I am feeling so bummed that the wedding is over...

ddunne23 Posted: Jan 10, 2003 10:06 AM

I am feeling so bummed that the wedding is over...

On one hand I am so relieved not to dream about photographers not having film in the camera, flowers that are ugly and my reception hall burning down, but on the other hand I just cannot believe it is over! I get so bummed when I read the BHB! I miss the excitment of being a bride-to-be!! Anyone other recent brides feeling the same way??

ChristineC68 Posted: Jan 10, 2003 10:08 AM

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I think quite a few do. I was a little off not having something to focus on after the wedding. It will pass you have a lot of new things to look forward to. And there are still a few wedding tasks that you will need to work on (proofs/albums, video, thank yous, etc.).

Cira Posted: Jan 10, 2003 10:10 AM

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No ... I think I'm the only one that was actually happy after the wedding was over. I am so relieved to be a newlywed and concentrate on building a life with my husband versus planning the wedding. I was so into the wedding, especially the last few months before we said 'i do', that I lost focus on some other things ... like spending quality time with DH.

But there are a lot of brides that feel the way you do! It was a big part of your life and now it's done ... totally normal!

christine1221 Posted: Jan 10, 2003 10:18 AM

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I posted right away about this ... It's such a huge part of your life for sooo long & it goes by soooo fast. But there are a few things to look forward to as ChristineC68 mentioned. I'm looking forward to honeymoon pics, video, album & most of all KIDS!

(hee, hee ... we've already started trying ... no point in waiting any longer!)
I'm with you Doreen, post when you need to!

mickeya1a Posted: Jan 10, 2003 10:22 AM

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I have to say I also was a bit 'relieved' when the wedding was over....not to say I didn't feel a little bit down....

I think there is so much leading up to the 'big day' that I am happy to now to have the time to be able to focus on my husband, family and a new job....

Hang in there...it is weird in the beginning, but you will soon get back to normal and use your time to do something good for yourself!!!

Annie02 Posted: Jan 10, 2003 10:25 AM

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I was THRILLED when the wedding was over. For over a year, the wedding day was the primary focus - everything revolved around it. I felt like me and my now husband did not talk about anything else. Now that its over, we can focus on everything else and our life together. I am enjoying being a newlywed so much.

shamma Posted: Jan 10, 2003 10:33 AM

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I was the happiest gal around, maybe that is why I danced so much at the wedding. No more to do list, no more vendor appts, no more bad dreams. I enjoyed the day immensly, when I get a little down, I watch the video or look at our pix. It will pass, I promise you. What were you doing before you started planning the wedding. Volunteer, join the book club, find a new hobby that will take up your time. All the best

ddunne23 Posted: Jan 10, 2003 10:51 AM

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Thanks girls! I planned on dusting of my guitar and taking those lessons I have been putting off since we got engaged. Guess there is no better time than now to start! The other major thing going on right now is we are looking to move back to NY..so we are on the job search trail (But that is not nearly as fun as planning a wedding! ). But I am looking forward to getting my proofs and video!

natasha Posted: Jan 10, 2003 11:01 AM

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Your feelings are normal. Don't feel bad about it. Just find new activities to be involved in.

michele31 Posted: Jan 10, 2003 11:14 AM

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Oprah had a 'post-wedding' depression show on a few weeks back that said 80% of brides feel this way.
I actually felt this after my shower was over. I had waited for so many years for my bridal shower and it was just sad in many ways.
With the wedding I have not felt as sad because I still have my photos to figure out, had TY cards to write (done, thank goodness) and my video. So I still have wedding-related activities going on in my life.

antoinette Posted: Jan 10, 2003 11:23 AM

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i know how you feel- while after the wedding i still had and have a milion things to do but i still miss it because it was the best day of my life- and i had dreamed of that day since i was a child.

and i think- 'will i ever have a greater day than that?' - i get sad thinking that i wont- but im extremely happy to be mariied and i know when i have my first child- I might be just as happy if not even more.

yabbobay Posted: Jan 10, 2003 11:47 AM

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I wasn't depressed...more so bored...nothing to research, etc...

well a puppy solved that problem for me... :)

Cindy Posted: Jan 10, 2003 05:05 PM

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I felt so like that when my wedding was over. At times I do feel like it a little, but you will be happy soon enough to have all of your free time to do other things that you didnt have time for last year.

NovemberSue Posted: Jan 10, 2003 05:09 PM

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I'm not sad that the wedding is over. I am happy that I am in this new phase of my life (being married). I am very happy that the wedding was beautiful and everything we wanted it to be. It was very stressful and I don't miss that. We were constantly meeting with vendors and making payments in the end,it was very exhausting.

jenny11.9 Posted: Jan 10, 2003 09:46 PM

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count me in as happy it's over! every now and then i tell my husband that I 'miss our wedding', and then I think about the dj using disco strobe lights when there was supposed to be 'no light show, no cheese'...and realize that the book club is more my speed!!!!!

chmpgnrose Posted: Jan 14, 2003 10:35 PM

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I still suffer from Post-Wedding Depression and my wedding was almost 5 months ago since August 24, 2002. I sadfully miss the excitment and the anitipation of being the 'bride-to-be' as it was wonderful to be the most beautifulest of all for the whole day! However, life must move on and now it just marks the beginning of the the marriage. There's still other things to look forward to such as the wedding video, pictures from guests, professional pictures, thank you cards to write, holidays, housewarming, and organizing all the wedding stuff collected and accumulated during the engagement period (i.e. bridal magazines, contracts, etc.). I'm feeling better and improved by collecting all the things from our wedding to create a scrapbook in keepsaking our special day.

I'm so thankfully glad that I can regain my life back to normal prior to all the hectic wedding plans though. Good luck. Hope you feel better.

dkga1026 Posted: Jan 15, 2003 09:33 AM

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i miss the planning days too....hard to believe how the time flew... but i am also enjoying married life and keeping busy with work, school, fixing up the house, etc....also, i get my fix from helping all my engaged friends plan their weddings!!