Need advice...

Ever since I created my FB page in Sept I have gotten several friend requests from a girl I went to HS with. & every time I have clicked ignore. Today I get another request from her. Now, mind you - when we went to HS together we were friendly - but we never hung out or did stuff together - ever. I know this sounds really biotchy of me - but I feel like if we werent really 'friends' in HS - why would I want to start now?

Now my mom & DH on the other hand is like - 'well if you make the connection - she can be another source of networking - maybe she knows someone who can help you get a job'...yeah ok...maybe...

I just feel like I really dont want someone who I really wasnt 'close' with in HS - knowing & seeing all the personal details of my life now.

Am I being a total biotch about this? Or am I right in wanting to click ignore again? What would you do??

I feel like is it a big deal if you do friend her??? I know for me I am very private about who sees my profile & pictures. Which is why i have everything blocked unless you are my friend. So if you are like me then i understand but if you are not, then ask yourself if its that big of a deal.

Don't worry, I'm the same as you.

IMO, if we were never friends or spoke much in HS why now??

I feel like you have to be selective of who you let see your facebook page. Thats JMO though..

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Posted by Cacarina

If you have no bad blood with this girl, and just simply weren't good friends...I don't see what the big deal is in friending her. You can friend her and limit the items on your profile that she can see.

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ITA

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Posted by MirabellaNYC

Don't worry, I'm the same as you.

IMO, if we were never friends or spoke much in HS why now??

I feel like you have to be selective of who you let see your facebook page. Thats JMO though..

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ITA. I hate people who friend request you just to be nosey and see your pictures!

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Posted by MrsDtoBe09

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Posted by MirabellaNYC

Don't worry, I'm the same as you.

IMO, if we were never friends or spoke much in HS why now??

I feel like you have to be selective of who you let see your facebook page. Thats JMO though..

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ITA. I hate people who friend request you just to be nosey and see your pictures!

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I do that!!

I have no idea how to create a limited profile & change all those settings - seems like a lot of work for someone I was more of an 'acquaintance' with than an actual 'friend'....

I dont know...I just feel like she wants to be nosey & see my wedding pics. She befriended one of my very good friends who was also one of my BM's in my wedding party - so I know she can see a few wedding pics that I tagged my friend in - that's no big deal - but to be honest I really dont want someone poking around in the rest of my stuff that I havent even spoken to since I graduated in 1989 - I mean cmon it's been 20 YEARS!

I feel like Im being so biotchy & mean - but hey Im entitled to my privacy if I so choose, right?

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Posted by Tomlaur0808

I have no idea how to create a limited profile & change all those settings - seems like a lot of work for someone I was more of an 'acquaintance' with than an actual 'friend'....

I dont know...I just feel like she wants to be nosey & see my wedding pics. She befriended one of my very good friends who was also one of my BM's in my wedding party - so I know she can see a few wedding pics that I tagged my friend in - that's no big deal - but to be honest I really dont want someone poking around in the rest of my stuff that I havent even spoken to since I graduated in 1989 - I mean cmon it's been 20 YEARS!

I feel like Im being so biotchy & mean - but hey Im entitled to my privacy if I so choose, right?

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If you feel that strongly about it then dont accept her.

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Posted by Tomlaur0808

I have no idea how to create a limited profile & change all those settings - seems like a lot of work for someone I was more of an 'acquaintance' with than an actual 'friend'....

I dont know...I just feel like she wants to be nosey & see my wedding pics. She befriended one of my very good friends who was also one of my BM's in my wedding party - so I know she can see a few wedding pics that I tagged my friend in - that's no big deal - but to be honest I really dont want someone poking around in the rest of my stuff that I havent even spoken to since I graduated in 1989 - I mean cmon it's been 20 YEARS!

I feel like Im being so biotchy & mean - but hey Im entitled to my privacy if I so choose, right?

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Laurie if you feel ike that dont worry just ignore it. You're not being biotchy u ar edoing what you feel comfortable with. Its all good

Well considering your last post - I would take back my rec from before and just say tyou are prob right to just forget it - I mean what's really the point in connecting with someone if you don't plan to have any type of relationship - you know? esp as it's been so long. .

hmm this is tough...

if u think she will be the type to be like omg lets catch up get coffee etc and u really dont want to do that then i say keep hitting ignore

if u dont mind the occasional chat then i say accept..just to get her off ur back

u never know maybe she has something important to say to message u so many times

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Posted by GT143EA

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Posted by MrsDtoBe09

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Posted by MirabellaNYC

Don't worry, I'm the same as you.

IMO, if we were never friends or spoke much in HS why now??

I feel like you have to be selective of who you let see your facebook page. Thats JMO though..

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ITA. I hate people who friend request you just to be nosey and see your pictures!

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I do that!!

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I'm with you Gail!

But honestly, if you feel that strongly then just block her. You can do that too, instead of continually denying her friend requests.

IMO, its FB... not that serious... If I recognize someone I know, from HS, the neighborhood, etc, and they request me, I just add them... I think its just stressing you out more to keep ignoring her than it is to just let her be 'friends' with you

ETA: I would totally accept her just so she COULD see your wedding pics and how hot your hubby is