Anyone else starting to freak about the biological clock?

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Posted by Snickers76

I am going to turn 32 in May, which is when DH and I will probably start REALLY trying, not just talking about trying!

My sis is 34 and is also taking her time...when the time is right you will know it!!

Erin

PS- Would have never guessed in a MILLION years that you are turning 34! You look freakin' awesome.

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Posted by PreshusSmurf

Awww Tara, I think a lot of us can empathize on this one ...

I wonder if it has something to do with the new ... that's a big factor for us before we start working on ....

Now that you guys have the house, maybe you are starting to look forward to the next step in life?

I also think, that since our generation started to establish themselves in a career first (before marriage and a family), it might only be a natural thing to not feel a need to 'enjoy married life' for an extended period of time. Especially those of us who lived together in our relationships ... for us, we lived together for years before we were engaged.

I will probably be in your same shoes once we buy a house (hopefully by the end of the year).

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Posted by cookiemonster

It's only natural for you to feel this way now that you're married, own a house, feel comfortable in your career, etc. It's completely normal and understandable. I feel like everyone has some long-standing idea in their head about when they wanted to have kids and few of us actually stick to that for one reason or another. When we realize we're not quite where we imagined, it's easy to feel scared or disappointed in yourself.

If you don't feel like you're ready for kids, you shouldn't have them yet. I know that is easier said than done when you're feeling like maybe you'd be starting too late, but the last thing you'd want is the stress of not being 100% sure of other aspects of your life when you started to take such a big step.

Maybe one thing you could do to make yourself feel a little better is go visit your gyn and talk to him/her about your concerns. Nobody can give any of us a 100% guarantee that everything will go according to plan when the time comes but at least you could rule out any big problems - that might reassure you that you're not up against a wall.

Whenever you do decide to become a mom you're gonna be great at it. Just take your time and don't rush into it just to beat the clock

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Posted by Dee606

Yes!! I totally am freaking out about this. I know that I am not ready yet because I still want to travel & I want to be selfish & have DH all to myself for a little while.

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Posted by GettinHutched

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Posted by cookiemonster

It's only natural for you to feel this way now that you're married, own a house, feel comfortable in your career, etc. It's completely normal and understandable. I feel like everyone has some long-standing idea in their head about when they wanted to have kids and few of us actually stick to that for one reason or another. When we realize we're not quite where we imagined, it's easy to feel scared or disappointed in yourself.

If you don't feel like you're ready for kids, you shouldn't have them yet. I know that is easier said than done when you're feeling like maybe you'd be starting too late, but the last thing you'd want is the stress of not being 100% sure of other aspects of your life when you started to take such a big step.

Maybe one thing you could do to make yourself feel a little better is go visit your gyn and talk to him/her about your concerns. Nobody can give any of us a 100% guarantee that everything will go according to plan when the time comes but at least you could rule out any big problems - that might reassure you that you're not up against a wall.

Whenever you do decide to become a mom you're gonna be great at it. Just take your time and don't rush into it just to beat the clock

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Thank you soooo much for your awesome advice! I know I can't rush it. It really is just the clock making me feel like this...and you totally hit the nail on the head- I definitely feel scared and disappointed in myself.

Thanks again!

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Posted by GettinHutched

Thanks Jess....that IS part of it...I totally wanted to enjoy being married for a few years. Sometimes I get so pissed that it took this long for us to get married (we were together 5 years before)...but I know we did the logical thing (though I didn't TOTALLY agree with it ) It's just the age factor bugging me....

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Posted by cookiemonster


Anytime

I meant to add that my mom had me when she was almost 40 and that was without all the advanced technology they have today, and everything was fine. Having a doc reassure you that you're generally in good health (you certainly seem to be!) might do a great deal to make you feel better.

In the meantime you can tell the clock to shut it because 2, possibly 3 of the 4 major food groups at Yankee Stadium would be totally off limits if you were pg - beer, hot dogs and (some docs would say b/c of possible allergies) excessive quantities peanuts! How bad would that kill your game enjoyment?

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Posted by GettinHutched

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Posted by cookiemonster


Anytime

I meant to add that my mom had me when she was almost 40 and that was without all the advanced technology they have today, and everything was fine. Having a doc reassure you that you're generally in good health (you certainly seem to be!) might do a great deal to make you feel better.

In the meantime you can tell the clock to shut it because 2, possibly 3 of the 4 major food groups at Yankee Stadium would be totally off limits if you were pg - beer, hot dogs and (some docs would say b/c of possible allergies) excessive quantities peanuts! How bad would that kill your game enjoyment?

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you think of everything!

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