Need Help with bridal shower ideas

Im throwing a bridal shower for my uncles fiance- she didnt register and shes not going to . It is only going to be around 15 women and I wanted to know what in the world do I get her or tell guests to get her- she likes candles so I was thinking maybe a canlde theme? I dont know, She is 40, they allready have a house, she basically has everything and she is VERY simple. any ideas????? thanks!!!

oh I allready asked my uncle- hes no help-lol! Men!

Well the fact that she didn't register shows she dosen't want or need all that stuff.

Is she going on a HM?? How about asking everyone to donate whatever they would spend on the gift twords the HM?

Or everyone pitch in to get her 1 big thing she needs for the house or GC's to home depot.

I think they would really appreciate something like that!

Thanks. See, the real reason she didnt register is because she comes from a poor family and my uncle said she is not use to getting gifts and her family doesnt know anyting about this stuff- as she put it when I asked her if her sisters were throwing her a shower- she said no they are ghetto!!! I was like okay. So see I want to throw her a shower , a small one, and my uncle said she is so simple she doesnt need or want anything. Home Depot-? eh they just bought a new house and have done so much to it allready- I kinda wanted this to be more personal for her- but that wouldnt make me break the bank either. ugh this is sooooo hard!!!!!

Someone posted the other day on LIF a really cute gift idea.. what about a certificate for a 2 night stay at a nice B&B upstate? ( or someplace they can drive to)

Maybe have a theme party to make it easier for everyone else??
Like everyone bring an item for the kitchen that starts with the letter ( you tell them what letter)

Or a 'time of the day shower' everyone gets a different time and their gift has to go along with that time..

for example. Whoever gets 8am can buy an alarm clock or coffe maker, or set of coffe mugs, etc.

8pm person can make a basket of popcorn bowls and GC to blockbuster

Its probably nothing they have ever seen/done before so when you explain it to them and tell them what time they get you can basically hint at what they should buy. Esp. if they arent creative they will take what you mention and run with it.
Plus they won't want to be the only ones there that didn't follow along and ruin the whole thing.

Wow, thank you soo much!!

JMO, but if the bride didnt register b/c she doesnt give gifts for other people, its not really fair to expect her guests to bring gifts for her.

I probably wouldnt instruct the guests what to buy at all. If they want to bring something they can, if not I wouldnt worry about it.

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Posted by Sonicstef

JMO, but if the bride didn't register b/c she doesnt give gifts for other people, its not really fair to expect her guests to bring gifts for her.

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Where did you read that? If you mean the ' she's not used to getting gifts'

I think she meant the bride 2 be is not used to receiving gifts... But I could be wrong

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Posted by Sonicstef

JMO, but if the bride didnt register b/c she doesnt give gifts for other people, its not really fair to expect her guests to bring gifts for her.

I probably wouldnt instruct the guests what to buy at all. If they want to bring something they can, if not I wouldnt worry about it.

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If I read the post correctly, she isn't used to GETTING gifts not that she doesn't GIVE them.

I love the idea of a 'Time of Day' shower! I gave a alphabet shower once and it was a huge success, but obviously, you need more people for that.

I didnt read that directly but Im assuming that if she is not used to receiving them, she probably doesnt give them either. Otherwise, she would expect people to buy her stuff for her shower just like she has done for her friends at their showers.

I could be wrong. Im just making that assumption based on what was said.

If her guests have received gifts from her, they should know to get her something as well. I dont think its necessary to tell them WHAT to get.

Personally I wouldnt want to be instructed on what to give. Its the gift givers option to decide what to bring, you know?

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Posted by Sonicstef

I didnt read that directly but Im assuming that if she is not used to receiving them, she probably doesnt give them either. Otherwise, she would expect people to buy her stuff for her shower just like she has done for her friends at their showers.

I could be wrong. Im just making that assumption based on what was said.

If her guests have received gifts from her, they should know to get her something as well. I dont think its necessary to tell them WHAT to get.

Personally I wouldnt want to be instructed on what to give. Its the gift givers option to decide what to bring, you know?

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Hi, sorry I wasnt clear, I know I wrote it fast. She comes from a poor family where they do not exchange gifts period- birthdays/holidays, now she is with our family who goes overboard and she is soo overwhelmed and happy to share, she does give gifts for the holidays, we do it as couples. She has since had a much better life living and being engaged to my uncle. She just doesnt know any better with some things and her friends and familyNEVER had a shower that at mine she couldnt believe that we do this stuff. She is 1 of 11 from the progects, a lovely woman who went to college but couldnt finish due to taking care of the family- met my uncle through her sister who also works for the MTA, and the rest is history. She is great! and I want to do this for her, she deserves it and her heart is in the right place and she is really good to my uncle ( we are 4 yrs apart my uncle and I)
Now I asked her if she registered, and she said no- I asked why- her excuse was oh I dont need anyting- but that Norma- she is too nice- what she really meant ( and confirmed with my uncle) is that she didnt register because she knew her sisters or friends were not going to give her a shower- ( no $$) she asked me who does it- I said well like at mine remember you chipped in for a gift and then mom got the restaurant, she then said I dont have a mom and my sisters are ghetto- my uncle said they dont know about these things- you see we dont realize that there are people right here around us that cant afford or know any better and I realized just how lucky I am.
So I want to do a shower for her. but the trick is since she didnt register and its going to be a surprise , I thought it would help the 12 women to give them an idea or theme of what to get since I know whats its like to rack your brain out to get a gift. Im still thinking but there are some great ideas on here!! thanks for posting!! and if you have more ideas send them over- i have till next may.