Did/do you feel

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Jun 12, 2006 09:42 PM

Did/do you feel

really weird about changing your name? I put his on the marriage certificate, but feel really reluctant and uncomfortable about using it. I know he really wants me to, but I am having issues letting go. Can I still be Lauren Maiden name His name even though I only put Lauren His Name on the marriage certificate? How does all this work?

curliegirl Posted: Jun 12, 2006 10:03 PM

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I am having issues with it as well. I still use my maiden name on practically everything, even though my license is in my married name. I only use my married name for new things....

Goldi1021 Posted: Jun 12, 2006 10:11 PM

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Not one issue whatsoever.

Colleen1230 Posted: Jun 12, 2006 10:43 PM

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I'm having issues, it's not that I don't want to use his name, I just feel weird doing it. I want to be Colleen HisName, but I still want to be Colleen MadienName. Does that make sense?

kissy27 Posted: Jun 13, 2006 07:21 AM

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I didn't have any issues...My DH was actually surprised how quickly I changed all my items. Only thing left is my passport!

VickiC Posted: Jun 13, 2006 08:34 AM

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I just added his name to my maiden name so at SS they took Vicki MaidenName Hislastname with no issues whatsoever. I didn't have a middle name to begin with so moving my maiden name wasn't a problem.

It was strange to think of myself with a new name, but now it's almost second nature.

curliegirl Posted: Jun 13, 2006 09:00 AM

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Posted by VickiC

I just added his name to my maiden name so at SS they took Vicki MaidenName Hislastname with no issues whatsoever. I didn't have a middle name to begin with so moving my maiden name wasn't a problem.

It was strange to think of myself with a new name, but now it's almost second nature.

But didn't DMV giive you a problem with that? They wouldn't let me make my maiden name my middle name.......but I could at SS.....

leese Posted: Jun 13, 2006 09:13 AM

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Posted by Goldi1021

Not one issue whatsoever.

Goldi set me straight.

It's one of those things that *you think* will be so devastating, and then when you do it and get it ALL over with (meaning, you change everything over)...you are like, 'wow, that's not so bad.'

Seriously, I feel silly for how I acted before. My passport should come in a few days and I am done.

Interesting story, I was out the other night and his BestMan asked me what my maiden name was (yeah, he had no clue) and I didn't hear him correctly and I said (rather loudly), MARRIEDNAME.

I surprised myself for calling myself by my new name, and not the old.

SPITSBRIDE Posted: Jun 13, 2006 09:34 AM

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I didn't have an issue, I couldn't wait to take my DH's name however it was a bit sad changing names being my last name was a part of me and who I was all my life.

103005FallBride Posted: Jun 13, 2006 11:31 AM

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I felt a little weird about it at first...it's was hard to give up my name. Now...I go by both. I still have yet to legally change my name, but I answer to it all.

Danigrl28 Posted: Jun 13, 2006 12:00 PM

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I have to say I didn't have any issue chaning my name but I haven't done it on everything. I changed my SS & license but I haven't changed my banking or credit cards yet.

nygirl77 Posted: Jun 13, 2006 12:22 PM

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I'm feeling a bit reluctant myself - I'm so used to my maiden name. I'm not changing it at work - but I will change it everywhere else, eventually.

RVCBride Posted: Jun 13, 2006 12:53 PM

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I changed my last name almost immediately, (SS, banks, DMV, CC, work, etc...)

It was exciting and sad at the same time.

o17range Posted: Jun 13, 2006 01:31 PM

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At first no. I wasn't psyched to change names, but it was part of the whole 'getting married' stuff. Now, after a year, I'm considering changing my name again to add BACK my last name so I'd be hyphenated instead of just Emily His Last name (which it legally is now). These days, though, people could call me 'hey you' and it wouldn't matter.

VickiC Posted: Jun 13, 2006 01:58 PM

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Posted by curliegirl

Posted by VickiC

I just added his name to my maiden name so at SS they took Vicki MaidenName Hislastname with no issues whatsoever. I didn't have a middle name to begin with so moving my maiden name wasn't a problem.

It was strange to think of myself with a new name, but now it's almost second nature.

But didn't DMV giive you a problem with that? They wouldn't let me make my maiden name my middle name.......but I could at SS.....

My whole entire name on the license wouldn't work because it's way too long. DMV wouldn't allow me to even put the middle initial. So my license is just Vicki Hislastname.

JenNeen Posted: Jun 13, 2006 03:13 PM

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My only issue was (and is) at work. Everyone at work called me by my last name (Maiden of course). I thought changing my name on everything right away would help, but it didn't.

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Jun 13, 2006 04:25 PM

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I definitely felt weird about it, sad too.

but I got used it to pretty fast.

JodiBabe Posted: Jun 13, 2006 08:57 PM

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It did not feel weird to me at all & in fact I couldn't wait to change my name. The only thing that took me a looooooong time to do (like 9 months) was SS just because I dreaded going there but in the end I didn't go, my DH took all the paperwork down early in the morning on his way home from a night shift.

I actually considered hyphenating our names but then realized how D*** long that would be to sign since my maiden name was 8 letters & 5 syllables & his name is 6 letters & 2 syllables. I love my middle name so I wasnt willing to give that up. My maiden name is very italian which I am mostly irish anyway so I went the easy way & dropped the long italian name & tooke the shorter Maltese name.