Fighting at work with DH...........

Would you do it if you were sitting in cubicles surrounded by people??

this woman that sits about 3 feet from me is having a HEATED argument with her husband and basically saying he treats her like shiot for the past 23 years...etc..etc..etc..

& um I just feel that this is SO inappropriate at work?? & I would be embarassed to fight with Matt like that if people can CLEARLY hear you. & frankly it's making me a little uncomfortable.

I mean I've told matt he's an idiot or being jerk on the phone at work lol but NEVER would have a HEATED argument!!

although it does serve some entertainment value....

yeah -- i would feel soooooo awkward if she was doing that and the whole office can hear.

i assume she doesn't do this often? maybe she just snapped and isn't thinking about how it sounds. sometimes our hubbies know how to push the right buttons.

i work with my dad in our office---so i wouldn't want to fight and he can hear my business. DH works in a high stress environment as it is....so i wouldn't want to have him distracted at work.

probably would rather just hold off the fight till later. or just battle thru txt.

i work in a cube and when DH and i fight i talk with my lips practically touching my desk
but really i only talk to him for like one minute when we fight then i will hiss 'i will talk to you LATER'

but people do that all the time at my job
worse is how people talk to their kids!! they are so mean!!

I wouldnt, for many reasons.
I would save it for when I get home

at least you have some entertainment for today, but i could never fight with him while i am at work, i work in a tiny office with a total of 4 people including me

there has been some times that at work he called and i could have easily had an arguement with him, but i just say i am at work and can not talk about this now, i will call you on my lunch or we will talk aboout it when i get home

and honestly i rather talk about it when we get home bc usually by them , we both are calmed down and talk about it instead of screaming

i have to say i would feel terribly weird to be around that, however, if you are in a bad relationship - sometimes it's not all about 'when' you fight, as much as it is, 'i can't let this go'.

I only say this because my ex was bi-polar (and terribly mentally abusive) and sometimes, the ONLY time i felt confident enough to speak up for myself was when we weren't in the same room together, but on the phone...

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Posted by PegaLega

I wouldnt, for many reasons.
I would save it for when I get home

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Let him be tortured all day thinking about the fury that will be unleashed on him when you arrive home .

we have a rule....

if he calls me at work to argue, it won't be a fair fight bc i'll just keep hanging up or have my secretary tell him i died.......


not only is it totally embarassing, but i don't need my patients to hear it either

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Posted by davenjess


I only say this because my ex was bi-polar (and terribly mentally abusive) and sometimes, the ONLY time i felt confident enough to speak up for myself was when we weren't in the same room together, but on the phone...

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That is awful . Thank God he is now your ex!!!

This is hard, we work together so we have had fights where i have gotten upset or he has gotten upset and its embarassing no doubt about it.

We have been married for a month and there is nothign to fight about but we are still in the honeymoon stage


In the past i have been so embarassed fighting in teh office, its the worst

I have !! And none of my co-workers messed with me anymore after that

My former boss always gets into it w/her boyfriend on the phone at work. She talks to him like he's her child... we're talking about people in their 40s!! It's really sad. And I feel embarrassed that I can hear everything... like I'm eavesdropping, but not. I don't have a choice! Seriously, if the argument is getting that heated, either pick it up on your cell phone and walk into a conference room or something or just save it for later!!! VERY unprofessional and inappropriate IMO.

Fortunately, if DH and I need to argue about anything during work, we usually do it over email!! hahaha

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Posted by 040508Bride
if he calls me at work to argue, it won't be a fair fight bc i'll just keep hanging up or have my secretary tell him i died.......

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LMAO!!



i don't work with DH but if one of our phone conversations ends up in an argument i won't get all hysterical on him cause i wait to get home for the good stuff

OMG i could NEVER do this with DH, he's tried to instigate a few times (he gets off work at 2:30pm, so that leaves 2.5 hours where he can start crap while I'm at work!). I used to just make lots of 'mmm hmm' and monosyllabic grunts, but I've discovered the 'FORWARD TO VOICE MAIL' feature on my phone is PRICELESS for this kind of scenario. It gets him really annoyed too, so that's a bonus.

With that said, we've only been married 8 months. Check back with me in 20 years and see if I'm still being so 'discreet' when DH irritates me at the office. Maybe by then we can communicate with holograms or something and I can give him a virtual b!tch slap.

i share an office with 3 women! i would never. i know i've gotten agitated before but then i hang up and say what i have to say on email depending how fired up i am .


but in any case, just grab some and enjoy the show at work!

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Posted by davenjess

i have to say i would feel terribly weird to be around that, however, if you are in a bad relationship - sometimes it's not all about 'when' you fight, as much as it is, 'i can't let this go'.

I only say this because my ex was bi-polar (and terribly mentally abusive) and sometimes, the ONLY time i felt confident enough to speak up for myself was when we weren't in the same room together, but on the phone...

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I was thinking the same thing. Imagine yourself in the WORST relationship ever (I understand, some of us never had that)..sometimes you just dont care where you are..you are just so upset you want to let it all out. However, it def. is inappropriate and VERY awkward to be around..sorry you had to deal with that