For Those Who have Children Already ..with poll

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Posted by queenschic

How long did it take you to Conceive?

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That's a good question, don't have any kids yet but I always worry about that specially because I'm 31

there is no 'definitive' answer to this question...

my doctor put it best - if you have timed intercourse for a full year, your chances are still only 50%.

It's different for EVERYONE....just as a lot of TTC things are.

For us - it took 7 cycles.

For a close friend - she's on month 15, for another, she didn't even ovulate after coming off the birth control pill for 8 months and FINALLY conceived after 11 months....

Good luck to you!

I will give you my run down
#1 I was 18 we concieved the first time we didnt use anything but I miscarried

#2 ( 3 mnths after my miscarriage)I got smart and used condoms but it broke and yup I concieved

#3 ( I was 24)first try ( the pull out method doesnt work)

#4 ( I was 28)1st try also

HTH

ETA: I was told after my miscarriage I couldnt have kids b/c I have a tilted Uterus I really need to find the doc that told me this and show him up

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Posted by zoe282

I have been a lurker on the TTC board for a while and what someone said above is very true. Everyone is so very different! There are people who get pregnant without even trying, people who try for a short time and it happens and people who try for a VERY long time. Unfortunatly getting pregant is one of those things where you won't know if its a problem until you try...and that's a scary thing to think about...

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It's definitely scary. Even though I'm a super anxious and a worrier I'll try to stay and think positive when it comes time TTC

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Posted by vmystique33

I will give you my run down
#1 I was 18 we concieved the first time we didnt use anything but I miscarried

#2 ( 3 mnths after my miscarriage)I got smart and used condoms but it broke and yup I concieved

#3 ( I was 24)first try ( the pull out method doesnt work)

#4 ( I was 28)1st try also

HTH

ETA: I was told after my miscarriage I couldnt have kids b/c I have a tilted Uterus I really need to find the doc that told me this and show him up

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That's amazing! God bless!

I have stalked TTC, and it doesn’t have much activity, which is why i posted it here, hope you guys don’t mind, but I really wanted answers.

I heard the same thing, even with TIMED intercourse you still only have a 50/50 shot ...which seems crazy to me when i see the amount of unwanted children out there and hear all the stories about how it was ONE time, for 5 seconds, we used 5 condoms and now im pregnant with triplets...ugh.

You spend a majority of your life PRAYING you wont be, then the time comes, where u actually WANT it, and nothing....its only been 2 months for us, but i was under the very naive impression ok, i stopped bc, we have sex, boom, I get pregnant! but alas, this is NOT true and I’m starting to worry :(
p.s congrats vmystique33 !!!

I got knocked up so we weren't TRYING.

but put it this way.... it was a MIRACLE I got pregnant.. there are so many factors involved...

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Posted by queenschic

I have stalked TTC, and it doesn’t have much activity, which is why i posted it here, hope you guys don’t mind, but I really wanted answers.

I heard the same thing, even with TIMED intercourse you still only have a 50/50 shot ...which seems crazy to me when i see the amount of unwanted children out there and hear all the stories about how it was ONE time, for 5 seconds, we used 5 condoms and now im pregnant with triplets...ugh.

You spend a majority of your life PRAYING you wont be, then the time comes, where u actually WANT it, and nothing....its only been 2 months for us, but i was under the very naive impression ok, i stopped bc, we have sex, boom, I get pregnant! but alas, this is NOT true and I’m starting to worry :(
p.s congrats vmystique33 !!!

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there is nothing wrong with you, this happens to a large percentage of women. I think the problem is that some women do think its that easy and dont realize that it doesnt just happen that way and then they get nervous about something that is normal. It is normal to have to try for months, theres no reason to get scared about that. It takes the average fertile couple 5-6 months to conceive.

Here are some facts:

6.1 million couples in the US alone go through this

The truth is that hundreds of variables must coincide precisely for conception to occur and for a woman's body to successfully maintain a pregnancy for nine months. The average couple, ages 29 to 33, with no fertility problems, has about a 20 to 25 percent chance of getting pregnant in any given month (or menstrual cycle).

There is no 'typical' infertile patient. Ovulation and sperm deficiencies are the most common infertility problems, accounting for two-thirds of all cases.

Less common fertility problems for women include structural problems or scarring of the fallopian tubes and/or uterus caused by pelvic inflammatory disease or endometriosis (a condition causing adhesions and cysts), uterine fibroids or congenital (birth) defects.

Sperm deficiencies can include low sperm production (oligospermia) or lack of sperm (azoospermia). Sperm may also have poor motility — they don't move properly once inside the female reproductive tract to achieve fertilization. Additionally, sperm cells may be malformed or may die before they can reach the egg.

About one-third of infertility cases can be attributed to male factors, and about one-third to factors that affect women. Roughly one-third of infertility is couple-related, with a combination of problems in both partners impeding fertility.

and here are 8 surprising fertility facts

Fertility Fact #1: Overall good health isn't necessarily a sign that you (or your partner, for that matter) are fertile.
You exercise regularly, eat a nutritious diet, and have enviable cholesterol and blood pressure levels. That's great, but it doesn't mean you're fertile. One in 10 healthy couples of reproductive age will experience fertility problems. The causes are variable and equally attributed one-third of the time to the female, one-third of the time to the male, and one-third to unidentifiable reasons or to both partners. Unfortunately, the biggest factor that impacts fertility is something none of us can control: age, says Sam Thatcher, MD, a reproductive endocrinologist at the Center for Applied Reproductive Science in Johnson City, Tennessee, and author of Making a Baby: Everything You Need to Know to Get Pregnant (Ballantine, 2000).

For healthy women, fertility peaks in their mid 20s, begins declining at age 27, then nosedives around age 37. If you are in your mid 30s or older and trying to conceive, you need to be very pointed in your efforts, Dr. Thatcher advises. That means figuring out when you're ovulating and having sex at those optimal times. And if you're over 35 and concerned about your fertility, don't settle for a gynecologist saying 'Just give it time,' cautions Dr. Thatcher. The American Society of Reproductive Medicine advises women age 35 or older to consult a fertility specialist if they fail to get pregnant after six months of unprotected intercourse. Women ages 37 to 40 should wait no longer than three months.

Fertility Fact #2: Your weight affects your ability to conceive.
Surprise! Twelve percent of all infertility cases are rooted in weight issues. If your body is chronically malnourished or overexercised, you can't menstruate, since a minimum of 22 percent body fat is necessary for normal ovulation and reproductive competence. On the other side of the scale, being overweight can alter hormone chemistry and help prevent conception. The good news is that shedding or gaining pounds can easily remedy weight-related infertility; more than 70 percent of women conceive spontaneously once they reach healthy weight parameters. Doctors consider a body mass index (BMI) between 19 and 25 ideal. (BMI = weight in pounds divided by height in inches, divided by height in inches again, multiplied by 703. Example: 135 pounds, divided by 66 inches, divided by 66 inches, multiplied by 703 = BMI 22.)

Weight not only potentially impacts fertility but pregnancy as well. According to the March of Dimes, overweight women who become pregnant are at greater risk for pregnancy-related high blood pressure and diabetes, and underweight women are more likely to deliver a low birth weight baby. If you are at a reasonable weight and trying to conceive, now is not the time to begin training for a marathon or go on a crash diet.

Fertility Fact #3: Sexual positions — coital or postcoital — don't affect your chances of conception.
No study has confirmed that one position is more effective than any other in achieving pregnancy. In fact, sperm can be found in the cervical canal mere seconds after ejaculation, regardless of position. Of course, aiming for the deepest penetration and maximum cervical contact makes sense, but the optimal position varies because every woman's body is different.
And since sperm start swimming immediately after ejaculation, it isn't necessary for a woman to become a gymnast or a yoga master to make a baby. There may be a little advantage to lying around after intercourse to keep the sperm inside you, but there's absolutely no value in standing on your head, says Dr. Thatcher. So savor the mood however you please.

Fertility Fact #4: The biological clock ticks for men too.
The notion that age-related fertility decline is only a female factor has been debunked by a recent British study. Researchers at Bristol and Brunel Universities evaluated 8,500 couples to determine the impact of age on the length of time it took to conceive. They discovered that while only 8 percent of men younger than 25 fail to impregnate their partner after a year of trying, that number grows to 15 percent after age 35. Despite other factors, such as the fact that frequency of intercourse drops off with age, the study suggests that paternal age, too, may be a consideration for couples struggling with infertility.

Fertility Fact #5: Ovulation day is not necessarily the best day to try to conceive a child.
Sperm can live in the female reproductive tract for up to three days after intercourse, so having sex every day, or even on ovulation day, is not necessary. What is critical is knowing when you are fertile. According to data from the AIA, 20 percent of couples seeking infertility treatment are not timing intercourse correctly.

A woman is fertile for a period of six days, the five days leading up to ovulation (when the egg is released from the ovary) and the day of ovulation. A study by the National Institute of Environmental Sciences found, much to the researchers' surprise, that a woman 's capacity to conceive seems to end on ovulation day. So if women charting their basal body temperature are waiting for their temperature to go up to have intercourse, they're too late, warns Melissa Holmes, MD, associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the Medical University of South Carolina in Charleston. She recommends using ovulation kits because they let you know when you're about to ovulate. Having sex on the two days prior to ovulation offers the greatest chance of conception.

Fertility Fact #6: However brief your partner's particular choice of underwear, it's unlikely that it will impact his fertility.
Up until several years ago, future dads were discouraged from wearing briefs because their tight fit held the testicles close to the body, raising scrotal temperature and causing a decrease in sperm count or concentration. And while it is true that very high temperatures can be harmful to sperm, choice of underwear does not heat things up enough to make an impact, according to two recent studies. So if briefs (or bikinis, for that matter) are more likely to heat things up between you and your partner, stock up on those Jockeys!

Fertility Fact #7: Birth control choices have fertility implications.
It sounds like a cruel joke, but it's true, says Dr. Holmes. The method of contraception that a woman has used may also impact conception. Women who used progesterone injections of Depo-Provera may have to wait for normal fertility to resume after they've stopped using the drug. It may take women who use Lunelle, another injectable form of birth control, six months to a year to have a normal menstrual and ovulation cycle.
And while many women believe that the effects of the pill linger long after they stop using it, that's yet another myth. Furthermore, it's not necessary to wait several cycles to 'wash out' oral contraceptives before getting started. In fact, immediately after the pill is stopped, there can be an ovulatory rebound effect, resulting in a super-fertile period. Despite the increased chances of conceiving right after stopping the pill, Dr. Holmes still recommends most of her patients go off it two or three months prior to trying to conceive. That way, you can more predictably determine the length of your cycle, identify your fertile days, and be able to better date when you conceived once you actually do get pregnant.

Oral contraceptives also help to preserve fertility — pill users have a decreased risk of illnesses that harm fertility, such as endometriosis. The bottom line? Take stock of your birth control choices before you decide you want to get pregnant.

Fertility Fact #8: Specific foods or diets do not have a large impact on fertility.
There is no magic diet that will increase the chances of sperm meeting egg; the best thing you can do is eat a diet high in nutrients and fiber and cut down on your consumption of highly processed foods. It's also important for couples trying to conceive to get plenty of folic acid, which helps prevent birth defects and can improve sperm count.

And while you may have heard that caffeine can hamper conception, don't toss out your favorite mug just yet. Though there have been reports that women who drank more than one cup of coffee daily were half as likely to conceive per cycle as those who drank less, researchers acknowledge that delayed conception could have been attributed to other factors, and subsequent studies have failed to find a significant link between moderate amounts of caffeine and fertility.

Some research has shown that zinc may improve sperm count, but don't go overboard on any one nutrient. Like so many things in life, fertility thrives on balance.

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by queenschic

I have stalked TTC, and it doesn’t have much activity, which is why i posted it here, hope you guys don’t mind, but I really wanted answers.

I heard the same thing, even with TIMED intercourse you still only have a 50/50 shot ...which seems crazy to me when i see the amount of unwanted children out there and hear all the stories about how it was ONE time, for 5 seconds, we used 5 condoms and now im pregnant with triplets...ugh.

You spend a majority of your life PRAYING you wont be, then the time comes, where u actually WANT it, and nothing....its only been 2 months for us, but i was under the very naive impression ok, i stopped bc, we have sex, boom, I get pregnant! but alas, this is NOT true and I’m starting to worry :(
p.s congrats vmystique33 !!!

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there is nothing wrong with you, this happens to a large percentage of women. I think the problem is that some women do think its that easy and dont realize that it doesnt just happen that way and then they get nervous about something that is normal. It is normal to have to try for months, theres no reason to get scared about that. It takes the average fertile couple 5-6 months to conceive.

Here are some facts:

6.1 million couples in the US alone go through this

The truth is that hundreds of variables must coincide precisely for conception to occur and for a woman's body to successfully maintain a pregnancy for nine months. The average couple, ages 29 to 33, with no fertility problems, has about a 20 to 25 percent chance of getting pregnant in any given month (or menstrual cycle).

There is no 'typical' infertile patient. Ovulation and sperm deficiencies are the most common infertility problems, accounting for two-thirds of all cases.

Less common fertility problems for women include structural problems or scarring of the fallopian tubes and/or uterus caused by pelvic inflammatory disease or endometriosis (a condition causing adhesions and cysts), uterine fibroids or congenital (birth) defects.

Sperm deficiencies can include low sperm production (oligospermia) or lack of sperm (azoospermia). Sperm may also have poor motility — they don't move properly once inside the female reproductive tract to achieve fertilization. Additionally, sperm cells may be malformed or may die before they can reach the egg.

About one-third of infertility cases can be attributed to male factors, and about one-third to factors that affect women. Roughly one-third of infertility is couple-related, with a combination of problems in both partners impeding fertility.

and here are 8 surprising fertility facts

Fertility Fact #1: Overall good health isn't necessarily a sign that you (or your partner, for that matter) are fertile.
You exercise regularly, eat a nutritious diet, and have enviable cholesterol and blood pressure levels. That's great, but it doesn't mean you're fertile. One in 10 healthy couples of reproductive age will experience fertility problems. The causes are variable and equally attributed one-third of the time to the female, one-third of the time to the male, and one-third to unidentifiable reasons or to both partners. Unfortunately, the biggest factor that impacts fertility is something none of us can control: age, says Sam Thatcher, MD, a reproductive endocrinologist at the Center for Applied Reproductive Science in Johnson City, Tennessee, and author of Making a Baby: Everything You Need to Know to Get Pregnant (Ballantine, 2000).

For healthy women, fertility peaks in their mid 20s, begins declining at age 27, then nosedives around age 37. If you are in your mid 30s or older and trying to conceive, you need to be very pointed in your efforts, Dr. Thatcher advises. That means figuring out when you're ovulating and having sex at those optimal times. And if you're over 35 and concerned about your fertility, don't settle for a gynecologist saying 'Just give it time,' cautions Dr. Thatcher. The American Society of Reproductive Medicine advises women age 35 or older to consult a fertility specialist if they fail to get pregnant after six months of unprotected intercourse. Women ages 37 to 40 should wait no longer than three months.

Fertility Fact #2: Your weight affects your ability to conceive.
Surprise! Twelve percent of all infertility cases are rooted in weight issues. If your body is chronically malnourished or overexercised, you can't menstruate, since a minimum of 22 percent body fat is necessary for normal ovulation and reproductive competence. On the other side of the scale, being overweight can alter hormone chemistry and help prevent conception. The good news is that shedding or gaining pounds can easily remedy weight-related infertility; more than 70 percent of women conceive spontaneously once they reach healthy weight parameters. Doctors consider a body mass index (BMI) between 19 and 25 ideal. (BMI = weight in pounds divided by height in inches, divided by height in inches again, multiplied by 703. Example: 135 pounds, divided by 66 inches, divided by 66 inches, multiplied by 703 = BMI 22.)

Weight not only potentially impacts fertility but pregnancy as well. According to the March of Dimes, overweight women who become pregnant are at greater risk for pregnancy-related high blood pressure and diabetes, and underweight women are more likely to deliver a low birth weight baby. If you are at a reasonable weight and trying to conceive, now is not the time to begin training for a marathon or go on a crash diet.

Fertility Fact #3: Sexual positions — coital or postcoital — don't affect your chances of conception.
No study has confirmed that one position is more effective than any other in achieving pregnancy. In fact, sperm can be found in the cervical canal mere seconds after ejaculation, regardless of position. Of course, aiming for the deepest penetration and maximum cervical contact makes sense, but the optimal position varies because every woman's body is different.
And since sperm start swimming immediately after ejaculation, it isn't necessary for a woman to become a gymnast or a yoga master to make a baby. There may be a little advantage to lying around after intercourse to keep the sperm inside you, but there's absolutely no value in standing on your head, says Dr. Thatcher. So savor the mood however you please.

Fertility Fact #4: The biological clock ticks for men too.
The notion that age-related fertility decline is only a female factor has been debunked by a recent British study. Researchers at Bristol and Brunel Universities evaluated 8,500 couples to determine the impact of age on the length of time it took to conceive. They discovered that while only 8 percent of men younger than 25 fail to impregnate their partner after a year of trying, that number grows to 15 percent after age 35. Despite other factors, such as the fact that frequency of intercourse drops off with age, the study suggests that paternal age, too, may be a consideration for couples struggling with infertility.

Fertility Fact #5: Ovulation day is not necessarily the best day to try to conceive a child.
Sperm can live in the female reproductive tract for up to three days after intercourse, so having sex every day, or even on ovulation day, is not necessary. What is critical is knowing when you are fertile. According to data from the AIA, 20 percent of couples seeking infertility treatment are not timing intercourse correctly.

A woman is fertile for a period of six days, the five days leading up to ovulation (when the egg is released from the ovary) and the day of ovulation. A study by the National Institute of Environmental Sciences found, much to the researchers' surprise, that a woman 's capacity to conceive seems to end on ovulation day. So if women charting their basal body temperature are waiting for their temperature to go up to have intercourse, they're too late, warns Melissa Holmes, MD, associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the Medical University of South Carolina in Charleston. She recommends using ovulation kits because they let you know when you're about to ovulate. Having sex on the two days prior to ovulation offers the greatest chance of conception.

Fertility Fact #6: However brief your partner's particular choice of underwear, it's unlikely that it will impact his fertility.
Up until several years ago, future dads were discouraged from wearing briefs because their tight fit held the testicles close to the body, raising scrotal temperature and causing a decrease in sperm count or concentration. And while it is true that very high temperatures can be harmful to sperm, choice of underwear does not heat things up enough to make an impact, according to two recent studies. So if briefs (or bikinis, for that matter) are more likely to heat things up between you and your partner, stock up on those Jockeys!

Fertility Fact #7: Birth control choices have fertility implications.
It sounds like a cruel joke, but it's true, says Dr. Holmes. The method of contraception that a woman has used may also impact conception. Women who used progesterone injections of Depo-Provera may have to wait for normal fertility to resume after they've stopped using the drug. It may take women who use Lunelle, another injectable form of birth control, six months to a year to have a normal menstrual and ovulation cycle.
And while many women believe that the effects of the pill linger long after they stop using it, that's yet another myth. Furthermore, it's not necessary to wait several cycles to 'wash out' oral contraceptives before getting started. In fact, immediately after the pill is stopped, there can be an ovulatory rebound effect, resulting in a super-fertile period. Despite the increased chances of conceiving right after stopping the pill, Dr. Holmes still recommends most of her patients go off it two or three months prior to trying to conceive. That way, you can more predictably determine the length of your cycle, identify your fertile days, and be able to better date when you conceived once you actually do get pregnant.

Oral contraceptives also help to preserve fertility — pill users have a decreased risk of illnesses that harm fertility, such as endometriosis. The bottom line? Take stock of your birth control choices before you decide you want to get pregnant.

Fertility Fact #8: Specific foods or diets do not have a large impact on fertility.
There is no magic diet that will increase the chances of sperm meeting egg; the best thing you can do is eat a diet high in nutrients and fiber and cut down on your consumption of highly processed foods. It's also important for couples trying to conceive to get plenty of folic acid, which helps prevent birth defects and can improve sperm count.

And while you may have heard that caffeine can hamper conception, don't toss out your favorite mug just yet. Though there have been reports that women who drank more than one cup of coffee daily were half as likely to conceive per cycle as those who drank less, researchers acknowledge that delayed conception could have been attributed to other factors, and subsequent studies have failed to find a significant link between moderate amounts of caffeine and fertility.

Some research has shown that zinc may improve sperm count, but don't go overboard on any one nutrient. Like so many things in life, fertility thrives on balance.

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wow! that is great i even copied ans sent to dh! thanks Denise

Youre welcome Tatiana

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Posted by queenschic

I have stalked TTC, and it doesn’t have much activity, which is why i posted it here, hope you guys don’t mind, but I really wanted answers.

I heard the same thing, even with TIMED intercourse you still only have a 50/50 shot ...which seems crazy to me when i see the amount of unwanted children out there and hear all the stories about how it was ONE time, for 5 seconds, we used 5 condoms and now im pregnant with triplets...ugh.

You spend a majority of your life PRAYING you wont be, then the time comes, where u actually WANT it, and nothing....its only been 2 months for us, but i was under the very naive impression ok, i stopped bc, we have sex, boom, I get pregnant! but alas, this is NOT true and I’m starting to worry :(
p.s congrats vmystique33 !!!

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just a side note - TTC has a TON of activity - for the past 3 days it's been slow - but we're quite the chatty bunch....

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Posted by tj2008

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by queenschic

I have stalked TTC, and it doesn’t have much activity, which is why i posted it here, hope you guys don’t mind, but I really wanted answers.

I heard the same thing, even with TIMED intercourse you still only have a 50/50 shot ...which seems crazy to me when i see the amount of unwanted children out there and hear all the stories about how it was ONE time, for 5 seconds, we used 5 condoms and now im pregnant with triplets...ugh.

You spend a majority of your life PRAYING you wont be, then the time comes, where u actually WANT it, and nothing....its only been 2 months for us, but i was under the very naive impression ok, i stopped bc, we have sex, boom, I get pregnant! but alas, this is NOT true and I’m starting to worry :(
p.s congrats vmystique33 !!!

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there is nothing wrong with you, this happens to a large percentage of women. I think the problem is that some women do think its that easy and dont realize that it doesnt just happen that way and then they get nervous about something that is normal. It is normal to have to try for months, theres no reason to get scared about that. It takes the average fertile couple 5-6 months to conceive.

Here are some facts:

6.1 million couples in the US alone go through this

The truth is that hundreds of variables must coincide precisely for conception to occur and for a woman's body to successfully maintain a pregnancy for nine months. The average couple, ages 29 to 33, with no fertility problems, has about a 20 to 25 percent chance of getting pregnant in any given month (or menstrual cycle).

There is no 'typical' infertile patient. Ovulation and sperm deficiencies are the most common infertility problems, accounting for two-thirds of all cases.

Less common fertility problems for women include structural problems or scarring of the fallopian tubes and/or uterus caused by pelvic inflammatory disease or endometriosis (a condition causing adhesions and cysts), uterine fibroids or congenital (birth) defects.

Sperm deficiencies can include low sperm production (oligospermia) or lack of sperm (azoospermia). Sperm may also have poor motility — they don't move properly once inside the female reproductive tract to achieve fertilization. Additionally, sperm cells may be malformed or may die before they can reach the egg.

About one-third of infertility cases can be attributed to male factors, and about one-third to factors that affect women. Roughly one-third of infertility is couple-related, with a combination of problems in both partners impeding fertility.

and here are 8 surprising fertility facts

Fertility Fact #1: Overall good health isn't necessarily a sign that you (or your partner, for that matter) are fertile.
You exercise regularly, eat a nutritious diet, and have enviable cholesterol and blood pressure levels. That's great, but it doesn't mean you're fertile. One in 10 healthy couples of reproductive age will experience fertility problems. The causes are variable and equally attributed one-third of the time to the female, one-third of the time to the male, and one-third to unidentifiable reasons or to both partners. Unfortunately, the biggest factor that impacts fertility is something none of us can control: age, says Sam Thatcher, MD, a reproductive endocrinologist at the Center for Applied Reproductive Science in Johnson City, Tennessee, and author of Making a Baby: Everything You Need to Know to Get Pregnant (Ballantine, 2000).

For healthy women, fertility peaks in their mid 20s, begins declining at age 27, then nosedives around age 37. If you are in your mid 30s or older and trying to conceive, you need to be very pointed in your efforts, Dr. Thatcher advises. That means figuring out when you're ovulating and having sex at those optimal times. And if you're over 35 and concerned about your fertility, don't settle for a gynecologist saying 'Just give it time,' cautions Dr. Thatcher. The American Society of Reproductive Medicine advises women age 35 or older to consult a fertility specialist if they fail to get pregnant after six months of unprotected intercourse. Women ages 37 to 40 should wait no longer than three months.

Fertility Fact #2: Your weight affects your ability to conceive.
Surprise! Twelve percent of all infertility cases are rooted in weight issues. If your body is chronically malnourished or overexercised, you can't menstruate, since a minimum of 22 percent body fat is necessary for normal ovulation and reproductive competence. On the other side of the scale, being overweight can alter hormone chemistry and help prevent conception. The good news is that shedding or gaining pounds can easily remedy weight-related infertility; more than 70 percent of women conceive spontaneously once they reach healthy weight parameters. Doctors consider a body mass index (BMI) between 19 and 25 ideal. (BMI = weight in pounds divided by height in inches, divided by height in inches again, multiplied by 703. Example: 135 pounds, divided by 66 inches, divided by 66 inches, multiplied by 703 = BMI 22.)

Weight not only potentially impacts fertility but pregnancy as well. According to the March of Dimes, overweight women who become pregnant are at greater risk for pregnancy-related high blood pressure and diabetes, and underweight women are more likely to deliver a low birth weight baby. If you are at a reasonable weight and trying to conceive, now is not the time to begin training for a marathon or go on a crash diet.

Fertility Fact #3: Sexual positions — coital or postcoital — don't affect your chances of conception.
No study has confirmed that one position is more effective than any other in achieving pregnancy. In fact, sperm can be found in the cervical canal mere seconds after ejaculation, regardless of position. Of course, aiming for the deepest penetration and maximum cervical contact makes sense, but the optimal position varies because every woman's body is different.
And since sperm start swimming immediately after ejaculation, it isn't necessary for a woman to become a gymnast or a yoga master to make a baby. There may be a little advantage to lying around after intercourse to keep the sperm inside you, but there's absolutely no value in standing on your head, says Dr. Thatcher. So savor the mood however you please.

Fertility Fact #4: The biological clock ticks for men too.
The notion that age-related fertility decline is only a female factor has been debunked by a recent British study. Researchers at Bristol and Brunel Universities evaluated 8,500 couples to determine the impact of age on the length of time it took to conceive. They discovered that while only 8 percent of men younger than 25 fail to impregnate their partner after a year of trying, that number grows to 15 percent after age 35. Despite other factors, such as the fact that frequency of intercourse drops off with age, the study suggests that paternal age, too, may be a consideration for couples struggling with infertility.

Fertility Fact #5: Ovulation day is not necessarily the best day to try to conceive a child.
Sperm can live in the female reproductive tract for up to three days after intercourse, so having sex every day, or even on ovulation day, is not necessary. What is critical is knowing when you are fertile. According to data from the AIA, 20 percent of couples seeking infertility treatment are not timing intercourse correctly.

A woman is fertile for a period of six days, the five days leading up to ovulation (when the egg is released from the ovary) and the day of ovulation. A study by the National Institute of Environmental Sciences found, much to the researchers' surprise, that a woman 's capacity to conceive seems to end on ovulation day. So if women charting their basal body temperature are waiting for their temperature to go up to have intercourse, they're too late, warns Melissa Holmes, MD, associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the Medical University of South Carolina in Charleston. She recommends using ovulation kits because they let you know when you're about to ovulate. Having sex on the two days prior to ovulation offers the greatest chance of conception.

Fertility Fact #6: However brief your partner's particular choice of underwear, it's unlikely that it will impact his fertility.
Up until several years ago, future dads were discouraged from wearing briefs because their tight fit held the testicles close to the body, raising scrotal temperature and causing a decrease in sperm count or concentration. And while it is true that very high temperatures can be harmful to sperm, choice of underwear does not heat things up enough to make an impact, according to two recent studies. So if briefs (or bikinis, for that matter) are more likely to heat things up between you and your partner, stock up on those Jockeys!

Fertility Fact #7: Birth control choices have fertility implications.
It sounds like a cruel joke, but it's true, says Dr. Holmes. The method of contraception that a woman has used may also impact conception. Women who used progesterone injections of Depo-Provera may have to wait for normal fertility to resume after they've stopped using the drug. It may take women who use Lunelle, another injectable form of birth control, six months to a year to have a normal menstrual and ovulation cycle.
And while many women believe that the effects of the pill linger long after they stop using it, that's yet another myth. Furthermore, it's not necessary to wait several cycles to 'wash out' oral contraceptives before getting started. In fact, immediately after the pill is stopped, there can be an ovulatory rebound effect, resulting in a super-fertile period. Despite the increased chances of conceiving right after stopping the pill, Dr. Holmes still recommends most of her patients go off it two or three months prior to trying to conceive. That way, you can more predictably determine the length of your cycle, identify your fertile days, and be able to better date when you conceived once you actually do get pregnant.

Oral contraceptives also help to preserve fertility — pill users have a decreased risk of illnesses that harm fertility, such as endometriosis. The bottom line? Take stock of your birth control choices before you decide you want to get pregnant.

Fertility Fact #8: Specific foods or diets do not have a large impact on fertility.
There is no magic diet that will increase the chances of sperm meeting egg; the best thing you can do is eat a diet high in nutrients and fiber and cut down on your consumption of highly processed foods. It's also important for couples trying to conceive to get plenty of folic acid, which helps prevent birth defects and can improve sperm count.

And while you may have heard that caffeine can hamper conception, don't toss out your favorite mug just yet. Though there have been reports that women who drank more than one cup of coffee daily were half as likely to conceive per cycle as those who drank less, researchers acknowledge that delayed conception could have been attributed to other factors, and subsequent studies have failed to find a significant link between moderate amounts of caffeine and fertility.

Some research has shown that zinc may improve sperm count, but don't go overboard on any one nutrient. Like so many things in life, fertility thrives on balance.

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wow! that is great i even copied ans sent to dh! thanks Denise

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Just wanted to add that while a lot of these facts are true - there is MUCH more to them.

Fact 5 for example. HEALTHY sperm can live for up to 3 days in HEALTHY cervical mucus. If a woman does not have this - the sperm cannot survive....

Good luck and hope to see you on TTC!

Thanks you for all the replies, and Denise thanks for your informative post, i really appreciate u taking time out to post.

*wish me BABY DUST LOL*

You're welcome and good luck

Jess- yes theres even way more to it and theres even so much more other info out there that can cause complications at first.

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Posted by queenschic

Thanks you for all the replies, and Denise thanks for your informative post, i really appreciate u taking time out to post.

*wish me BABY DUST LOL*

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Baby dust!!! Good luck!