Need some advice!!!
Ok let me give you guys some history....we have a close group of friends and we celebrate birthdays by taking them out to dinner and whatever they want to do after like a movie, bowling, etc...we have been doing this for yrs and sometimes we cant all make it to the event but we all try to accommodate our schedules...well in March it was two of our friends bdays and we wanted to setup a date that worked out for everyone...well they both enjoy strip clubs and they usually dont go since one of my friends fiances hates him going, dont ask me why...anyway I ask my MOH a couple of weeks prior if she was busy that weekend that we were planning and she told me she was busy and the other time it wouldnt work since my friends fiance would be here and then we couldnt go to the club so we end up celebrating the bday without her and my friends fiance....the next week I mention it to my MOH that we had gone and she got PISSED!!! I said to her first you told me you were busy and second you dont like strip clubs ( we had gone before and she really hated it)...I guess she didnt like my response and she told me she could have possibly rearranged things to go maybe and I shouldnt tell her that she doesnt like strip clubs...I got pissed back....she is the type of girl who we all have to watch what we say cause she gets pissed and holds grudges for YEARS!!! We have not spoken since then...why do I have to apologize for planning something on a day that she said she was busy...I am not a mind reader but when someone says she is busy I assume that your busy.
My DH says I am overreacting and that it should be done and move on. I am usually the one to give in and apologize but this one I refuse to since she wants to be a brat and ignore me I can do the same thing...we are all celebrating our bdays next saturday and she will prob be there so I dont want it to be uncomfortable. It already was at my friends party since she didnt speak to me but all our mutual friends just spoke to me and she had to hang out with the family.
BTW - my friend and his fiance (my bm and DH's bm) are mad at her as well cause she said something to the fact that she 'wasted' her time in college just hanging out with us and not going out more. I think thats wrong to say...we really dont hang out with her anymore since she moved to NJ and has a new group of friends that she always hangs out with...I think we have grown apart.
Am I being silly??? Should I just s*uk it up and 'apologize'?
TIA
My DH says I am overreacting and that it should be done and move on. I am usually the one to give in and apologize but this one I refuse to since she wants to be a brat and ignore me I can do the same thing...we are all celebrating our bdays next saturday and she will prob be there so I dont want it to be uncomfortable. It already was at my friends party since she didnt speak to me but all our mutual friends just spoke to me and she had to hang out with the family.
BTW - my friend and his fiance (my bm and DH's bm) are mad at her as well cause she said something to the fact that she 'wasted' her time in college just hanging out with us and not going out more. I think thats wrong to say...we really dont hang out with her anymore since she moved to NJ and has a new group of friends that she always hangs out with...I think we have grown apart.
Am I being silly??? Should I just s*uk it up and 'apologize'?
TIA
