FIL vent

I can't deal with him anymore. Every time I see him, since the day we announced our engagement, about kids. Then the closer it came to the wedding more often his questions started coming. About 2 months before the wedding he started asking me almost on a weekly basis when are we going to have kids. It's been a bit over 3 months after the wedding and today when DH wasn't around his dad asked me 'who in your family is against kids?'
The problem is that we are not against kids, we want them, just not now. I really want them as soon as possible, but DH wants to wait a bit. His dad thinks that the is no family without kids, so he's been pushing the topic on us all the time, blaming me in not wanting to give him grandkids.

I don't know how to deal with them anymore. It's really annoying and hurtful to be blamed for something that not my fault.

You just got married, how about you enjoy being married. Try to not let him get to you, you guys have plenty of time to have kids.

Thats got to be so annoying!! Sorry you have to deal with that!!

Maybe Try Talking to him & Be Honest.

Tell your FIL that you 2 are Not Ready Yet...& it would Not be Fair to Bring a Baby into this world when you 2 are not ready.

That's why we are Waiing. We are just not ready yet. I think it would be unfair to have a Baby...when we just don't want to have them yet.

How Awkard!!!!

Sorry you have to go through this on a Weekly Basis.

I Hope he realizes that he is Being UnFair to you.

Thanks girls. Unfortunately he does not realise that he is being unfair to us.

Telling him that we want to wait does not work either. They've been asking DH to give them grandkids for the past 7 years, even before we met, so he is used to it. As for me, I do want kids as soon as possible, but at the same time I am a bit scared, so I am willing to wait until DH is ready. For now we decided to wait for a year and see.

The problem is that in Russia (where we are both from) people were getting married early and had kids by the time they were 22-24 and me being 24 and DH 30, they thinks that we are old already.

Tell him you guys arent ready...and at any point that he would like to 'fund' your child rearing wtih toys, clothing, bottles, milk, food, 3am wake up calls, unlimited free baby sitting, etc. that you will be more then happy to oblige

Maybe that will shut him up

Jeez! It's funny cause you usually hear the woman talking like this more than the men.
If my FIL was being a PITA like that I would probably tell him I was sterile.
JK. I would definitely let him know that you guys aren't ready yet. You want to enjoy yourselves before you start devoting your attention to a child.
What does DH have to say about this since he is the one that really wants to wait.

I also think that a lot of times people, particularly in laws, talk about this stuff to make conversation about something to look forward to and don't realize how INCREDIBLY ANNOYING it is. Everytime someone brings it up with us I go NUTS.....so I know how you feel