I have alot of friends who are single and alot of the time feel torn between hanging out with DH and them. Like many times DH and I will go out with them but I feel bad because he is the only guy :( He doesnt mind but sometimes makes little remarks.
Or I will go out alone but it usually involves me staying overnight in LI because we only have 1 car and I usually take the train out. soo then I have to stay over their house, etc. Anyway I just feel torn and wish I could see them more but its hard sometimes.
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I'm in the exact same boat. I'm 26 and DH is 33 so ALL of my friends except one are either single or with boyfriends who aren't ready for marriage yet. Sometimes DH comes out with us, but like you said, he's the only guy and I end up feeling bad. Most of the time I will just go out alone and sleep at one of their apts for the night. I do this about once a week. It s*cks that they aren't in the same place as me right now but in a way, I feel like it's healthy to have girls nights too. DH plays pool once a week with the guys too and I feel like a little time apart makes you appreciate each other more. HTH!
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i rarely see my friends because of similar reasons. DH will come and hang out with us but like you said I feel bad.
it doesnt bother me that I see my friends WAY less than before...DH is my best friend and i love just hanging out with him
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Most of mine have b/f's or are engaged...lucky they understand when I cant hang out because now I have other priorities...however I do feel like its easier to hang out with my friends now that I'm married. When we were engaged we weren't living together so every weekend we I was with him. Thats good that your DH comes along, mine wouldnt even think about it lol.
I don't think you should feel obligated to hang out with them everytime the group gets together, just for DH's sake also.
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i havent hung out with anyone since we got back the HM - with the holidays being right after we got home things were really hectic - now im busy at work, i have a million things to do at home, doctors appointments, errands to run, and now we are going away this weekend - and the little free time that i've had i spent with DH.....i am hoping after we get back from Florida things will be less hectic and i can go out like normal again
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Every single one of my friends is married, engaged or in a relationship! So I never have the dilemma of whether to hang out with DH or go out with the girls. Whenever my group of friends gets together, it's all couples. Don't get me wrong, I occasionally go shopping or meet up for lunch with my girlfriends, but for the most part we always hang out in couples. Lucky for me, all of our DH's get along really well!
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so hook them up with some men!!!!!!
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I totallllly know how you feel. I am the only one of my friends who is married or even in a really serious relationship. They always want me to go out but more than 1/2 the time Im just not into it. I'll go to dinners with them here and there or once in a while a club or something. DH never goes out like that b/c his friends dont. I def. go out more than him and feel bad. He doesnt get it.
I have alot of 'girls nights' at my apartment too. THat helps for me to see my friends with out spending a ton and having to go to a bar. Im actually hosting one on Friday. Cheesy games and girl talk with lots of food and wine!
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Posted by Dee0522
Every single one of my friends is married, engaged or in a relationship! So I never have the dilemma of whether to hang out with DH or go out with the girls. Whenever my group of friends gets together, it's all couples. Don't get me wrong, I occasionally go shopping or meet up for lunch with my girlfriends, but for the most part we always hang out in couples. Lucky for me, all of our DH's get along really well!
Ahhh you are lucky! DH's friends in AZ are all married so we go out wtih everyone all at once and its like 6 couples!
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Actually I cannot wait to have a break from girls nights and going out with other people besides my husband! Since he was away for 10 months those 10 months I either had girls nights or would hang out with my best friends whose boyfriends/fiances were home and could go out. I am in need of DH and me time! haha
but I know that will only last a weekend because we like going out with my 2 best friends their fiance and boyfriend are DH's best friends as well so it is easy for us to all go out. Plus I was always the 3rd or 5th wheel when it came to hanging out bec DH wasnt home. Now we are excited to all do things as couples etc.
But I do find it hard to hang out with my old roommates at times bec they are single and always looking for guys etc. and I am not in that stage of my life anymore.
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Posted by Bride908
I totallllly know how you feel. I am the only one of my friends who is married or even in a really serious relationship. They always want me to go out but more than 1/2 the time Im just not into it. I'll go to dinners with them here and there or once in a while a club or something. DH never goes out like that b/c his friends dont. I def. go out more than him and feel bad. He doesnt get it.
I have alot of 'girls nights' at my apartment too. THat helps for me to see my friends with out spending a ton and having to go to a bar. Im actually hosting one on Friday. Cheesy games and girl talk with lots of food and wine!
Aww what does your DH do during girls night? Is he there or does he leave? I guess things would be easier if I lived in LI, than I could meet them for lunch, etc. But different story...I think they get it though.
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I have been with DH since I was 21 so through the years most of my friends have been single...when we were younger DH was often the only guy out now most of my friends have BF's although I still have a bunch of single GF's
For me it has always been important to go out with my Gf's, it makes me appreciate what I have for sure It is hard though to make time for both but we always make girls night and its like NO EXCUSES! So the single girls, married, engaged and those with BF's all HAVE to go I guess were ike a cult !!!
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I totallllly know how you feel. I am the only one of my friends who is married or even in a really serious relationship. They always want me to go out but more than 1/2 the time Im just not into it. I'll go to dinners with them here and there or once in a while a club or something. DH never goes out like that b/c his friends dont. I def. go out more than him and feel bad. He doesnt get it.
I have alot of 'girls nights' at my apartment too. THat helps for me to see my friends with out spending a ton and having to go to a bar. Im actually hosting one on Friday. Cheesy games and girl talk with lots of food and wine!
Aww what does your DH do during girls night? Is he there or does he leave? I guess things would be easier if I lived in LI, than I could meet them for lunch, etc. But different story...I think they get it though.
Well I told him about Friday and he was like greaatttt lol. I told him he can stay or find somewhere to go. He usually will go to a friends or something lol. I dont think he wants to hang out with a bunch of girls. Its hard when your friends are in different situations than you cause your the odd one out. As long as you still make time for them I think they understand.
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Ugh this is such a sore subject for me. I feel like i dont have friends anymore. I mean, i know i do, but everyone including myself is soooo busy. Most of my friends are married and some with kids. The single friends that i did have kind of stopped asking me to go out cause they all live in the city and they go out girls only -so its a big trip for me to make by myself and i really dont like leaving DH on a friday or saturday night- its the only time we have together. its really tough to have a balance. I always wish i had some married/engaged/coupled girlfriends that lived closer cause that would make things easier i think. Plus, with my friends that have kids, they really dont make any plans to go out at all anymore which is understandable. Its not easy.
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one of my friends broke of her wedding so now she's the only one in our 'group' single etc. its hard because i want to spend time with dh but i feel bad for her cuz she has no one else. sometimes i dont know how to tell her that we want to hang out alone.
among my friends...all are with someone (except the one). so if the girls hang out...usually the guys hang out. so it works. on dh's side...we usually hang out all together with a mixed group. if its just the guys and me...its not so bad cuz ive been friends with them from the time i met dh. i just prefer when we hang out with my friends cuz they are more mature
