Its my sister in law’s birthday today…we get along fine, were not the best of friends, but there is a level of distance, she just has a different personality than mine, which I feel clashes with mine. Anyways so its her birthday today…shes never gotten me anything for my birthday, which is fine I guess, sometimes she doesn’t even say “happy birthday” because she may “forget” or w/e…I’m going to see her today because we were supposed to have dinner with the inlaws (not a birthday party or anything) and shes going to be there. Im wondering if I should just say happy birthday and leave it at that also, or get her a small gift? I don’t think im being cheap or inconsiderate, but im just a little puzzled because in the past I have gotten her very nice gifts (tiffanys, new colognes etc)…but I guess I just feel like im sick of always making an effort, and people always forget when my day comes along…like my anniversary, bday or other holidays. I just need some advice on what would you do in a situation like this.
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are you the type to normally wish someone a happy birthday, and/or give a gift?
If so, I say CONTINUE to be that person.
Don't stoop to her level...
luvabul
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yes because i love my birthday and other people's birthdays
but i just now feel like an idiot doing it everytime..i do want to, but at the same time i dont.
MJDoc12
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i say give her a card and maybe something small or a GC someplace. might as well say you made the effort is nothing else
futuremrsmultari
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I would give a simple card and a gift card.....
that would be my way of being nice but only showing minimal interest and enthusiasm....
mariaobride
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Buy her a card and maybe cookies or flowers.
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Buy her a card and maybe cookies or flowers.
i think this is a great idea
luvabul
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Buy her a card and maybe cookies or flowers.
shes allergic to flowers, and on too much of a diet to eat cookies
Snick n Nick
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You could do a card and some bath and body stuff or something like that....or the body shop, you know...
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Buy her a card and maybe cookies or flowers.
shes allergic to flowers, and on too much of a diet to eat cookies
Get her the cookies then j/k
That happened on my b-day last year when I was dieting!
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i agree about giving a card or something small to show you care or that you remembered. youre doing something nice regardless of what she does or what you get back.
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I can understand where you are coming from. I don't think it's bad if you only get her a card. I have friends who I exchange gifts with and friends I don't.....Not saying that you give a gift cause you want a gift in return, but it stinks to be the only one making an effort there...I personally wouldn't give a gift cause I am stubborn like that..lol...but giving a gift makes you happy then go for it, if it's going to make you angry if she doesn't do it in return yet again then I'd let it go....
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My friends and I all exchange cards for birthdays and we usually include a bunch of scratch offs... that's our 'thing'. I love it! It's cheap, fun, and there's a possibility of winning some money!
