BIL and SIL are getting a divorce. They split up in January before our wedding..they wre both in the bridal party. BIL has a new girlfriend (they might have been together before the split...not cool but not my business.) Ever since then SIL have been having trouble becasue she gets mad when I talk with BIL or his girlfriend. I am now friends with BIL on facebook and recently added his girlfriend. So of course her status i something about wanting to vomit. I asked her about it and she is mad that there were comments from her on my wall. I don't want to be insensitive because I get where she is coming from but I also feel liek I can't deny being family with BIL and getting to know his girlfriend. Help! I am so annoyed! Sorry for the misspellings and ranting!
PoppedInASnap
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I understand where you are coming from. When my cousin and his wife got divorced a few years ago, I still stayed close with both.
The truth is, is that she will probably be upset for a while, but she will eventually get over it...
She's hurt, and probably angry and seeing someone she was family with having the 'Devil' befriend them, is probably another thorn in her side...
Does this make sense? YOU are doing NOTHING WRONG... just know that <3
MrsDrinkh20
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Posted by PoppedInASnap
I understand where you are coming from. When my cousin and his wife got divorced a few years ago, I still stayed close with both.
The truth is, is that she will probably be upset for a while, but she will eventually get over it...
She's hurt, and probably angry and seeing someone she was family with having the 'Devil' befriend them, is probably another thorn in her side...
Does this make sense? YOU are doing NOTHING WRONG... just know that <3
I so get that and i just don't know what to do! It is so frustrating!
PoppedInASnap
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continue to talk to them all. Don't confront her about anything... just pretend like nothing bothers you...
Because she probably wants you to pick a side, and thats never an option with nice people (like you)
flairforfashion
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Like Jenny says, you are doing nothing wrong. You can't pick sides and it's best to get along with everyone.
MLAngelo
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Wait which one are you actually (or your DH) actually related to. Is it DH's brother or sister?
If it is DH's brother which it sounds like it is, then you need to explain to her that he is family and you have to make an effort to get along with her for the sake of your own marriage. She won't understand or think its right at the moment, but you should explain it to her rationally.
LadyDuda81509
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Sound like she wants you to be on her side and thats it! i totally get where she is coming from, but at the same time its family and you kinda have to be on everyones side! i would just go an and ignore it as best you can. try to keep neutral.
EmiNoa628
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Its a difficult situation to be in! Trust me! BIL is a natural blooded player.. He cheats even in front of his GF! Sad but true.. His GF and I were buddies even when he had his other GF! I never choose any sides becuase they are all just losers! But at the end of the day I will always protect my BIL becuase he is family not his GF of G OD knows how many years!
MLAngelo
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Posted by EmiNoa628
Its a difficult situation to be in! Trust me! BIL is a natural blooded player.. He cheats even in front of his GF! Sad but true.. His GF and I were buddies even when he had his other GF! I never choose any sides becuase they are all just losers! But at the end of the day I will always protect my BIL becuase he is family not his GF of G OD knows how many years!
Sounds like my BIL.. who told his live in girlfriend he had to move out to be closer to work (he lived a whole 20 minutes from work with her). So he moved 10 minutes from work and left her with their dogs. It was basically so he could see other girls too. She is still the one who comes to all family holidays (like our wedding) and they have been together for 3 1/4 years, but she is not the only one we have seen him with nor the only one he spends the night with.
My solution so far has been to try not to get to close to his GF. I think thats everyones solution including his mom's. Although I am convinced she will be around in one capacity forever. I swear DH is not going to be the first to give MIL grandkids. That girl is super anxious to be a mom.
PROBM
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grrr the passive aggresive fb away messages my biggest pet peeve!!!!!! seriously nothing you can do about this except sympathize that she is going through a rough patch and any contact with you is hard no matter what degree
MLAngelo
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grrr the passive aggresive fb away messages my biggest pet peeve!!!!!! seriously nothing you can do about this except sympathize that she is going through a rough patch and any contact with you is hard no matter what degree
Yeah its a childish way to vent your anger. We used to do that on AIM, but we were stupid collegiates. If your an adult, act like one.
