I have always had this problem. No matter how great life is or how well I'm doing I get these wicked jealous pangs when other people have good news or when my DH compliments other women (even if it's completely non-sexual and genuine). It's created problems with friends in the past, too. I want to move past it but I'm not sure how. I know (deep down) that I'm pretty, smart, kind, etc. but always seem like that's 'not good enough.' I'm sick and tired of feeling this way
JPC1125
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I used to feel this way all the time....about my husband talking to other women, about the houses my friends own, about the jobs and $ other people make
Its weird but once I was married, my life kinda clicked into place. I know I am sucessful in my own right, I trust my husband more now than ever, and the jealousy monster goes away when I realize we ALL have problems of one kind or another.
greenfreak
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Oh I know how you feel, been there. I won't hypothesize on why you feel this way but with me, it was my own self esteem.
Once I figured out it wasn't him per se, it was me, I tried to figure out why. I wasn't happy with myself, my lack of pride, my general pessimist outlook. I sought things to make me feel better, to feel proud of myself. Once I did that, everything else fell into place.
Sounds easy but it isn't. To be honestly critical of yourself is scary. I'm not saying it's your fault or anything, I'm hoping it might give you something to look into to figure out the root of your jealousy and envy.
Good luck, hope this helps.
cantwait2bewed
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I know how you feel and I can feel like this sometime too. I have a friend who gets to stay at home while her husband works. I wish i can do this and i voiced my opinions about this to DHmore than once before. But i have to look at it this way. DH and i have been doing so well together with our goals, because we are doing it TOGETHER. I find reasons to be happy about my situation, DH and i live a very busy life but we are growing our business together. It is so much fun. Think about what makes you and your DH's life special, what do u do differently that others don't? Set yourself apart from the rest and understand that life is what you make of it.
lipglossjunky73
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My DH is my best friend... All of his good friends are women - and please - he was pinching my friend's hot butt at a wedding today as a joke. Its all a matter of how confident you are... If I can complment a guy to my DH, then its only fair that he can say something nice about a girl - I'm the one he's married to, I know he's faithful - you just have to become more comfortable with yourself... You'll ge there!
