I am friendly with my DH's friend's ex-wife, whose divorce was only finalized in July or August. Well, DH's friend is getting remarried, but I have not spoken with her because I don't know what to say. I do want to contact her to let her know that I am thinking about her, but I don't know how to do it. I don't know how she is handling it and I don't want to make things worse by calling. Should I send her a card? If so, what do I say?
Leelee
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I would definitely send her a card--perhaps one of those 'thinking of you' cards. You can always say you've been thinking of her a lot lately, things are a little hectic, etc. but you'd love to get together and catch up. It's better to contact her than let the silence keep going... Best of luck with this! I'm sure everything will be fine!
Suzanne
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I would DEFINATLY send her a card!! maybe one of those blue mountain cards!! (they always say exactly what i am thinking!!) or maybe send her flowers and a short note..
shamma
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Suzanne, don't sell your company to Mary She probably wants to talk to you too, but might be afraid to make the first move. Give her a call, tell her she has been on your mind. Hope all goes well
HeatherandNick
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if you and she are friends, I say call her. She may just need a friend right now
a card is always lovely to get...flowers are even better...
with a little note saying thinking of you...or a 'gift certificate' for an afternoon to the movies and lunch??
Valenia
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I am also of the call, don't send a card camp. A card could be interpreted as pity, which I don't think is appropriate here. She is probably feeling lonely enough from the divorce, the last thing she needs is a friend afraid to talk to her. I think you call her and just say how the heck are you! Don't assume she is devastated, she may not be.
Mary
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This is too freaky, she called me this afternoon. She sounds well, which I am glad about. She's better off without him anyway.
Margaret
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I agree with Valenia. Unless you know how she feels, do not send a card b/c she may be handling better than you think. Call her.
Leelee
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Excellent! Case closed! I'm glad everything turned out well!
michele31
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I think just knowing that you care is important. I would NOT time the card with the X-husband's wedding though. Just let her know that you miss the friendship and hope she is doing well.
