Had 2 cheapos at my wedding & need to vent!!

jennbaby Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:18 PM

Had 2 cheapos at my wedding & need to vent!!

A gift is a gift and whatever someone gives is fine but at LEAST give a card NO???????

I had 2 of these instances:

One girl I know came, never gave me a card, even if was EMPTY and left to go have a 3 some with one of my other guest & his girlfriend!

Another was someone I work with & her DH, not even an empy card with well wishes or congrats inside.

PEOPLE!

What-Now Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:19 PM

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THat's so weird, I can't believe people come to a wedding with NO GIFT!

ChristineC68 Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:21 PM

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I dont understand the no card thing. A gift should never be expected, but how hard is it to get or even make a card? A piece of paper folded in half with a smilie face saying good luck to the bride & groom would do.

jennbaby Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:22 PM

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not even a CARD!!!!!! Even if there was nothing in it, some nice words in a card would be nice!

The nerve, I really thought since one of them told me 'Oh I didn't bring your gift...' I'd get something in the mail but I KNEW they wouldn't! They are not the type. I am still waiting for my shower gift. One of these ladies came, ate & left and said 'I owe you your gift' and did it again at my wedding!

***?!

Sonicstef Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:22 PM

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We had one of those too...no card or anything. Helloo manners!

Fran M Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:22 PM

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and left to go have a 3 some with one of my other guests & his girlfriend!

jennbaby Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:22 PM

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You are lucky I had TWO!!! Only me!

Scoop Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:27 PM

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I had a few of those at my wedding too. Five to be exact. I did eventually receive gifts from three of them, months following the wedding. Two guests (really 3 b/c one is a couple) haven't sent anything yet...7 months later.

I just don't understand how you can go to a wedding and not give a gift?

Fran M Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:28 PM

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We actually did have one guest who never gave us a card or anything.

And then on a different note - there is the famous envelope of cash from my cousin. A plain envelope with an odd amount of cash - sort of like he took some out for gas money or something - with our names on the front and love Patrick scrawled on the back. You gotta love him. But that is so him.

ss2002 Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:28 PM

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No, Jenn, not just you...me, too!

One friend ended up mailing us a card a few weeks after the wedding. She said they forgot to give it to us.

Two couples didn't give a card. At first I was a little angry...I'd never, ever dream of going to a wedding without a gift, much less a card.

Now that a few months have passed since our wedding, I can't help but still feeling a little hurt Like Christine said, a piece of paper with a smiley face would have done it for me.

shamma Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:28 PM

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Jen, I thought you were about to post that my hubby and I did not give you a card or a gift Your card was missing for a while and I got really upset and the BM had it in the waist of his pants I was so relieved.

What you gonna do, that's who they are. At least it wasn't family. You know my story already, so we will not rehash that

Niecey Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:31 PM

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I had three! I just don't understand people and manners. We actually watched our raw footage very closely to see if these people handed a card to us when they left and we lost it - LOL. I could never imagine not bringing a card! Even if I forgot I would at least acknowledge it!!!!!

I must say that 2 of the 3 did send a gift off of my registry - one I got like a week after the honeymoon and the other like 2-3 weeks later - so maybe it will happen for you too. Those two people are loaded (one is a multi-millionaire too - and can't buy a card for the day of???) So I am only left with one outstanding. DH's co-worker who sits right next to him everyday at work!

What can you do? Feel free to vent to us!

(love the threesome story - I had a sex story too - in the handicap bathroom - not 100% confirmed though - but I think the threesome beats it)

jennbaby Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:32 PM

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No Shamma get lost!!!! Not you!

Cheapos, meaning no card or gift! Makes me wonder how people do this!

Sassyz75 Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:32 PM

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Me too- and believe or not one was my UNCLE.. came all the way from Florida- ate dinner- left before we cut the cake- and gave no gift, no card nothing- then went the next day and got a tattoo! So it couldn't have been a no-money thing!

jennbaby Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:34 PM

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I got a gift when I came home from HM from someone who didn't give at my wedding but they told me they sent us something.

I also got a few gifts after HM (checks & my vaccum!) from people who could not attend!

Imagine you DO attend & give not even an empty card!

Leelee Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:34 PM

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Not just you Jenn--I had several show up and not give us even a card!
The worst offender--my father gave us NOTHING. Not a penny.
That's totally gross about the threesome...

Lisa Rose Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:44 PM

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maybe she thought the 3-some was her gift ....and the favor on the table was yours??!?!?!

Sometimes weddings can be REALLY confusing!!

Diane Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:45 PM

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That is pretty rude. At least a card would have been nice

jennbaby Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:51 PM

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at least one guest gave us $25 in a card and the Perfect pancake maker.

I considered that thoughtful because I know this one person has financial problems

michele31 Posted: Jun 05, 2003 03:52 PM

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Welcome to after-weddings Jenn. We had 3 couples and 1 single guest RSVP 'yes' and the day before or the day of not attend the wedding. We didn't get a card or even a phone call from these people. And one of them- DH's cousin actually sent us an invite to his upcoming wedding with his REGISTRY info included in the envelope. No etiquette at all! I wouldn't attend that wedding or get them a gift! Even if you cannot afford a montary gift you can buy a small wedding gift and give a card. But to just do nothing is plain rude.