**Monday QOTD**

Did I ever mention how much I hate Mondays...
But I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend! A

To start our week off - I know mostly everyone had some issues with their IL's while planning their wedding...

So I'm curious to know, Has your relationship with or opinion of your ILs changed since the wedding? Have things become better or worse? If need be, explain

Otherwise..here's to a quick & painless week

My MIL was a royal PITA (as most are during wedding planning). There was one point where she wasnt talking to DH & I and we had no idea why! It turns out that she was giving us the cold shoulder because we werent inviting her brother's 3 daughters (and she was OK with that until she mentioned it to her brother)....Why she never came to us & just asked us to invite them I'll never know.

But since the planning has been over for a few months, things are OK. I love her, don't get me wrong...But there are things that still confuse me about her.

And now with my SIL planning her own wedding, I find it amazing how things (like not inviting those 3 cousins) are perfectly fine for my SIL not to do...while we had issues with it...



Oh well - what are you gonna do about it....

ahhh ready...

oh while DH and I were dating, MIL did not bother me in the slightest! prob because she was never really that concerned with DH's life...i say not concerned not that she didnt care, but just no how my mom was...we had one issue that i saw being a potential problem when we had kids eventually lol
i was dog sitting my brothers dog, and brought the dog to her house and she swore the dog was hungry, but umm i wasnt going to starve the thing, i was going to feed him as soon as i brought him home...she suggested cooking him a hamburger! i said no, my brother doesnt feed him people food, and she did anyways!! im like ummm is this what is going to happen when we have kids, shes not going to care about what i want for my kid ,she is going to do whatever she wants! ugh!!

well when we were engaged she did NOTHING to help with the wedding, and i mean nothing, not just not pay for a dime, which was fine, but she didnt even bother to help my mom with my shower, nothing, but thought it was ok to be involved in things like our food tasting etc....and also give her opinion when it wasnt wanted or needed!!!!!!!!!!! she drove me crazy for a while when we were getting our apt, because she tried to buy all stuff for it, that i didnt like or want, and i told her that and she thought it was hers to decorate!!

since we have been married things are a little better, but she still has to give her negative opinion when it shouldnt be negative!! she had to come to our home inspection on our house and butt in and tell us how small and quaint the place was when ITS NOT!!! nothing will be good enough because DH is her youngest and the only one that lived with her when his parents got divorced! and altho she is not overbearing or up his *** whatsoever! not concerned with anything really, excpet when its time to do something he needs support with!

ok vent over! LOL

I got nothing but problems with ils while planning the wedding. It started with his mother and than became a whole big thing with his gma and aunt and uncle.
Things are ok with his mom now-we went to see her yesterdayfor her bday.(funfun)
His gma aunt n uncle didnt come to the wedding (thats the rest of his fam) his gma didnt send a gift or a card.
mil told dh that he should call his gma shes disappointed in him why is the gma disappointed?! She made her bed and now she has to lay in it! They caused nothing but problems and aggravation during a time thats suppose to be very happy!
eta: they didnt pay for anything in the wedding either

hmmmm well let's see, i got kicked outta FIL house, and we went and got our own house, we are now broke, but thats okay, cause its better to be happy then miserable all the time!

I’m lucky and my IL’s are pretty awesome… they helped us out a LOT with the wedding and if they hadn’t done that there’d be no way we’d be able to be buying a house now! So I have no complaints.

Hmmmm.....how to answer this?

You all know my MIL issues - let's be nice and say things haven't changed since the wedding nor do I expect them to.

On the bright side, I haven't spoken to her directly since the night before my wedding!

My relationship with my IL's is neither horrible or great. They really are just not my type of people. They are extrememly negative. They think my DH is a moron and they always have something to say about anything involving DH's son. Things have not gotten better or worse with them since the wedding except DH doesnt tell them as much as he used to and he stands up for himself more to them.....which is a great thing!

i loved her b4 an nothing is changed..im lucky to have a wonderful mother in law

Nothing has really changed between the in-law's and I. Generally, we've always had a good relationship (with the few exceptions, but those people have bad relationships with EVERYONE), and DH is the same way. Maybe now my parents are that much more gushy over him, but they've always loved him. Now he just can't go 2 seconds without them telling him.