Am I nuts. Repost from Parenting.....

Mike and I have not been trying. We aren't using anything either. We are kinda like if it happens it happens. The night of the wedding was when we threw everything away (sorry tmi).
Some of you may know that I am really considering moving to Florida. The only thing that thing that is keeping me here is my mom. I know I know that sounds NUTS. My mom and I are even close. Its just that my mom thinks Florida is where old people go to die. And a long time ago it might have been like that but its nut anymore. I don't want to move away from my mom and have kids and her not be able to see them whenever she wants. My brother lives there with his son and I see what my mom goes through not being able to see her grandson whenever she wants. The truth is If I goto Florida Mikes grandparents will either buy us a house or give us a nice chunk of change for a house. We are just making ends meet here. Living pay check to pay check (and borrowing money from the wedding fund ).

My mom can't retire for another 3 years. My aunt is moving (soon) and my dad is retired and ready to move to Florida.

I really feel Like im ready to move to Florida but not start a family without my mom (strictly because of not wanting to hurt my moms feelings).

Is it wrong that I am thinking of going on the pill for 2 and half 3 years because this is the time my mom will retire then and she will be able to spend time there. We would love to have a baby now. We have been together for 10 years and we are ready for the next stage of our lives. BUT My mom is really depressed with all the stuff with my brother and what not.

I DON'T KNOW I just can't stop thinking about Florida. I really think moving would be a better opportunity for us.

Kristin, I think I've mentioned that I really don't want to have a baby while living away from my family. I just couldn't do it. I want to see my mom's face when I tell her I'm pregnant, I want her to be there all through my pregnancy to feel the baby move around for the first time, to be there when I go into labor and meet us at the hospital, I want her to hold my baby before anyone besides me or DH...It really scares me to think it might not be this way. I'm very close to my family. Luckily, Seb and I are on the same page as far as time frames go - we won't even think about TTC for probably another 2 years or so.

That said, if you are only waiting because your worried about your mom's feelings, I'm not sure I would wait. You and your DH sound like you are very ready. And, it also seems that there is lots of other family in Florida. Your baby will have his uncle and cousins! And it may just be one more reason for your mom to move down in the end.

Good luck in whatever you choose to do!

Thank you guys. Mike and I sat down and had a long talk last night. I think we've decided that we should hold off on the baby making stuff Until we are financally set. If we are living pay check to pay check now how will we fit a baby into there? We don't want to bring a baby into the world until we have money and also would love to be in a house (which hopefully will be in Florida)

Farrah my mom is pretty much the only one who wont move (except for 2 aunts and cousins who am not close to one who lives downstairs and im sure you remember the halloween decorations) My Brother is there with his son, Mikes sister just moved there (20 minutes from My brother) Mikes mom and dad (10 minutes from mikes sister this could possible be the only thing that makes me stay here ) Mikes Grandparents and brother who are also like 10 to 30 minutes from my brother. My aunt is moving (she works for usair and is waiting for them to go under ) The problem is my dad had to retire early (he got hurt on the job) and my mom says she can't think of early retirment time because she won't be eligible for her pention for three years.