Trying to, but not getting over my proofs...help...

Gonnacatchapeacock Posted: Dec 06, 2005 04:25 PM

Trying to, but not getting over my proofs...help...

For the ladies who were not happy with their proofs, for one reason or another....

How do you let go????
Jeez! I've been trying to accept what I got and move on and the more I push the situation away the more angry I get.

I am so angry today, that I can't even explain it - I want to run down to the studio right now and rehash it all.

ckgmwedding Posted: Dec 06, 2005 04:52 PM

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It does get better. I still get sad when I see amazing pics on this site- especially with the bride and groom not five miles away. I think now that I picked the ones for the album and have it now kind of over with, it helps. Hopefully, the album will be better than the proofs reflect as the owner promised. He also upgraded my album since he agreed our pics were not great so that helped ease the pain too.

lilacwine Posted: Dec 06, 2005 04:56 PM

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My pics are fine, but my video is an embarrassment.

I'm not getting over it...and I don't want to. I paid quite a bit of money to a so-called professional company for a horrible result. It will never be OK that the video guy dropped the camera in the middle of our ring exchange. It will never be OK that the video guy interviewed the distant relatives sitting next to my parents, but not my parents.

One of the reasons we pay so much to 'wedding' vendors is that there's only one chance to get it right and we're paying them to get it right.

lrs2005 Posted: Dec 06, 2005 05:07 PM

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Ugh- my wedding was in August and I still have not gotten over it. I no longer like to look at other peoples wedding photos cause I am upset with my own photos. My parents and inlaws picked thir photos but I have not done it. I have not even gotten my video yet but i did not give my song selection so that is my fault. i am really sad about it actually. i have some non-professional photos that I think I want in my album instead. The photographer said it could be done. I am just really sad about it all.

mable Posted: Dec 07, 2005 12:28 PM

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I am still sad about my pictures.. I keep telling husband we are getting dressed again and taking more..
Mine ar ence shots just crappy cuts and some were too far away..
I pray the video is ok

DAVALJO2 Posted: Dec 07, 2005 01:34 PM

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Posted by mable

I am still sad about my pictures.. I keep telling husband we are getting dressed again and taking more..
Mine ar ence shots just crappy cuts and some were too far away..
I pray the video is ok

I could of written this post. I am actually thinking of retaking our pics. Just me and my DH.

cjik Posted: Dec 08, 2005 09:49 AM

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Actually, retakes are not a bad idea if you are really displeased with your photos. You cannot recapture the day, but it you don't think you got decent photos of yourself & DH, ask your photographer to take a few more to make up for it!

We're happy with our photos, but everything has been slow getting to us. We got a couple extras thrown in, and I think the main reason I haven't gotten more upset about the delay is that I've been incredibly busy since our wedding (some health issues in our family, new job for me, etc.). If those things weren't going on to distract me, this would have bothered me more.

kbeana24 Posted: Dec 10, 2005 03:33 PM

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I was DEFINITELY in the same boat as you.
I was soooooo unhappy with my proofs. I didnt think Id be able to pick out ones for my album cuz there werent enough that I liked. I didnt want to look at them, or see anyone elses pictures becuase it made me so depressed.
I got lots of pics from guests that were great, that made me feel better.

If you want to get dressed up again, go ahead.

Hope it gets better soon.

eogara Posted: Dec 12, 2005 09:38 AM

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I'm still not over it, to be honest. My wedding was 8.5 mos ago and I just picked out my album pics this weekend because every other time I thought about it, it made me nauseous. Now, I just want it over with so I can move on. Of course, even going thru them again for the album started my anger up again (like the fact that we will not have a shot of our first kiss in the album. why? oh, 'cause they didn't get that pic )

SeptWed Posted: Dec 13, 2005 11:49 AM

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It will get better is all i can say. You soon start to realize that while the pictures are important there are brides who had worse things happen and in the end i did get pictures.

However i still get sad when i see new brides pictures realizing how much my guy screwed us.

I did get some extras for all the crap i went through but in the end nothing is going to change what happened so you move on.

Now that my wedding was over a year ago i just have other things to look forward to and i do have an album.

What gets me mad is the fact that these people get so much money for their work adn can hold you hostage even after the wedding. It *****.

ckgmwedding Posted: Dec 13, 2005 12:29 PM

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After reviewing your proofs, I must say I was pleasantly surprised. I thought you all lookedll beautiful and that they got all of your family pics which are the ones you cherish in the years to come. I would kill for a pic with my mom and dad alone. And especially one with my grandma. I think we are just our own harshest critics. You will feel better soon, I promise.

OctRo05 Posted: Dec 16, 2005 03:11 PM

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Can't let it go...still haven't submitted a pic for the thank you (which by the way they were late in getting the proofs to me).
So many reasons in my head (frustrated photographer in me). I am just trying to find the # of pics to put in the album.
Plan on having a discussion with them and considering another photo session.
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Also, the weather was a big factor (the last of the rainstorm week in Oct).
Based upon the reputation, my expectations were high. It was a long way to fall.

103005FallBride Posted: Dec 16, 2005 03:24 PM

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Posted by OctRo05

Can't let it go...still haven't submitted a pic for the thank you (which by the way they were late in getting the proofs to me).
So many reasons in my head (frustrated photographer in me). I am just trying to find the # of pics to put in the album.
Plan on having a discussion with them and considering another photo session.
.
Also, the weather was a big factor (the last of the rainstorm week in Oct).
Based upon the reputation, my expectations were high. It was a long way to fall.

That is really ashame...I can imagine knowing who your photographer is and about what you paid that it would be a big disappointment. I'm so sorry. Are you willing to post some of your proofs? I would love to see some of their work. We were going to book them but decided to cancel our appt and go with another photographer last minute. TIA.

ssnellie Posted: Dec 16, 2005 04:23 PM

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I am still trying to get over it. When I see how many others are unhappy it helps a lot because I don't feel like I'm alone in my misery. We did take some of our pics over so hopefully that will help. It makes me so mad that I have not even picked our album pics yet nor have I worked on my wedding video and we got married in July. I think once I see the re-takes then I can just put this entire thing behind me and just be happy.

mable Posted: Dec 16, 2005 04:27 PM

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for all of us..

Lori0517 Posted: Dec 17, 2005 03:21 PM

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it stinks

EvenEdan Posted: Dec 18, 2005 01:19 AM

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I feel this way about my hair and the beyotch who did my hair the day of my wedding. As far as I'm concerned she ruined my 'getting ready experience' and I hate looking at most of my proofs because of how busted my hair looks. I also have no desire to get my video because of how I looked. I truly hated my hair, even when I walked out the door to go to the church--what a terrible feeling. I just tell myself there is absolutely nothing I can do and try to focus on everything other aspect of our wedding day which was so beautiful. Hard to do sometimes though when pics are your only mementos from the day and yet I hate looking at them.

LImama Posted: Aug 17, 2006 12:50 PM

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Bumping another old post... my daughter and I are researching photographer/videographer, and I'm reading that some recent brides were disappointed with theirs. I did FM them but I don't know if they still check the boards.

If anyone knows who they are referring to, or has contact with one of these former brides, could you FM me, or ask them to post or FM me? Their profiles don't list the name, it just says to FM for info.

It must really hurt to get your proofs or view your video and be so disappointed. I know sometimes great shots are missed or bumbled, but to be so overall sad about the pics.... wishing we can all avoid that.

Thanks!

jenclancy Posted: Aug 17, 2006 02:19 PM

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Honestly sometimes hiring someone who is not part of a 'large studio ' is better. I acutally hired someone off of craigslist who has there own business and creates amazing photographs and another backup photographer so I won't have this problem. On top of that I am putting cameras at all the tables..

I know it stinks when you have blurred photographs..