Tommorow is my birthday and DH is all exicted about my present. The only draw back is that whatever it is, its the same thing he got his mother. Her bday was last month and he told her she had to wait till mine for her present. Now MIL and I are totally different people who don't exactly get along. He keeps wanting us to spend more time together but all it does is cause me stress. She makes me tense up everytime she opens her mouth. Shes always asking me if I have a problem with her and its too long a story but yes I do and DH knows about it and has talked to her about it. Heres where I need the advice. I have this overwhelming fear that he got us a day at the spa or something like that we are going to have to deal with one another the whole day. It makes me worry only cause we don't get along that well and have tried to with no hope.
Sorry that was so long but I really need some advice.
EverlovingEv
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ugh,i really hope it's not but as i was reading your post that is what came to mine
so sorry.
do you think Dh would do that to you knowing how you feel about her?
mycrayon1
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I'm not sure I would like to think not. He knows how I feel, but he keeps trying to leave me at her house to get me to do things with her and then wonders why I'm in tears when he comes back.
dplehat
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Even if it is a day at the spa, you should be able to request different rooms for the massage. If they do a mani or pedi you can just talk to the peron doing it. You don't have to converse with your mil at all if you don't want to. In fact the spa is supposed to be a nice QUIET place so you will be free to shush her.
Joanna n Jeff
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worse case senerio if he is trying to get you guys together and enjoy a day together usually when you do those 'day at spa' you barely see the other person because they take you in seperate rooms for massage and facial etc.....so if it is i would try to make the best of it and you never know maybe you will really enjoy spending the day with her and if not you will def enjoy day at the spa.....
EverlovingEv
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i agree with the girls above. you can also fall asleep
portjeffbride
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or you can look at it another way.... maybe a spa date would actually finally break some tensions, so in the future, you'll be less
there was a certain day where all of the sudden my FMIL interactions went from to / If something did improve permanently, that would be a great present indeed...
try to think positive, and make the best of it......
billandme
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Posted by Joanna n Jeff
worse case senerio if he is trying to get you guys together and enjoy a day together usually when you do those 'day at spa' you barely see the other person because they take you in seperate rooms for massage and facial etc.....so if it is i would try to make the best of it and you never know maybe you will really enjoy spending the day with her and if not you will def enjoy day at the spa.....
I agree.......either way, you'll have a good day....just depends on how you look at it And if he did get this as a present for you guys, try not to be too angry with him, even though he knows how you feel. He just wants his mom and yourself to get along and maybe wipe away some of the tension that you may have with one another.........I'm sure, if that is what he got you guys, he did it with best intentions........
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Posted by billandme
Posted by Joanna n Jeff
worse case senerio if he is trying to get you guys together and enjoy a day together usually when you do those 'day at spa' you barely see the other person because they take you in seperate rooms for massage and facial etc.....so if it is i would try to make the best of it and you never know maybe you will really enjoy spending the day with her and if not you will def enjoy day at the spa.....
I agree.......either way, you'll have a good day....just depends on how you look at it And if he did get this as a present for you guys, try not to be too angry with him, even though he knows how you feel. He just wants his mom and yourself to get along and maybe wipe away some of the tension that you may have with one another.........I'm sure, if that is what he got you guys, he did it with best intentions........
I agree-if this is the gift then just do the zone and nap...thats what I would do!
