BM.

Why is all this coming back to me. My cousin who was pissed in the begining is pissed all over again (she was also a little annoyed that nothing was ran by her but she will get over it. her sis is the one who is preggo)

I can't take it anymore. I told my FH to tell them to forget it. I don't want it anymore. I also told him I will plan my own Baby Shower....

On a plus note. I just checked my registry and 3 things came off. Only problem is that I registered for a 3 set of candle stick holders. I accidently scanned 2 and ment to take one set off. Both were bought. The other thing was the cake server that an aunt bought us for Christmas that I forgot to take off.


Y me. Here I go again with the waterworks.

Oh! I don't really know what to say. None of this should be getting back to you. Thats terrible that you're getting all this negative feedback on something thats supposed to be a surprise and a happy occasion. Hang in there. I'm sure everything will work out. Tell everyone that you don't want to know anything (in the nicest way possible) and enjoy your shower when it comes up. I'm so sorry.

Thanks Nancy,
Im going to try and calm down and get some sleep. I have to babysit tomorrow for my 7 month old cousin. I have to be up really early. I just can't stop crying.

Listen to me! I went through the same thing! I was hyterical for weeks. My MOH booked the date and place of the shower without including the in laws. She did it because it was the only time she could fly up my sister to surprise me. They in turn were so pissed off they were not included, they took over the rest of the shower decorating and stuff. They all still hate each other. The inlaws told me everything because they were so pissed off at her. It was just awful, more than I can write here. The bottom line is the shower was fine. Yes, the room was to small like they thought, but everyone had a nice time, and everyone behaved. You will have your shower and you will have a GREAT time. I know its hard but just try to tune it out and tell people your just not talking about it, stop telling you things.... as far as the gifts you will return them no big deal. Best of luck hon, believe me it will be fine! I understand!

Kristin!!

MY FSIL and my cousin (the only bridesmaid who is in the family) are having it out too...I have no idea what for, just FSIL mentioned someone about my cousin not liking her..she did not elaborate, but just siad she thinks they both have very strong personalities. Ok, they do....

So I know a shower must be being planned, I hope I am totally surprised...but for my FSIL to bring up some falling out with my cousin, just really bothers me..she should not mention ANYTHING to me...especially before everything...I am not asking for any details because I really don't care to know....

But Kristin, I hope it all works out in the end and you have a beautiful day!

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this, or that your family is involving you at all. Thats just wrong. I have no advice, just try and hang in there.

I'm so sorry about this. It definitely should not have gotten back to you. I really believe that everything will work out in the end. Why don't you tell them that you don't want a surprise anymore, unless you do, so this way you have some control over it... Let them surprise you with something else...

I am so sorry you had to hear all this. Feel better, we are all here for you.

Sorry!

I had a similar problem with my shower planning between my sisters & my FMIL and FSIL. I listened to the advice of the wise women on this board and finally told them all, FH included 'DONT TELL ME ANYMORE ABOUT MY SHOWER...I DON'T CARE, WORK IT OUT, BUT NOT ONE MORE WORD TO ME!!!!

Guess what? It worked, because my shower was beautiful and everyone got along & worked it out!!!!

Good luck!!!

Don't give up having a shower! You DESERVE IT!!!!!

Oh my God, this sounds like what happened to my SIL. Her SIL and best friend were planning the shower and arguing on where to have it and how much money we all would have to pay and they called my brother when he was away on a business trip and told him that the other was being unreasonable. They called my SIL and told her the same thing.

She didn't want a shower either, but in the end, her mother and my mother got together and threw the shower (but the invites went out from the bridal party) and everything was fine.

Relax and take a break from these people for a few days.

Let FH field all the problems. That is what James had to do. It's too much stress on us.

Thanks everyone I feel a little better today. I went to babysit this morning and the babies father ( he is married to the sis of the pregger) told me not to listen to her shes a biatch. She was upset cause her name wasnt on the invite. So she felt she shouldn't pay. Well I talked to my best friend and she told me she left 'given by' BLANK for that reason.

If it had said 'given by Maid and matron' then I could see being upset but.... I don't understand. No ones names where on there.

On the plus side we got an apt. We rented the upstairs of the house my cousin (the one that I babysit for). And I peeked again I KNOW I KNOW im bad but I cant help and it makes me feel better and someone bought me luggage. I am done no more talk to me. Talk amongst ureself!