Okay, As most of you know.... my cousin had an emergency liver transplant.... so I understand, the way my family feels.. to a point....
we were togehter on christmas and they started saying that they hope 2010 is better than 2009...and going on.... I am sitting right there!!! 2009 was the BEST year of my life!!!
I don't mean to be selfish, (maybe I do sound that way), but as the year ends, I would reflect on how she is doing now... she is recovering, nicely.....
I guess i just felt a little slighted.... my cousins won't even look at my wedding pictures....
I feel like they would like to pretend my wedding didn't happen....
I am feeling resentful... which is WRONG I know... bottom line, ashley is doing well, thank god!!! And I know what happened was absoultely awful.... but can't we focus on some positive stuff???
I have been with dh for TEN YEARS!!!! I have been waiting for this moment for so long..... and it just sux ya know???
Now I have a feeling another cousin is getting engaged soon , I am sure everyone will be so into that wedding, but not mine.... I am r eally hurt and wish I could do it all again....
I know that there was nothig they could do obviously, and I would NEVER say anything to anyone, I just don't want my wedding to remembered negatively.. ya know??
I know i am ridiculous.... sorry for the vent, but this is the only plac ei can really get this out.. thanks for listening...
MrsDtoBe09
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You are definitely NOT being ridiculous! I don't understand people!?!?! How can you be so inconsiderate?
julesrbf
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Well, I kind of see where they are coming from. They were probably just thinking about what a difficult year it has been for them and their child and they will be happy to put it behind them. Unfortunately, they will probably always see 2009 as the year your cousin had a serious health crisis and nothing more.
Know that they didn't mean anything bad by what they were saying. Of course they wouldn't mean for you to feel slighted ... but I don't blame them for wanting to shut the door on 2009 and look ahead, you know?
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No, I can see where you're coming from. I give you credit for not saying anything after that comment because I most likely would have!
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You are not being totally ridiculous but try to be sympathetic. My wedding was three months after my younger brother died suddenly and although it was one of the best days of my life my parents had a very tough day. I know it can seem like people are being selfish but I guess it is easier to forget the good stuff and dwell on the negative. Ignore people's dumb comments and be thankful you have your family around to piss you off
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I see where you are coming from. I have heard ppl say really bad things about 2009 also. It always makes me a little sad b/c we got married this year, got pregnant, & DH graduated from the police academy. It was a great year for us. I guess to each their own. I am sorry they made you feel that way about your wedding. That really stinks.
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you are not being ridiculous!! its totally understandable!! this was your time! you should enjoy it and be happy about it and everyone else should be there with you on it!!
yes it was very hard to deal with your cousin, but you are soo right! look at the positive! she is doing great now!!!
i feel ya on this one! in my situation its like everyone else around me had great things going on as well that my time had to be shared...
my brother had a baby, my BIL got engaged 2 days before we did, and got married a month after us, my MOH got knocked up and married all in a matter of months!!
i totally feel ya for wanting your time!! enjoy it tho! and try not to let everyone get you down
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Posted by julesrbf
Well, I kind of see where they are coming from. They were probably just thinking about what a difficult year it has been for them and their child and they will be happy to put it behind them. Unfortunately, they will probably always see 2009 as the year your cousin had a serious health crisis and nothing more.
Know that they didn't mean anything bad by what they were saying. Of course they wouldn't mean for you to feel slighted ... but I don't blame them for wanting to shut the door on 2009 and look ahead, you know?
Couldnt have said it better... I dont think they are slighting you or taking anything away from your wedding....but having a liver transplant is a huge deal so they will always see this year as just that. And I think they shouldnt have said anything like in front of you but again...the liver transplant is bigger to them than the wedding was, which is totally understandable.
As long as 09 was the BEST year of your life that is all that matters.... it is your life and that is theres. Hang in there!
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As long as 09 was the BEST year of your life that is all that matters.... it is your life and that is theres. Hang in there!
ita...my sister refers to 09 as her fav yr because her son was born...as long as u love it thats all that matters
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I dont think you are being ridiculous at all but I do see where they are coming from as well! I am sure they didnt say that to hurt you at all, they probably didnt even realize it, and if they did then they are being very insensitve.
2009 will always be YOUR favorite year and like other girls said as long as its your favorite then thats all that matters.
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Posted by gina409
As long as 09 was the BEST year of your life that is all that matters.... it is your life and that is theres. Hang in there!
ita...my sister refers to 09 as her fav yr because her son was born...as long as u love it thats all that matters
I totally agree. Your wedding, although it was shared with so many people (including me, and was great!) it wasnt theirs. There daughters life is more important than anything to them and unfortunately they will remember 2009 as the year she got sick. However you will always remember it as the year you married your DH and had the best day of your life. Its how you feel about it, not anyone else. Dont let it bother you, its still so fresh in there minds. And its a big thing to get over. Your wedding was a wonderful but not life threatening, just life changing...for the good it will always be a wonderful year for us!!
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2009 was very hard for most everyone with the economy. Despite my wedding I know my parents are hoping for a much better 2010. I don't take it personally. I know that they were so happy for our wedding and love having Jason in their family, but that it came at one of the hardest times in my parents lives. You can't take it personally, 2009 was hard for everyone.
I am sure your wedding was the bright spot in an otherwise tough year.
azailia
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I am feeling guilty for being happy about my wedding....
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I am feeling guilty for being happy about my wedding....
Don't feel guilty at all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Be happy, and the next time someone says something about what a terrible year 2009 was, maybe you could interject and say something like 'at least we have the wonderful memories of my wedding in the middle of all the difficult parts of 2009 -- maybe we can all think of it as the year Dana's dream came true and try to forget all the hard times'...
it's worth a shot. At least in your mind, you can look back at this year and smile. There is nothing wrong with you feeling good about 2009 even when they are all dwelling on the negative.
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I was married in Feb of 2009 it was just the most unbelievably wonderful day ever but then at the end of this year we lost our baby & somehow that feeling of losing (in there case almost losing) someone you love is way more powerful then any feeling in the world. I cant explain the difference. Dont be upset with them its just really an emotional journey. Try to understand & think to yourself well at least our year was fantastic!
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There is NO REASON for them to NOT look at your wedding pictures! that's awful!! i sorry!!
We will look at them over and over again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
vent all you want here!!
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There is NO REASON for them to NOT look at your wedding pictures! that's awful!! i sorry!!
We will look at them over and over again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
vent all you want here!!
Thank you Kerri.. that's all I want to do ... vent.... I know its a weird thing and I sound selfish.... But I just wish my wedding wasn't attached with this negativity. Once again,.... its not her fault!!! And I do feel terrible for feeling this way....
