Donations instead of favors.

TEDNJENN Posted: Jan 25, 2005 02:36 PM

Donations instead of favors.

we are making a donation in leiu of favors for our wedding .. How exactly do we word the notices that are placed on the tables? if anyone has done this, any advice on wordage is greatly appreciated.

july0105 Posted: Jan 25, 2005 02:50 PM

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I found this wording somewhere and modified it for us....

To Our Family and Friends,

With much thought and consideration, we have chosen a special way to say “Thank You” for sharing our wedding day with us.
In lieu of a traditional wedding favor, we have made donations to

The American Cancer Society
And the
American Heart Association.

These donations are made in your honor as a tribute to
Adrienne and Robert _______.

We feel the finest gift is one, which helps others live longer and healthier lives.
We truly appreciate your being
part of our lives and this special day.

All our love,
Alison and Joe

wood2be Posted: Jan 25, 2005 02:55 PM

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If you can't read this, let me know. We rolled them and tied them with bows.

SomethingBlu Posted: Jan 25, 2005 03:00 PM

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We are donating to the Alzheimer's Foundation and they will provide me with cards to give to the guests. Perhaps you should contact your charity and ask if they have a 'form letter' you can copy.

dandg Posted: Jan 25, 2005 07:11 PM

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We are giving a donation to St. Judes Childrens Hospital and they make up really nice cards for you to place on the tables.

LIbride77 Posted: Jan 25, 2005 08:09 PM

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I have a question regarding donations...
would it be strange to do 2 charities??
I wanted to do one that was important to FI's fam (americanheart.org) and one for my fam (nmss.org).
think I'm spreading to thin?

hmpena Posted: Jan 26, 2005 01:42 AM

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Posted by LIbride77

I have a question regarding donations...
would it be strange to do 2 charities??
I wanted to do one that was important to FI's fam (americanheart.org) and one for my fam (nmss.org).
think I'm spreading to thin?

I don't think this would be strange at all. I think it's a nice idea.

micmar Posted: Jan 26, 2005 06:30 AM

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Posted by july0105

I found this wording somewhere and modified it for us....

To Our Family and Friends,

With much thought and consideration, we have chosen a special way to say “Thank You” for sharing our wedding day with us.
In lieu of a traditional wedding favor, we have made donations to

The American Cancer Society
And the
American Heart Association.

These donations are made in your honor as a tribute to
Adrienne and Robert _______.

We feel the finest gift is one, which helps others live longer and healthier lives.
We truly appreciate your being
part of our lives and this special day.

All our love,
Alison and Joe

That is really nice

Empire State Posted: Jan 26, 2005 09:41 AM

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we are going to donate to 2 different ones too. For those that did or are doing donations--did you do it on a scroll or regular paper. where did you have them made?

David'sbride Posted: Jan 26, 2005 09:58 AM

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You can put them on regular paper and place each one in a frame on the table or one large frame and place it on the placecsrd table.

OSCARtheGROOM Posted: Jan 26, 2005 10:12 AM

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Posted by wood2be

If you can't read this, let me know. We rolled them and tied them with bows.

I can read it. That was very sweet to do that for him. How is he doing if you don't mind me asking?

TEDNJENN Posted: Feb 06, 2005 09:40 PM

Donations instead of favors.

anyone else have sayings?

Kel Posted: Feb 06, 2005 10:42 PM

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I never felt comfortable with the 'in lieu of' phrasing .. reminds me too much of when someone has passed away.

And in my opinion, those kinds of explanations seem like apologies for no favors. And that's just not right .. a wedding is a celebration .. not for guests to expect a favor.

Just be straight forward that a donation was made .. there should be no reason anyone should feel they need to explain they did a donation instead of a 'traditional' favor.

Donations are becoming more and more popular anyway .. so they're becoming their own tradition.

At our wedding, we did a donation, but also a custom CD. We had cards from the foundation we donated to that said a donation had been made to them in honor of our guests .. and the inside of the jewel case insert explained the foundation. The envelopes of the cards served as the place cards, and we used the gold elastic to bind the cards to the CDs.

wood2be Posted: Feb 06, 2005 11:12 PM

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Posted by OSCARtheGROOM

I can read it. That was very sweet to do that for him. How is he doing if you don't mind me asking?

No, thank you for asking! He had chemo for a whole year and has now been clear of cancer for almost 2 years. He just turned 6

Here he is with his Mom, my MOH.

m&m2005 Posted: Feb 07, 2005 08:45 AM

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Just to throw another idea out there. I started doing the scrolls but when I was in Michaels I saw these note cards and tried something different. I like the idea of personalizing each envelope.

TEDNJENN Posted: Feb 08, 2005 11:56 AM

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Okay..what word can replace in leiu of ?
And if you have 2 people you are tributing these donations to , one has passed and the other is alive and fighting her ilness how do you word that without it sounding like both are passed on?

here is what I have but not sure of the wording..
help.....

To Our Family and Friends,

With much thought and consideration,
we have chosen a special way to say
“Thank You” for sharing
our wedding day with us.
In lieu of a traditional wedding favor,
we have made donations to

The American Cancer Society
And the
Lung Cancer Association.

These donations are made in your honor
in memory of Jenn’s mom, XXXXXX
and a tribute to Ted’s mom ,XXXXXX.

We feel the finest gift is one,
which helps others live longer
and healthier lives.
We truly appreciate your being
part of our lives and this special day.

All our love,
Jenn & Ted

pattyp Posted: Feb 08, 2005 01:03 PM

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We are thinking of doing donations instead of favors too, and also to two charities. Thank you for these very helpful suggestions on how to go about it!!