I feel bad.........

B/c DH and I have been married 8 months (WOW ) and my cousin and her DH have been married about 6 months. We had our reception at the Bayview House and everyone still talks about how much they loved our wedding. It feels good but I feel bad b/c they also say how much my cousins place and wedding S U C K E D! (I wont say where she had it b/c I don't want to upset anyone but it really did S U C K!) They don't say it in front of her or my aunt or uncle or her siblings but I feel bad. Her wedding was not good. Just feeling bad to feel so good, get what I mean

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Posted by jillyb97

I know what you mean. Luckily, DH's nephew got married 2 months before us (DH's fam is HUGE...he is one of 8 kids, and his oldest sister is 18 yrs older than him, hence why his nephew got married the same yr...ha) But this wedding was in VT, so it was just completely different than ours...Everyone still constantly talks about our wedding, but never mentions the other...We were happy that ours was after theirs so that they didn't feel bad....But I completely get what you're saying, cause sometimes I do feel a little bad about it...

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Right! I love that everyone loved mine b/c really it was better ( ) but I do feel bad. I like the idea about changing the topic which I try to do and it works but once we get on the topic about weddings or places to go eat they always bring up ours and then bash hers.

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Posted by jaep129

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Posted by jillyb97

I know what you mean. Luckily, DH's nephew got married 2 months before us (DH's fam is HUGE...he is one of 8 kids, and his oldest sister is 18 yrs older than him, hence why his nephew got married the same yr...ha) But this wedding was in VT, so it was just completely different than ours...Everyone still constantly talks about our wedding, but never mentions the other...We were happy that ours was after theirs so that they didn't feel bad....But I completely get what you're saying, cause sometimes I do feel a little bad about it...

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Right! I love that everyone loved mine b/c really it was better ( ) but I do feel bad. I like the idea about changing the topic which I try to do and it works but once we get on the topic about weddings or places to go eat they always bring up ours and then bash hers.

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Of course you love that everyone loved yours - we all do! But, you (we) shouldn't feel bad about it, cause there's nothing that we can do...as long as people don't say it in front of them, I think that's all you can ask for...And when it comes down to it, she probably thinks that her wedding was the best wedding ever, cause I'm sure it was for her...and that's really all that matters...

But you can still smile knowing that lots of people enjoyed yours so much!

DH's cousin got married the month after us and she tried to show us up. I am so not that way, but she is. I just love how people keep talking about how great our wedding was and say nothing about hers

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Posted by Smiley22

why was it so bad? was it the day of the week? the vendors? the hall? the food?

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The Food was gross that my 5 year old cousin would not even eat it, my uncle had his GPS stolen from his car, and the place was old and kind of gross. I just hope she has great memories.

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Posted by Songstress

Its too bad people cant have a wedding without every aspect of it being judged. Thats really sad. I would feel bad too and I would probably shut people up about it.

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People are weird - DH and I have fun at every party we go to - thats just the type of people we are - give us booze and music and we are good to go

Its hard being a bride b/c there are a lot of people who judge and a lot of people who want to show off for the sake of showing off....and of course there are people who like to gossip - i dont know why people cant just have fun when they go to a party - so what if the place is ugly or the food is bad - dance and have fun!!!

I feel the same way sometimes. My sister and I were married a few months apart - her wedding was great and everyone had a great time and had rave reviews! But we had a band and people are still talking about the band we had.

Also my g-pa said my wedding was the best he's ever been to and he said it in front of ALL my cousins! YIKES

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Posted by Songstress

Its too bad people cant have a wedding without every aspect of it being judged. Thats really sad. I would feel bad too and I would probably shut people up about it.

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People are weird - DH and I have fun at every party we go to - thats just the type of people we are - give us booze and music and we are good to go

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Hahaha I completely agree...every wedding we go to we have a blast..at a friend's wedding, a table of old people stopped me and dh as we were leaving and told us how they just watched us dance all night long, and that it was like watching dancing with the stars...i said yeah, the ones that got kicked off!! But seriously, we always have fun, no matter if it's a shack or the most gorgeous place ever!

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People are weird - DH and I have fun at every party we go to - thats just the type of people we are - give us booze and music and we are good to go

Its hard being a bride b/c there are a lot of people who judge and a lot of people who want to show off for the sake of showing off....and of course there are people who like to gossip - i dont know why people cant just have fun when they go to a party - so what if the place is ugly or the food is bad - dance and have fun!!!

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AGREED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by Songstress

Its too bad people cant have a wedding without every aspect of it being judged. Thats really sad. I would feel bad too and I would probably shut people up about it.

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I totally agree with this. I just think it's so sad that people compare weddings and judge them so badly. It's this kind of thinking that makes our weddings so out of control. Me & My close friend both had our weddings within 2 months of each other at the SAME HALL (and we were in each others' bridal parties). But neither of us 'competed' at all. I didn't even care about the fact that we shared maybe 20-50 guests, since we run in some of the same circles. If they want to judge it then fine. But that was NOT something i was going to worry about. Hers was before mine, but that didn't mean that i was suddenly all about making sure to outdo her in any way. I got tons of comments on how great my wedding was, and I'm sure she did as well. Maybe there ARE people who say one of ours was better than the other's, but I don't want to hear it (even if they say it was MINE that was better - i still don't want to hear it!) That's just mean, immature, and totally unnecessary. I wanted my wedding to be simply a CELEBRATION for how much me and my husband absolutely love each other. I wanted to just have everybody together to have fun & celebrate with us this wonderful marriage. So as long as I had HIM, it was a perfect day. I hate it when people just look at a wedding as a Party. It's so much more than that (at least it SHOULD be!!)

Thanks to you all. I actually talked to my aunt tonight who is going to a wedding and she made a comment about my cousins and I changed the topic and it worked!

ETA: Spelling. God do I suck at spelling:)