I hate saying this, but I went to the worst wedding this weekend...

Original post by Misty

Dec 01, 2003 10:52 AM

It was aaaaaaaall the way out in Jersey, so I don't think anyone here will care if I say how bad this was.

For starters, it was buffet, for 160 people, so the food line was ridiculous. It made us feel like we were at one of those Chinese buffets. There was one table set up with the buffet, no real cocktail hour, just an hour of people coming around with chicken fingers and crab cakes, and a fruit platter that was finished in 20 minutes. They had chicken stir fry, really bad filet mignon, and two pasta dishes that were awful, wilted salad, and stale bread. The cake was obviously left out too long, because the buttercream was spoiled. Coffee was served in paper cups and you had to go get it yourself. Nothing was served to us.

And, I think a first ever, the bride requested that the electric slide and chicken dance be played, and the DJ made it a point to tell everyone that those were the only two songs she requested besides her first dance and the parents dances. Everyone was basically yanked onto the dancefloor, willing or not, to quack like a chicken.

I feel horrible saying stuff like this, but I can't help it. Please don't flame me, I just can't understand how someone can spend over $2000 on the dress, and then go sooooooo far to skimp on the wedding.

Leelee Posted: Dec 01, 2003 04:40 PM

Re: I hate saying this, but I went to the worst wedding this weekend...read my latest post...HOLY CLUELESS! LOL

Yeah..sounds like it! My wedding sounds a bit different...we definitely didn't make ours out to be some lavish affair but as a low-key and unique event.
I just had to say that I used plastic and had a buffet...it can be done but only in certain situations!

shamma Posted: Dec 01, 2003 04:41 PM

Re: I hate saying this, but I went to the worst wedding this weekend...read my latest post...HOLY CLUELESS! LOL

Misty, that is crazy

Misty Posted: Dec 01, 2003 04:42 PM

Re: I hate saying this, but I went to the worst wedding this weekend...read my latest post...HOLY CLUELESS! LOL

It was all the way out near Bridgewater.

shamma Posted: Dec 01, 2003 04:48 PM

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Leelee my sweet, nothing you do could ever be tacky, you are a lady

Leelee Posted: Dec 01, 2003 04:49 PM

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Thank you Shamma!! I'm glad you think so...
My husband doesn't think I'm very ladylike when I'm belching!

shamma Posted: Dec 01, 2003 05:10 PM

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See you save those kinds of things for your hubby not us Roger belches all bad in front of me, no one else gets that lovely pleasure, how lucky we are

Buttafli1277 Posted: Dec 01, 2003 06:12 PM

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Was this wedding at a hall, or a Knights of Columbus type of thing?? Paper and plastic is definately a No No! Do you guys usually give cash or checks as gifts? I usually give a check!

jenny11.9 Posted: Dec 02, 2003 09:09 AM

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unbelievable. do you have pics?

Claud2001 Posted: Dec 02, 2003 11:44 AM

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I've been to a few buffet and/or low budget weddings that were elegant, but they all surprisingly lacked enough food for all the people in attendance. I think when people choose buffet dinners, they don't expect guests to eat much and that's their biggest mistake, IMO.

My in-laws threw my SIL's wedding in Atlanta, and it was an elegant buffet - everything was beautifully presented, tasted good, etc. But, they were hoping for a cocktail party-type mingling atmosphere and it flopped BIG time. Aside from the fact that they *refused* to serve cocktails (my in-laws don't drink, and therefore think that no one else on the planet should!), the room they chose was too big for the cocktail party type of atmosphere, and since people couldn't drink, they wanted to eat more and the food ran out .

However, I think tri-state area weddings (like all of our own) reach the other end of the spectrum and border on gluttony! We can all admit that we had FAR too much food at all of our weddings, now can't we?

People all over the world throw different kinds of parties to celebrate a new marriage. Just b/c the party isn't NY chic, doesn't mean the bride and her maids shouldn't look their best that day. I don't think the party itself is a reflection of how happy the couple is, or how blessed their union will be. Don't be so hard on people who are not as fortunate as us. I'm not flaming anyone here...just saying, let's be compassionate!

In her mind, I'm sure this poor bride had the party of a lifetime!

Misty Posted: Dec 02, 2003 12:01 PM

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I don't think the party itself is a reflection of how happy the couple is, or how blessed their union will be. Don't be so hard on people who are not as fortunate as us. I'm not flaming anyone here...just saying, let's be compassionate!

This is another story altogether. Let's just say it was a bit easier for me to post this because it's not exactly a blessed union, and they aren't exactly misfortunate.

Sorry Jenny...no pics.

Claud2001 Posted: Dec 02, 2003 12:10 PM

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Well, obviously I don't know the whole story about this particular couple...but, I'm just going by my own experiences with weddings that weren't exactly how we (meaning the collective 'we' on LIW) define a fabulous affair. I just think it's easy for us to forget that a large percentage of weddings that take place in our whole country do not have the big budgets that LI/NYC weddings have.

dgtlsunshine Posted: Dec 02, 2003 12:23 PM

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I went to a wedding like that. I don't care what your budget is. Do not invite 300 people to a one station buffet reception with no cocktail hour.

Our situation the wedding started at 3 we didn't get anything to eat until after nine. There is no excuse.

The wedding was unorganized and then they had the nerve to have adult reception on the invite. The other day my husband commented they might as well had kids there.

Hot Mess!! is all I can say

Misty Posted: Dec 02, 2003 12:33 PM

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Claud, I completely agree with you, and I have been to weddings outside NY...and they were fabulous, and nothing like a NY wedding. I just think there is a difference between cutting corners and making your guests downright uncomfortable. And, making it pretty obvious that you wedding was merely a fundraiser.