I want to be ready to TTC....(new edit)

Original post by MerSaysEh

Nov 30, 2010 03:20 PM

but I'm not

like, half the time I have baby fever and half the time I just know DH and I aren't ready

those who are TTC or know they are going to TTC soon, how did you KNOW you were ready?

ETA:
OK so i basically posted the question (which could have been my NWQOTD tomorrow-damn!) and looked at the responses so far and felt like explaining further, so here it is:

I'm a fairly young bride (25) and though I know that with regards to fertility I have TONS of time, I am also a very high-risk patient in every situation, and pregnancy will be the highest risk thing I have been allowed to do in my whole life.

Brief (very abbreviated history): i was born with heart problems, had surgery, but still have complications. though i'm told i'm healthy, my heart will never be 'normal'. i have narrow valves and high blood pressure (though i'm not overweight or diabetic). long story short i'm already so high risk that the older i get the higher the risk climbs, and fast.

in the end that leaves me wanting kids early to minimize the risk as much as possible. DH knows this, (he is older than me, 29), and agrees, but still vaguely says 'a couple years' when we talk about TTC.

so in the longest way possible my question is- how/when did you (and your DH) know you were ready to start TTC?

rdubs Posted: Dec 01, 2010 07:02 PM

Re: I want to be ready to TTC....(new edit)

I'm 30 and DH is 32 -- we agree that we'll start to TTC next summer even though I'm a little scared of being pregnant (i'll get over it). I'd like at least 2 children (being an only child I want more than 1) and we are both established in our careers so there really isn't a reason to wait. Just seems so soon!

I'll be ready when I'm prepared to stop going out to nice dinners and out on the weekend. At this point, I'm not ready.

wenR Posted: Dec 01, 2010 11:38 PM

Re: I want to be ready to TTC....(new edit)

Don't know if this is a direct answer to your Q. but here goes...I WISH I could be there (TTC) but the reality is I am 31 and not happy with my Job, we are living with FIL and nowhere near getting a house for at least 16 mos. I am looking into a career change but that would mean I would have to commit at least 2yrs to it and I don't want to have babies after 35.
Soo.... If I 'accidentally' get pregnant, it would be a blessing in disguise but practically speaking we should wait.