In 2009 you will work on your marriage

In 2009 what's one thing you'll do differently in regards to improve your relationship with your hubby

Mines is i will pick and choose my fights. Let the 'little' things go... and try to be more patient and put myself in his shoes. I told DH this, and he said ..hey can u just define what exactly the 'little' things are....

we both realized last night that we can be stubborn sometimes so i will stop doing that. I will also let him help me in regards to certain things, this bothers him alot.

We actually talked about this yesterday, our resolutions and things we can do to improve ourselves and also our relationship.

funny you posted this because i just typed up our goals for 2009 (which we came up with together a couple days ago). in regard to our relationship, we are agreeing to reduce the stress level in our house by not worrying so much about the 'little things' (such as errands, bills, etc). as for me, my goal is to just be nicer to my DH i have a tendency to point out everything he does wrong and argue about the most unimportant things.

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Posted by luvabul

In 2009 what's one thing you'll do differently in regards to improve your relationship with your hubby

Mines is i will pick and choose my fights. Let the 'little' things go... and try to be more patient and put myself in his shoes. I told DH this, and he said ..hey can u just define what exactly the 'little' things are....

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ITA with this.... i have actually been trying to do this for the past 3 or 4 months... i have been picking and choosing what to fight with DH on and what to let slide... it has worked A LOT!!! i used to flip out over little things... now i'm just bitting my lip and forgetting stupid stuff that doesnt really matter

Get DH to understand that he has to help me more often than he does. I'm not saying he's lazy because he works a lot, but when he comes home he just wants to relax. Well so do I, but housework never ends and it's not fair to me that I do 90% of it. He's getting better, but I don't want to sound like a nag.

I'm going to make a conscious effort to start doing more wifely duties. Like having food in the fridge DH and my niece just left to do a food shopping but thats something I should be doing since DH works all week and I work two nights a week. Im also going to work on letting DH know thats he's wrong all the time and Im right.

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Posted by Mici n KC

Get DH to understand that he has to help me more often than he does. I'm not saying he's lazy because he works a lot, but when he comes home he just wants to relax. Well so do I, but housework never ends and it's not fair to me that I do 90% of it. He's getting better, but I don't want to sound like a nag.

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This is EXACTLY us. I don't mind doing most of the housework, but there are a few things that I 'assigned' to him when we first moved in. Well, now he only does those things when I ask him, and most of the time I just end up doing it myself! We need to have a serious discussion about household chores. He gets home from work around 8-8:30 every night so the last thing I want to do is ask him to fold laundry or collect garbage... but dammit, I don't want to do it either!

i agree

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Posted by medic6809

We decided to have s e x every night we have off together....I saw that couple that did it for a year and how it changed thier relationship. We'll see...so far so good

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Oh I like this one!! I may have to steal it

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Posted by MikeandJess

apologize more! I have a lot of trouble saying I'm sorry even when I know I'm wrong

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I agree. And to talk more, the key is communication and I am not very good at it.

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i agree

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Haha...Nicole remember when you posted about getting new sexy pj's? Well I got Christmas money and I went and got cute pants and tight fitting tops and so far it's working. SEX is definitely on my list. I also want to try to compromise a little better and not automatically getting defensive when we argue. It's something I have gotten better at but I still need to work on.

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Posted by Shelleybean11

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Posted by medic6809

We decided to have s e x every night we have off together....I saw that couple that did it for a year and how it changed thier relationship. We'll see...so far so good

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Oh I like this one!! I may have to steal it

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This couple wrote a book about it and they were on Oprah and the view.....they had some really great points.......But for me s e x every night we have off is 1/2 the month since I work days and he works nights, but either way he was sooooooooooooo down for this

lol I need to have s e x more also!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by Mrs. V 2008

lol I need to have s e x more also!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Me too