I know I should be over this by now

JAAMS Posted: Jan 06, 2011 09:40 PM

I know I should be over this by now

But if you had a BM who:

Didn't come to the bach party
Didn't ask how the bach party was
Couldn't make the rehearsal b/c of a bogus reason
Left the wedding 2 hours early b/c of a bogus reason
Untagged herself from every wedding picture that she is in

Would you be a little at this point, or is it just me?

I'm not one to say that people's reasons are bogus and they are really too long to get into here...but they were bogus. Many, many people have agreed with me.

MrsSx2 Posted: Jan 06, 2011 09:43 PM

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Sounds super bogus to me. Not cool!

Byrne2Be Posted: Jan 06, 2011 09:44 PM

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I would totally be a little

I mean, I think that kind of behavior is selfish (I mean regardless of what her reasons/excuses were/are). Its hard not to take that lineup personally or at least wonder what's behind it.

Have you tried just having a candid convo with your friend?

cateydee Posted: Jan 06, 2011 10:41 PM

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thats crazy!! have you guys discussed her leaving the wedding early?

MikesBride2B Posted: Jan 06, 2011 11:01 PM

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I'd cut her out of my life...she's clearly not worth the effort since she doesn't put any in for you.

Marianne13 Posted: Jan 06, 2011 11:38 PM

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Posted by MikesBride2B

I'd cut her out of my life...she's clearly not worth the effort since she doesn't put any in for you.

Ditto

Future Mrs H Posted: Jan 07, 2011 07:22 AM

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Posted by MikesBride2B

I'd cut her out of my life...she's clearly not worth the effort since she doesn't put any in for you.

This

SummerBride10 Posted: Jan 07, 2011 07:39 AM

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I agree with the above posters- cut her out. You don't need that!

SoonToBeMrsCampos Posted: Jan 07, 2011 07:55 AM

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write her off! 86 her from your life!

Linzee636 Posted: Jan 07, 2011 08:29 AM

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isn't that the worst? the wedding drama still lingers long after the day is over... i completely relate to this situation. best advice i could good give is the same as everyone else's - phase her out!

eta: this english major has grammar issues...

soontobecruz Posted: Jan 07, 2011 08:47 AM

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Re-tag her... lol Maybe then she will give you a reason why she didn't want to be tagged in the first place...

all the other stuff, life's too short. Move on and away from people like that. That's what I've learned to do and to be completely honest after the and go away IT FEELS GREAT!

christine2010 Posted: Jan 07, 2011 08:48 AM

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I can also complete relate to this situation. IMO the first life changing event that seperates your real friends from those who are suppose to be your 'friends' is your wedding. If someone can't put themself out just a little to enjoy their friends wedding & the events surrounding it then they are not worth having in your life.

bluj786 Posted: Jan 07, 2011 08:57 AM

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Posted by MikesBride2B

I'd cut her out of my life...she's clearly not worth the effort since she doesn't put any in for you.

totally feel the same way.

AdriandSteve Posted: Jan 07, 2011 10:05 AM

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Posted by soontobecruz

Re-tag her... lol Maybe then she will give you a reason why she didn't want to be tagged in the first place...

all the other stuff, life's too short. Move on and away from people like that. That's what I've learned to do and to be completely honest after the and :sad: go away IT FEELS GREAT!

This!

barbtony Posted: Jan 07, 2011 10:07 AM

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Posted by MikesBride2B

I'd cut her out of my life...she's clearly not worth the effort since she doesn't put any in for you.

Yep!

DnJ0809 Posted: Jan 07, 2011 10:27 AM

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Sounds like a similar situation I am in.

-BM didn't attend bridal shower
-BM didn't attend bach. party / ask how it was
-BM did attend RD though
-BM left wedding 2 hours early

Some people just don't 'get' it.

Shall I continue?

BM (and GM) have not had the time for DH and I in a year. The last time the 4 of us adults were together was Jan. 1, 2010.

Little do they know, there is something very big and exciting going on with us right now. But, I have taken the advice of others and stopped trying so hard with them. It's their loss for choosing not to be a part of our life.

I'd cut your BM out of your life. Let her come to you.

Lovebug2016 Posted: Jan 07, 2011 10:38 AM

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I would confront her and find out whats up. You should have an answer and at least let her know your onto her dumb antics. Then I would cut out of your life. I wouldnt let someone be an a$$ like that and get away with it.

Unless your soo over the b.s. that you just delete her from everything and move on without a word.