Gift Etiquette

octobergirl Posted: Dec 20, 2002 09:27 PM

Gift Etiquette

I'm just curious... I heard from someone that wedding guests have up to one year after the event to buy a gift for the bride and groom. Is this true?

LisaT Posted: Dec 20, 2002 09:31 PM

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yup, its true. And some of my guests seem to be using all of that time...

Cindy Posted: Dec 20, 2002 09:56 PM

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We had two married couples that didnt give us a gift and told us they were waiting until we got home from our honeymoon. Well, we have been home for three months. I would be shocked if we received a gift at this point. Could you believe that people actually come to weddings without even a card? Very hard to believe, especially the way new yorkers are with weddings. I never heard of it!

octobergirl Posted: Dec 20, 2002 10:10 PM

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Maybe its just an excuse that non gift givers like to use.... and then they think you'll forget all about it by the time a year has passed!!!

Cindy Posted: Dec 20, 2002 10:13 PM

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Yes, I think you are right or maybe they think with all the people at your wedding that you wont notice that they didnt give. Did you have alot of these rude people at your wedding?

michele31 Posted: Dec 20, 2002 10:15 PM

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Technically guests do have up to one year. I have gotten 2 gifts post- wedding from non-attending gifts. I think after 4 months it is a bit rude but technically they have one full year.

Cindy Posted: Dec 20, 2002 10:20 PM

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Hi Michele. I guess you are online

octobergirl Posted: Dec 21, 2002 08:45 AM

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I am embarrassed to say that two of the people who have not given gifts yet were actually in the bridal party.

JennRenee Posted: Dec 21, 2002 09:34 AM

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It's true... I got a gift 9 months after my wedding.

Cindy Posted: Dec 21, 2002 09:47 AM

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Nine months jenn? I cant believe people do that!

JennRenee Posted: Dec 21, 2002 09:51 AM

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Yep! It was a friend of mine who Patrick doesn't particularly like. He had been gleefully calling her the 'No-Gifter' for months (not to her face, of course!), and was upset when the gift came and he couldn't refer to her as that any more.

Cindy Posted: Dec 21, 2002 10:50 AM

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I was never awaye that people did this until my wedding....

Latina511 Posted: Dec 21, 2002 10:54 AM

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I am lucky...everybody that came to my wedding sent me a gift. Even those that didn't get to show up at the end. I am still receiving gifts from people that had replied they weren't coming from the beginning.

Kris Posted: Dec 21, 2002 11:36 AM

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I didn't think bridal party HAD to give gifts. Mine all did, but I didn't expect anything. They spent so much $$ already!

We are still waiting for 1 straggler gift giver.

michele31 Posted: Dec 21, 2002 02:50 PM

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Scott's best friend (part of the BP) gave us a card with a note that he forgot his checkbook at home and to expect something when we got home from our HM. Still nothing.
And my FIL didn't even give us a card or even say thank you to me for inviting him to the RD and wedding. Nothing from him.

NovemberSue Posted: Dec 21, 2002 10:50 PM

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I never heard of people giving gifts after the wedding. We did have a few people not even give us a card.

Cindy Posted: Dec 22, 2002 09:51 AM

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I guess this is what some people do, who knows. I think it is a little tacky though.

garrett678 Posted: Jun 09, 2009 06:42 PM

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We still have three no-gifters. No cards, no nothing. They just showed up and left.

Some of these people were hung over because they were drunk the night before the morning wedding.