Married before wedding?

09-er crashing -- I remember seeing a topic posted, I think on this board, about brides who got married civilly before they had the ceremony and the reception. I can't find it when I search. Can someone perhaps bump it or FM me the link?

Thanks!

Edited for spelling.

Im not sure about the post but I did get married before my wedding. Almost two years before!

we did this because of the military mostly

I was legally married in May 07 and had a catholic (full mass) wedding on Sept '07

what do you need to know?

I got married in Vegas on April 12, we were with 10 friends, it was a blast!
We had our LI wedding/jewish ceremony on July 26, and a reception in SF last Saturday.

The good part, is it was really nice to have an intimate ceremony without family drama or worrying about looking perfect.

The bad side is people did not take our LI wedding totally seriously, nobody from my mom's side came at all. It's also really hard to get excited about wedding stuff once you are married. It's a odd stretch of time when you are a married bride to be! (I felt like people on the board might think I was a 'fake bride')


All in all....if you have an important reason to do it, it will be fine, most people will understand and be supportive. We had impossible family logistics to deal with, and did not want to slight anyone. Some folks have immigration or health insurance issues. I think it's pretty common in some countries to have civil and religious ceremonies. However if I had it all to do again, I might just want one wedding.